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Attracted to Friends Wife
I have been good friends with this guy for about 4+ years now. Through hanging out with him I started hanging out with his wife. The wife and I have very similar interests, we like the same music, same movies, etc. Her husband on the other hand doesn't seem to share any of her interests. Recently she and I have started "joking" about having sexual encounters, and she even admitted to having a dream about me and her and a hotel room all to ourselves...I'll leave it at that.

We have spent a few saturdays just laying on the couch together with her wrapped in my arms watching TV, while her husband if out all day doing one of the numerous activites that doesn't interest her at all.

At first our relationship was just a friendship, and I was not attracted to her at all. Though recently I find myself very attracted to her, and find myself wanting to take her up on her offer to "make a move if you want me". However, I also find myself not wanting to hurt my relationship with both her and her husband.

So is it normal to be attracted to a friend, especially if the person is the spouse of another friend?
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Anonymous
2006-05-08 13:41:57
Normal...
It's normal, but you shouldn't f*ck her unless she has a divorce or her husband actually grants you permission. My suggestion is to bring that up with her and ask her what she thinks about it, whether or not she's likely to get a divorce. If you don't do that and end up banging her, well, it's likely to end in disaster. Your friend will hate you and you'll probably never see either of them again.
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Hal_Jordan (1915)
2006-05-08 18:19:42
Ask if you and her husband can double-team her.
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Anonymous
2006-05-09 00:26:17
If she respects you as a person she won't ask you to put yourself in danger by having an illicit affair. It sounds like she needs to make a choice.

It can't go on the way it is. If you keep seeing her like you are you will be tempted to make that move at some point. If she rejects you then there is no going back. But if she accepts there is no going forward until she unties herself from that marriage. So don't put yourself at risk of being involved with a woman who is going nowhere. Your relationship with both of them is actually very fragile right now.

You on the other hand are a free agent, at least based on what you've said. You could spend the time that you would spend with her chatting instead with available women. Maybe you should consider doing that.
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Anonymous
2006-05-09 01:29:21
It is normal, but understand if yor friend finds out about this, even if you don't do anything buy cuddle with her on the couch, it'll be over between you two. You're putting your friendship with this guy in a very dangerous position right now, be careful.
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Anonymous
2006-05-09 12:35:10
don't be such a pussy- do it already, but if you feel that their marriage is going nowhere, ignore a condom, when she gets pregnant, it is a good icebreaker for the "honey, i been f***ing your best friend" chat, which is very entertaining when filmed
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Anonymous
2006-07-14 06:57:43
Same here
I am attracted to my friends wife she is a beautiful little redhead and if I got the chance I would bang the shit out of her. If he was keeping her happy she wouldnt be looking at you. One thing to think about a nice one night stand is OK but as for a relationship long term no way. If shes prepared to cheat on him how do you know she wont do it to you. She has the makings of a slut treat her like one
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jokelley1266 (2798)
2006-07-18 00:36:31
Friends
Yes I have been attracted to a friends wife and had much the same things in common and great conversations. But you have to look at it this way its your morals that are on the line can you do this to another guys wife and if you were married would you want it done to you. My best advice is the rule I live by if you don't put yourself in the postion nothing can happen only go over when your friend is home its inapproiate to be there when he is not there not matter if you are friends with her or not. Private places leed to inappropiate behaviors. There are plenty of women out there they out number us leave your friends wife alone and find one of your own you will be able to look yourself in the mirror alot easier. Good luck I know its a hard decision I hope you won't make the one you will regret.
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jokelley1266 (2798)
2006-07-18 00:37:07
Friends
Yes I have been attracted to a friends wife and had much the same things in common and great conversations. But you have to look at it this way its your morals that are on the line can you do this to another guys wife and if you were married would you want it done to you. My best advice is the rule I live by if you don't put yourself in the postion nothing can happen only go over when your friend is home its inapproiate to be there when he is not there not matter if you are friends with her or not. Private places leed to inappropiate behaviors. There are plenty of women out there they out number us leave your friends wife alone and find one of your own you will be able to look yourself in the mirror alot easier. Good luck I know its a hard decision I hope you won't make the one you will regret.
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