Strap on Fantasies
Okay, I'm a straight guy and have no feelings of sexual attraction to other guys (I don't find the male physique at all appealing, and don't feel I could fall for a guy like I could a girl)... but I have a fantasy of having a girlfriend use a strap on to take me from behind.
Is this normal? Comments welcome, unless they're derogatory... Preferably either other guys who feel the same way or girls who wish to share a female perspective on this.
Incidentally, I'm 22 so I'm perfectly old enough to make my own decisions... I'm mostly concerned about how any girlfriend I might be with would react.
Can't you guys read?
Your fantasy is common enough to have its own name: pegging. There are definitely women who are into it. I can't tell you how to spot them, but if you're with someone you can trust you should be able to tell her your fantasies. If she's open minded the idea might intrigue her. If she'll only get busy in missionary position while partially clothed and with all the lights off you might want to keep your secrets, though.
Is it "normal"? I don't think that matters. We're talking about consenting adult behavior that shouldn't result in permanent damage, so go for it! Don't worry about what the neighbors would think...I guarantee you you've got at least one or two sets of neighbors with some funky sex toys in the back of their own closets.
As for the actual act, I've always heard this advice: "Start small and use lube...LOTS of lube."
It's personal preference. If you want it, it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
I'm a lady, & I love pegging my straight boyfriend.
Yeah it hurt in the beginning but as long as she's gentle there should be no problems. Use plenty of lube tho.
Good luck... ;)
Liking anal doesn't make you gay or bi; some gay and bisexual males care nothing for anal sex, wheras some straight couples love it.
So, it's just another spot to get some good feeling out of.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gentlestraponlove/
http://www.take-it-like-a-man.com/
Guys get a lot of pleasure out of anal because it massages the prostate. Basically, like a male G-spot. There's nothing wrong or gay about having an interest in it. Hopefully you'll find a chick openminded or experimental enough to take you up on that.
P.S. Ever wanna know why they call it a "strapon"? Spell it backwards. :D
You can read stories about our strapon family sex - I'm not guy and we are very happy family :)
my girlfriend has done it to me, she bended so she could suck me at the same time
it kind of hurt at first but felt good after
I was 19 when I did it, did NOT think it was my thing but after about 2 minutes it's NICE.
Now, some women buy into the myth, too, so if you have this need, find yourself a woman who likes the idea. My past girlfriends included two women who brought it up first--they really wanted to finger my ass. It became a regular part of our lovemaking. I had other girlfriends who I knew would never understand; in one case I told a woman I should have never told, and she got all uptight about it. My wife, who is a wonderful lover, had to be dissuaded of the myth. But very soon she really got into it--it excites her to finger and even lick my bottom.
The penetration itself feels good, because the anus is very sensitive. Also, your prostate gland, which produces part of your semen, is about two inches inside the anus, on the side toward your belly. It feels great to have the prostate stimulated--it can make orgasms extra intense. Also, it can be psychologically gratifying in a powerful way to let a woman inside you, physically. It turns things around, making the woman the penetrator and the man the penetrated, which can be really, really HOT.
If being penetrated hurts, you (or your partner) are doing it wrong. First, use LOTS of lubricant. The best is KY Jelly, because gel is better than thin lubricant at reducing friction. Have her take it slow, building up to full penetration and fast in-and-out motion. Fingering is the most intimate act, along with analingus (anus licking). If you're both really into it, you might move on to butt plugs, dildos, and even strap-on dildos.
So, find that special woman who will love your butt! Here are some articles to read on the subject:
Analingus and Anal Fingering - http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_analplay.shtml
Sacred Spot Massage -
http://www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm
Prostate Stimulation: The Whys and Hows -
http://www.vibereview.com/browse/page/Prostate Stimulation: The Whys and Hows
The Prostate Gland -
http://www.good-sex-positions.com/prostate.html
A Fun Story called "Adventures with my Angel" -
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=27834
Right on Cyndiana