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29 year old virgin, still approaching
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a 29 year old male going to turn 30 next month. i am indian american born and raised in NJ. i have never kissed, dated,..still a virgin. i am not shy when it comes to approaching. i have been approaching women since the age of 18. i have approached all types of woman but still no luck. my friends are in the same boat. they lost there virginity in there teens but cant even get a number. i approach women in malls, food markets, lounge, bar, clubs but nothing. when i turned 26 i decided to start a journal to see what is going on. from 2006 to 2007 i had approached over 600 girls alone in that year. i only got one number, which turned out to be blockbuster. i get compliments on my dressing style all the time so its not that. i dont know if its NJ or is it just me. i get women staring at me, smiling, sometimes there friends tell me that my friend likes you. i introduce myself and next u know, they have a boyfriend. i approach women indirectly, sometimes directly. i am not going to vegas, dont worry. any tips would be appreciated.
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-07-06 13:47:59
Maybe you're looking for love at all the wrong places. Keep trying and you'll be in luck one day. Or else, try dating websites. Oh, there's nothing wrong with going to Vegas by the way, make sure you use protection though.
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theonespg (25248)
2009-07-09 00:48:35
move to the West coast.You'll get laid.
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cleverme43 (27441)
2009-09-01 08:02:52
try women that are decent.....
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iloveslash (27990)
2009-09-02 07:25:04
Well I'm 18 female and I'm in the same boat. People tell me I'm attractive I always get numbers and boys are always interested in me but when a boy and me get close and i always chicken out, or take so long making my decision and they get bored. Maybe you should tackle drunk girls haha! You can always not look and you'll find someone. Go clubbing, thats my advice or join a club or meet some new people get close to a girl start flirting via text.
Hope it helps :)
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ricky22 (28781)
2009-09-21 09:57:59
I hate to break it to you, but those women just aren't interested in you. It could be because of the way you look, the way you talk, or (perhaps most likely) the way you approach over 600 women per year in malls, food markets, lounges, bars, clubs, etc.

While I admire your determination, it simply isn't normal to approach that many women in a year. That's almost 2 a day. Maybe you're coming across as a bit needy, or even (dare I say) creepy.

I'd recommend that you ask a friend to video a few of your attempts, so you can take a look at the girls' reactions. If you're not able to understand their reactions or their body language (and it sounds like you're not) then you could maybe ask a friend or relative to watch it with you. Or a counselor.

Or if all else fails, you could post it to YouTube and read the ensuing comments. But be aware that you'll probably get a lot of abuse.
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orchidz20 (29404)
2009-10-05 16:39:22
Um...maybe you should stop approaching so many women. You sound desperate, and that kind of attitude is obvious to women. Just chill out and stop trying so hard.
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maya617 (30062)
2009-10-22 04:59:57
looks are important, people who say they're not are lying. but alsp good personality is important, charisma and such...
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Zastosimestvorio (29408)
2009-10-28 03:49:10
I think it might be up to your additude, beacause, when you speak to them, they find your additude or something not convient with looks, or just not suitable. Try humor. But altough off chance, its possible that its just a rare chance that every woman had bf, busy, who knows what.
Don't stop trying! Take care, and good luck.
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Alaxett (31146)
2009-11-13 16:14:03
After I lay myself off from approach girls for a few months or maybe a year, I noticed they started to act friendly to me. Sometimes, I got wary when they become flirty with me, it make them interest in me because since they are used to a guy who droll at them, they got confused if I'm into them or not. Kinda like a frog in pot filled with water that slowly burn into hot water, they are not aware of their feeling toward me have changed during that time. I keep many of them as my friends instead of settle down with just one woman that possibly limit my free time of seek have fun with peers alone, unless any one cute girl tell me she love me first.

Keep that in mind, women are ten times more sensitive than men. If they aware that a man is try to take an effort, it's game over for him. I've seem other guys like that got shot down many times.
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