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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. we have an easy going relationship. A few months ago i saw that he looked at porn online. i know a lot of men look but, i don't want him to, he promised he would never do it again. Well, i just found out he looked at porn again. I asked him if he had anytging to tell me (he saud no) then i told him i knew. He promised me he wouldn't. So i need advice on what i should do.
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Anonymous
You can either ignore it, or get rid of the guy. More than likely, he's going to keep on looking at it.
Anonymous
Face it, guys look at porn.
You can't control what a boyfriend does.
I abstain from porn when I'm in a relationship. There's not a chance this guy will stop, so if you care about that, you need to move on. It's very subjective, but I feel like porn viewing threatens the kind of romance I prefer.
Think about why the porn bothers you so much, and whether its really his problem or yours. Do you worry that he's thinking about other women instead of you? That would be a reflection on your self esteem. Does he seem less interested in sex with you when he's looking at porn? Does it give him unrealstic expectations of how you should act? That would be his problem and something he could address. Take some time and think it through, then think about how much it matters in the scheme of things in your relationship. If he's ignoring your wishes left and right, you might want to move along - but if he's just being a typical guy and wacking off to naked people, then it's probably not much to worry about. Don't ask him about it, don't check his internet history, and try not to think about it. In this case, ignorance can truly be bliss. It's not actual people, it's video clips and stuff. I felt like you when I was younger, but it was mostly my own self esteem.
Anonymous
You seriously need to lighten up! It doesn't mean he loves you any less or he wants to be with those women. Guys love porn, that's the reason that married men are the primary purchasers of magazines like Playboy. If you're jealous of pictures, then your relationship will never last. Look at it this way, at least you didn't catch him talking in a chat room and making plans to meet some other girl.
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Hey, if you want advice on dealing with your situation, which seems more of a broken promise than a porn issue, a new advice site is starting, it sounds a little like Smart and sassy but maybe not as mean. www.truth-hurts.com
i think u should drop the guy caus if he lied straight atchu u dont know if he lied before that also..
You need to loosen up, since you can't really control what your boyfriend does.
it makes no difference, if you really like him and vise versa then i think you shouldn''t let this come in between you two.
Why don't you shag his brains out then he'll lose the urge for a few minutes
give him something else to look at, get some sexy underwear,and make yourself pretty instead of wasting your time writing stupid comments on the internet!!! you need to ask yourself, why is he looking at porn?............. because your to busy spending your time on the internet!! i feel for the guy... i really do.....
Don't listen to the people telling you to give him sex so he'll stop looking at porn. You don't need to lower yourself to that level, because chances are he'll get restless and just start again. He WILL NOT stop looking at it and if you want a man that doesn't indulge in pornography, then you need to dump him and find another.
my husband did it before we were married and i made him promise not to look at it again, because he was checking stuff off of craigs list, and it was like these were people he could check out, more than likely they were prostitutes. I made my point by letting him know how I feel, and pointing out he has daughters, and asking him does he want that crap or a real relationship. He stopped and I have to trust him on this. Some people say this is no big deal, and there is this whole self esteem thing going, but the question is what does the guy value more, respecting your wish and the relationship or his own thing? And can you live with it. I would wonder about him lying about it, because if he lies about this, what else is he lying about, and there is another can of worms other than porn
you're both idiots. you're an idiot for trying to get the guy to stop looking at pictures. i'm sure you let him know how sexy brad pitt, jake gyllenhaal, or whoever it is you like is. let the man look at the porn. he's an idiot for not telling you that you're an idiot.
IF U DONT WANT HIM TO TO LOOK AT PORN THEN GIVEM HIM SOME PUSSY...IF HE BE LOOKIN AT PORN IMAGINE WUT OTHER THING HE MIGHT BE DOIN LIKE PROBABLY CHEATIN ON U OR HAVIN COMP AND PHONE SEX CUZ U DONT GIVEM NUTTIN U FEEL ME....JUST TRY TO PLEASE HIM AND GIVEM ANYTHING HE WANTS
guys lie he will always look at porn even if he says he wont been there done that fight
good luck
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