hate feeding her

You have my sympathy. Her eating behavior is so typical at that age. She is going through a learning process right now as she transitions into new foods. She is learning about choices, like whether she is really hungry or not and about what new foods she really like. She will reject foods that she really liked the day before or want to eat the same foods everyday for a year!
You need to be very careful about giving off negative feelings of frustration because you may make her anxious as she is going through this normal process, which could possibly make her have anxieties about food later in life. Please talk to her pediatrician if you think you really need help in handling this. Or google up websites about children and eating patterns to learn how normal your daughter is! Hang in there!

Are you feeding her often enough? If she is hungry enough to say "I am very hungry," she might be getting too hungry and then not able to deal with it once you do put food in front of her. Try feeding her more often (about every 3-4 hours).

you could always leave her one somebodys doorstep

u are a terrile mother if u hate ur child for saying she is hungry that is awful and i can't believe u. as for the person above that is vry cruel i can't believe u said that

Hey, I don't know, but here is my take. When the kid is hungry enough, he/she will eat. You won't kill her by only feeding her what you make for her. Even if it takes a little longer.

At 2.5, she is still experimenting with your limits. She needs to know that she can count on you, so she is testing that. Because she is testing your limits, it is natural to feel frazzled. Find an outlet. If she refuses to eat, give her a short time out. Do something to release pent up energy or stop her from pushing you to the edge.

"u are a terrile mother if u hate ur child for saying she is hungry that is awful and i can't believe u. as for the person above that is vry cruel i can't believe u said that"

Okay, first off, the person above you was joking. Probably. Second, even though people love their kids more than anything, they can still find them to be frustrating. Parenthood isn't all cuddles and fuzzies, and this woman isn't a bad parent just because she gets upset at her two-year-old. Two-year-olds are tough to handle sometimes because they like to test your boundaries. There's a reason for that "terrible twos" cliche.

The feelings you get, wanting to rip the hair outa your head, are normal.

I babysit a 2.5 yr old and FINIKY doesn't begin to cover it. Consider though that, at that age, kids usually have the attention span of a Ferret, so it is not that they don't want to eat, or even that they are TRYING to drive you crazy - it's just that they get easily preoccupied with other things going on Around them.

She'll grow out of it.

Now if you start wanting to tear HER hair out - get away and seek help.

Everyone needs a cool down time.

Tobra - Spend most of my time in books.