25-year-old virgin lips

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you are weird or you are a lesbian, no offense.

Thanks I'm going to go with weird.

Maybe your nervous, or just not 'ready'
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you are a lesbian. watch the l word and see if you like it.

you're probably just nervous, just jump in there and try it :) you say guys have tried it on before, next time just brace yourself and go for it.

when you meet someone you like enouph, dont worry. you will go for them.

I think that you're thinking about it very much,and you've made a huge deal out of it in your head.Relax,it's just a kiss.Give it to a guy that you like and he likes you back.You hesitate to do it because you think it's gonna be obvious that you lack of experience but it's not true.we all know how to do it in a way,it's genetic;)

I agree with curious

i think your seeing kissing as a big deal.
just get on with it girl!
even if it's not with the right guy. think of it as practice! =)

If you're with the right guy, he won't care if you screw up, so just don't worry.

Besides, kissing is easy. @.@

I think that's great, actually.

It shows that you follow your heart. You know who's right for you and you aren't going to settle for less. You may not realize it, but you know what you want and by God you're going to have it. CJust be patient and one day that right guy will come along and you'll be glad you waited.

do you feel indifferent to not having kissed anybody? Do you feel relatively asexual. Or perhaps you feel more comfort and safety in fantasies and masturbation? Sensitive questions.... are you generally awkward in social situations? Do you find it difficult getting close to people, and being open in general, and expressing yourself, or do you prefer your own company and a sense of independence?
You have probably just never felt comfortable with someone yet as you have built it up in your head, and the longer you have spent thinking about it, the bigger deal it has become and therefore the more awkward or unnatural it may feel now?
But if you generally feel indifferent to kissing and/or sex, perhaps even grossed out by it, there may be deeper psychological issues?

yes people just don't want to say the truth because your a nice girl but really your just ugly no worries though I'm sure you'll find some one.

When the right guy is there, he'll shove you up against a wall and smother you with his lips. So don't worry

Lord I hope so!
Thanks for the feedback everyone. Even the ones mentioning the obscure solutions and theories. except for the one who thinks I'm ugly. Im actually pretty hot, I was just trying to be modest. :)

Just let a guy KISS you!
don't dodge !

I am a 21yr old male and have rarely felt the urge to kiss anyone. I to have virgin lips, and it honnestly doesnt bother me. I believe it will all happen sooner or later. Just keep your head up, and the next time you are in a situation where a kiss would be appropriate mabye you could suprise the guy by kissing HIM. That way you would be in control, and if it didnt feel right, just stop. That way you initiated it and you wouldnt hurt his feelings by pulling away or stoping. And you would never have to do it again if you didnt want to.

Your insecure, obviously. So, stop being such a pussy and get out there and make out!

do you feel very panicky and frightened when a guy tries to kiss you? because that might mean you have a phobia (Philemaphobia)...or you could just be very picky about who you lock lips with. At least people have TRIED, dont worry!

Maybe none of the people that have tried to kiss you have had your heart. Or you might just have to be a little more open. When the times right you will get your kiss

Yeah!!! Go high self-esteem!!!

I have a guy friend who wasn't kissed til he was 22.

I'm turning 26 in a week, haha just an update. Still no kissing but I'm good with that. I am pretty comfortable with myself all around and no I am not very awkward in social situtations, I'm actally quite the extrovert. I am amazed that there is a Phobia out there for me! Wow!
Some of what you all have said has been hitting home. I don't want to kiss just anyone, thats an intimacy that I would like to give only one person in my life. It may be wrong but whenever a guy has tried I don't feel like he deserves it. He tries too soon, he doesn't realize what he is asking, he is not seeing the importance of it. I think touch is my love language and if I don't love them yet (after a few dates when they try to go for it) I just can't. I guess I think I'm special or something. My choice I guess, I just wanted to see how the world would react since not many people share in what I am going through.

