depends on whether you are a male or female.....lol

I'm just not social enough or concerned about having one. If you want one enough one will come around, eventually.

I'm female, and why does it matter whether or not I'm male or female?

no its not normal, go to a bar, get drunk off yer ass then fuck till the cows come home, youll like it trust me, hell if you dont want to do that call me up im sure we can arrange somethin ;)

"why does it matter whether or not I'm male or female?"

I would imagine that it's more difficult for a guy to find a boyfriend than a girl to find one.

Yes, I think it is normal for a guy, but not a girl...most guys just want sex, no matter what a girl looks like...I'm not like that but I have the same problem as you...I am 19 and never had a girlfriend or even been kissed... I guess I'm just "too nice of a guy..." Meet me on true.com,match.com,or hotornot.com....user id frankfaa

I disagree. I'm 20, female, never had a boyfriend. I think I'm invisible.

Or ugly.

theres nothing wrong with you your just waiting for the wrire person i dont think it matters

....wow, are we the same person? :/

I was 19 before I had my first girlfriend. And I wasn't even trying to get one. She just showed up, we started hagning out, then we realized we were dating. We've been together for 4.5 months, so I don't see anything wrong with it.

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You have to work harder at it... I'm 29 and the last time I had a boyfriend was when I was 14 and that lasted 3 days. I'm really depressed b/c my best friend is married and my roommates bf is over all the time (like he moved in rent free) and I always hear them at night. You really have to try. I doubt you're ugly, and I'm not going to say don't be picky... The only guys whistling at me are old enough to be my father so if that's the case w/you then be very picky. But try harder, get out more. 21 is not so old to not have a boyfriend. So don't worry too much, but just make sure you don't stop trying. And realize that sometimes you have to make the first move even if it means rejection.

Yes I think that it is perfectly normal... I didnt have a bf until I was 19 and now I havent had one since and I am 23 soo... I think that you just have to be patient and he will come around... Patience is the key.

21? You have nothing to be worried about. I'm 37 and never could even get a date. THAT is abnormal! I've had to hang it up and accept the fact that I will be alone for the rest of my life. Don't let this happen to you. Trust me....you DON'T want to end up like me!

21 is young, you've got plenty of time. I'm 35 and I pretty much feel the same way as the 37-year-old poster above. I've never been in a relationship, I've always been the nice guy who is "just like a brother" to all females I've ever known. I figure if nothing has happened yet, it probably won't. Not getting any younger. Like the person above said, don't let it happen to you. It's definitely not too late.

normal for a guy yes. but normal for a girl i dont think so.

normal, what normal these days anyway... ditch the double standards... its all about meeting the right person at the right TIME... I am 27 yrs old and have had one significant relationship in my life, when I was 18-20... yeah, its always easy to see how green the grass is on the other side but just because one is single doesn't mean their an outcast or ugly... theres alot of advantages to being single too... take the time to develop you own interests, youll usually meet the right person doing something you enjoy.. sports, art, music, drama, dancing... just get out there and meet your community! Theres nothing wrong with being single.

I have only had two relationships in my life, one when I was 23, and another when I was 25. Both lasted less than a year and both were failures. Part of the reason is because I pursued the guy so hard and I made it known to him I wanted to get married. It was really pathetic on my part, and both of them now refer to me as the desperate woman. I no longer act this way and I have decided not to date anymore. Since I do not want to have kids, I have decided there is really no point in me being married. I do not want to go through the hassles of a relationship again. Whenever I date someone I act too needy and insecure, and this makes me feel really bad about myself. So at the age of 28 it does not look as if I will ever be in a relationship. Honestly, I would probably just ruin it anyway, so I am not so worried.

To the lady of 21 that's never had a boyfriend,I'm nearly 40 and have never had sex or a girlfriend,women say I'm ugly and weird,but I live in Britain and our woman are known for being extreamly narrow minded,foreign women are much nicer,but I don't have much to offer them and don't really want to know at my age,but 21 isn't old and woman can always get someone whenever they want to,so don't worry.

Women are never ugly no matter what you look like. Guys and Girls I know are narrow minded.

Besides I am 28 and my first and last girlfriend was at 24. Since then been single. But its life. Like everyone has said there is plaenty of time for the right one.

I'm a 23 year old female and have never been in a serious relationship. I've had a few boyfriends but nothing with serious commitment. I'm beginning to think I'm a commitment-phob, which scares me because I want to fall in love, get married, have children, etc. But i just keep saying that my day will come - and so will yours! Keep your head up!