23 years old and never been kissed

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I don't think it's that big of a deal. I'm 23 and am in the same situation. You're not alone in your dilemma. I would give you advice, but you probably shouldn't take it from me!

How many times is this exact same question going to be asked on here???

It's probably because you like ANIME that guys won't touch you. Just stop watching it, and maybe the world will open to you :)

WarLord, I knew that this question had been put to the site before, hence why I mentioned it in my story. This is something that has troubled me for quite some time now, so maybe you should just NOT reply or post any comments if you don't like the story, because your comment didn't help at all.

Keep up the good work your advice is superb you are an asset to IIN thank you

remember that if they're chasing you, they're in ur control.
another thing that may help is to realise that no matter how nervus u r, it is more than likely the guy is 10x more; girls hav absolutely no reason to be nervous compared to guys, trust me!

It probably isn't too uncommon. I'm 22 and am largely in the same position. Don't think that it'll always be that way though. While most of the people our age are either married or going to be married soon, here's the sad truth: Within five years a lot of them will be available again. It is my understanding that until your 30s, relationships are really rocky anyway--people don't know what they're really after. You'll be better off.

I have this problem too and I'm 22. Usually I think the guy wont be what i'm looking for because they are either too young, too old, not friendly enough, married, in a relationship, or they wouldn't be interested in me because I have a kid. I do however get hit on a lot, but not by who I want, I hate dating, and crap. I'm so much happier without the drama, but I do want a relationship so I don't really know what to do or what to tell you. Maybe it will work out for us one of these days.

you are probably a lesbian. point blank.

while it may not be "normal", it certainly isn't something to be ashamed of. there are definitely some reasons though. (please understand that this is not necessarily right, it's just how most men are.)
1. do you take care of yourself (hygiene)?
2. do you have some sort of personality trait that may turn men away? (read the book "Personality Plus" by Florence Littauer.)
3. you say you are good at talking with guys, but what do you talk about? if you talk about your problems then you're not good at talking with guys. while we may be compassionate at times, overall we really are not interested in hearing someone's problems unless she will let us help her fix them and we usually see the solutions as being simple.

i hope this helps

just because you're a lesbo doesn't mean that every woman who doesn't have a man inside her is

Don't be ashamed. There's millions like you.

Just remember to tell the first one the reason why you've just bled all over his back seat isn't because you just got your period.

That's a crude thing to say.
I'm 20 and I haven't had a boyfriend or had sex and whatever I have done with guys has been under the influence of alcohol and drugs.
I have also slept with a girl...
Just cos u havent kissed a guy doesnt make u gay! People can be stupid...
I know i'm this way cos im self conscious about my body being touched and i dont trust anyone. If you look within you will probably find your answers

WELL IT IS KIND OF UNUSUAL..BUT DINT RAZZ YOURSELF ABOUT IT,THOUGH,

Well...if you're good looking, then its definately not normal...If you're not good looking, than it is normal. Not trying ot be mean but I had some UGLY friends like me but I wouldn't kiss them unless they had a benjamins hanging out their zippers.

Normal. Maybe you're just not ready or something.. & it made you anxious.. Goodluck. ;)

When the rigth one comes along you probably won't be as nervous as your conversation will probably flow and maybe you thinking about what you haven't done like kissing and a proper relationship is probably what makes you shy and nervous because you don't kno what to expect because you have no experiance in the situation. if you just let nature do its job and treat the date like a regular person or a friend then you might just go somewhere

Hey it isn't a big deal.. I know a lot of other girls who are in the same situation (myself included) .. I'll tell you what I've been told.. Don't stress, go out, enjoy yourself and when it's meant to happen, it'll happen.

Some people have suggested the lesbian thing.. POINTBLANK WRONG...

I'm a 20 year old male, I've only had one girlfriend for a short amount of time, (right when i turned 19) it only lasted 2-3 months. So I can kinda relate to you here, every girl I meet that I'm interested is either taken or too old for me. I guess you and I both are just going to have to look past everyones flaws and accept them, however hard that may be.

Girl just be ur self and be wild... Mess with the guys dont shy away iight

This seems to be more common for girls than I thought.

In my old neighborhood, definition of "virgin" was an ugly third grader!

my friend is 19 and necer been kissed. been asked out by a couple of guys but never been out with anyone either!

you should just try to view the guys as mates and if you get on well with guys thats great. try not to put yourself under pressure by thinking they're expecting something to happen. then you night relax more and jus be yourself and build a good friendship. if they decide they like you enough to ask you out its a nice surprise, and you wont come across abit desperate or lacking confidence.

hey hey hey, bashing anime has no place on here, and wouldnt matter anywyas, you would just have to find someone who also likes it, or who doesnt care wether you do or not.

Hey! I love Naruto and my mom kisses me every night before bed.... J/k she hates me but if you wanna kiss someone I'm down with it 5 seconds max no tongue if your ugly you buy the plane ticket and paper bag(unless your sexy)

Just think of this way. You may be 23 but you're not going to get any younger! What are you waiting for?! Just go for anyone, who cares, young old ugly, laugh it off, have a good time, move on find someone else and then keep going until your 30. Sex is up for grabs take it! GO WILD! GET MESSY! oh and use protection haha

Yes!

Like that Nike commercial says - JUST DO IT!

It's not that odd if you're shy.
If someone is coming after you it has to mean there's something that attracts them though.
You're being VERY hard on yourself.
It is hard to just go for it but just try. It may all blow up in your face but at least you took the plunge.

YOU'RE 23 AND YOU'VE NEVER BEEN KISSED?
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Jeez woman, there are a lot of other worse things that could have happened. At least you're not 23 and raising two girls (named Chastity and Cherish) in a trailer park with Joe Bob Ray.

There are thousands upon thousands of women (in america alone) who are near the same age as you who haven't kissed a guy. So you're perfectly normal, don't worry about that.

Personally, I think you're making a bigger deal of the kiss than you should be. Your love life should be fun and spontaneous, not something planned out. Although you should always be watching out for potential disease carriers >

don't go gay

there are a lot of insensitive idiots on this site.
your stupid comments just people feel worse.
i'll admit something embaressing even thoughi might get bashed.
i'm 31 and have never had a bf either. only recently have i been kissed, and those few times were brief and no tongue. only once this guy who i was friendly with and who liked me, stuck his tongue in my mouth and i didn't like it at all. but that was probably cause i wasn't prepared and it wass sudden. also, i wasn't really attracted to him and felt uncomfortable and awkward whenever he would hug or kiss me.
on the other hand, this other guy i had just met kissed me while we were laying on a blanket in a park and he did use his tongue for only like 3 seconds but it was hot!! i really liked it....
ooops sorry for rambling, i kinda got carried away.

Although most people have had their first kiss by 23, you're definitely not abnormal because you haven't...everyone does things at their own pace. Hey, I was the other extreme, by that I mean doing everything way too young. Anyway, you just need to try to be confident and find places where you can meet some nice people...Starbucks? Bookstore? But DON'T WORRY, IT WILL HAPPEN!!!!

Donīt worry it will come when you donīt expect.
I am 24 years old and I have never been kissed and never had boyfriend either. You are not the only one in this world. My case:
People say I am an atractive and beautiful woman. They wonder all the time how is possible that I have no boyfriend. A good question. I donīt know the answer. Picky? No, I am not. I just always start to like guys who are already in a relationship or married. That sucks. So what now??? I donīt know. I have to let it be and donīt think about that all the time because I will get crazy. It will come, I am sure! Good luck girl!