I think its great the way you've come to accept this situation - I am a 23 yr old Male who's not too bad looking but i've never had a girlfriend, never kissed anyone and never had sex and I don't have a problem with it.

Forget what society says as normal - forgot what other people consider normal if you live till your thirty and never kiss anyone then as long as that is a decision you have made then there's no problem with it!

who cares, walk up to someone and kiss em, booyah!

..play :P

:)

It is actually very easy to get kissed/kiss someone; if you're in a club or at a party then there will be plenty of guys willing to kiss you. If you are truly bothered by it, then you may want to try out kissing on somebody you don't know, but I'm sure if you wait for someone special you'll feel far better about it.

You were probably molested as a child.

Not everyone likes to be kissed anyways...

This is the least of your problems.

Sounds like latent attitude or sexual repression. Were your parents really conservative or really against affection? Did you ever see your mom or dad kiss anyone? I'd see a shrink.

You're a lesbo. No Homo. .No offense. lol. Just kiddin'

Just the fact that you wrote I'm 25years and a half makes me think you're kinda bay-ish.

I know you want people to know that you are nearly 26 but still.

Your problem isn't a problem. Unlike most girls nowadays, you seem like the type to wait for the right moment, and not be a complete whore.

I commend you.

The media just wants us to think that kissing any random person is normal, and that everyone's supposed to have kissed ANYONE by the age of 12 or 13. Maybe you're just waiting for the right person who's all yours. I think that's a beautiful thing. :)

"I don't want to kiss just anyone, that's an intimacy that I would like to give only one person in my life. It may be wrong but whenever a guy has tried I don't feel like he deserves it. He tries too soon, he doesn't realize what he is asking, he is not seeing the importance of it."

...And, therein lies the problem. You are attaching *way* too much significance to the act of kissing. When a guy kisses you, it doesn't mean the he loves you, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. It probably just means that he *likes* you. It could mean more, but you can't assume that. Kissing is just a small step.

I normally kiss on the first date, if not sooner. If this hasn't happened by the second or third date, I assume that something is wrong. Or, that attraction is lacking.

The longer in life that you wait until you start kissing men, the more awkward everything is going to become. Moreover, the man you find "deserving" of your kiss may sense your awkwardness, when that happens--this may or may not be an issue. There is nothing wrong with practicing kissing on men whom you don't plan to be with; you are not "giving away" something precious.

just let it happen, you'll be so much more relaxed

I, too, am a mid 20's virgin (25, to be exact), am not ugly, never had sex, and have never kissed a member of the opposite. My predicament has more to do with my extreme introversion, though.

In a way, I can understand how you feel about saving your first kiss for someone who truly means something to you, but I wouldn't wait until your wedding day to get it over with.

I wouldn't think kissing would be such a big deal, so long as it's a guy that you really like, and having some drunken makeout with some random dude, but it sounds like you're pretty firm on waiting for the right guy to kiss.

With that being said, you're attractive and you're very outgoing, which means it shouldn't be too long before you find the right guy.

I wish you luck, SugarPlumb.

The first kiss is always awkward. You could try a male friend that you're close to and try it on, like a shoe!

Atleast then if you don't like it, you'll know what to watch for. :)

I think you answered your own question. Next time, don't duck - pucker up.

Close your eyes and pucker up and plant a big ol' sloppy one

assexual, maybe. idk

Lick my feet after I've been working 10 hours. You'll love kissing after that... Or get sick and die.

shove you against a wall and smother? that sounds like rape 0.o??

just do it with such a sweet nice guy ok, or keep it until ou get married okay.. or find reall lOve ... ummm i would lOve tro kiss your virgin lips baby lol hmmmmmmm taste honey

hey im just like you, i havent been kissed either in a 19 chick :)well i havent had a boyfriend i mean im not going to settle with anyone, im looking for someone special so im not just going to give away my first kiss to whoever. anyways i somehow see it as something special, no one has tainted these virgin lips and im just hoping that ill soon find a guy worthy of my lips.

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