I'm not sure if it's normal or not, but I use to partake in that activity as well. I think it was just a voyeur fetish with me. It was awesome seeing my partners facial expressions, body movements..etc while getting pounded by some other stud, from a birds eye view.

I grew tired of it, and haven't done it in years. If it bothers you and you think it's not normal...then simply stop.

Maybe SHE really doesn't want to have sex with another guy and that's why she doesn't bring one home. She's probably having a good enough time just flirting with the guys.

Why dont you join in thats even better. You can still watch or even leave them alone for a while. It is a good turn on but better with someone you know than a stranger.

I don't think its a problem, and why would I want someone we know? why not a stranger we will never see again?

weird

I find myself beating off to crocodile rock by elton john the circus effect music turns me on. pretty much your post is circus behavior tell her to call me.

Because he could be a mass murderer or a rough fucking style

I have always enjoyed seeing my woman enjoying other men and them enjoying her. I discovered this fetish when we joined a swingers club. I found that I enjoyed watching my wife as much as being with her or any other woman. I can't tell you the reasons why I enjoy this. I have tried to figure out why, to no avail. I just gave up trying to figure out why and just enjoy it now.
Afterwards my wife and I make love to each. We are happily married and feel fulfilled sexually with this lifestyle.

Nothing turns me on more than the thought of "watching" my wife with another man. I can't honestly say that if the time actually cme, I would go through with it, but I think I might. We always discuss it when we "play" and she plays right along with me telling me what she wants to do to the other man while I watch her.

It really is an incredible turn on and we both like the fantasy. I also like having her tell me stories of her times when she actually "was" with other men.

I think it's normal, I just think most guys would never admit it.

to jimbeam4men - congratulations on your success at being able to experience your fantasies together in the raw and experience it making your marriage even more exciting. I know it's possible. Been there, but only for brief time periods. You're fortunate to have a wife who shares equally in your fantasies, desires, loving-marriage goals.

My wife is younger than me and is extremely sensual. She is 32 and is asked for her I.D. anytime we go to clubs. She is 5' 3" with long full wavy auburn hair hanging way below her waist. She is thin with long beautiful legs and weighs a scant 97 lbs. and maintains a deep tan over her entire body. Her breasts are small, and her nipples always very hard and erect. She loves sex and could enjoy it 24-7. My main fetish is watching her have sex with others. She is a contortionist in bed and pleases both men and women in ways I've never seen another woman do. Her orgasms are fantastic and I have seen her have a dozen in just a few minutes. She is absolutely knock-down gorgeous and I would rather watch her have sex than I would any Porn-Star, because she truely enjoys the experience and is excitingly beautiful. She especially enjoys well-hung males, and to see her thin taut body manipulating these large organs is breathtaking. I couldn't ask for any greater experience, than watching her, and then enjoying the multiple orgasms that we have together after her exciting couplings. There have been times when I have participated myself with her and another man. These times are fun too. These are great sexual experiences for both of us.

I'm convinced that as many husbands have fantasies about watching their wife have sex with other men as Wives have fantasies about sex with a different man. In other words, it's perfectly normal.
Lots of us do it, for various reasons, In my case it was discovering (in detail) that my wife had spent a night with a perfect stranger when she found herself staying alone in a hotel for one night. I didn't tell her I knew about her night of adventurous sex.
Ever since then I have fantasized about watching her have sex with another man again. Eventually I did tell her, (the idea was driving me crazy), and that led to us first role playing the idea, then finaly making the real thing happen... Everything GFUTERNICK says about the experience of watching his wife was true for me too... an incredibly rewarding experience... not least because she did things with him she won't do with me!! That was an experience!

Frankly, I love it. I am 62 and my wife is a very young looking 55. I have watched and photographed her with 3 different men so far and I loved every minute of it. She is extremely multi-orgasmic and has cum numerous times with each man. Just to see her cumming over and over with another man is enough to send me into orgasmic bliss. I relive it over and over looking at the photos I've taken. I go even further in that I love making oral love to her after she's been with another man. Are there any other men that enjoy this activity as well?

I enjoy the fantasy of my wife being fucked hard by a stud while I watch. It is such a turn-on listening to her describe in detail what he is doing to her while I am having her. It never fails to make me hard and I feel so excited. She loves knowing that she can turn me on this way. We have been talking about making it real and letting her fuck a guy who has been pursuing her a couple of years. She always tells me there is nothing in this for her but if I am sure it is what I want then she will let him fuck her. She is attending a conference next month and he will be there. It will involve an overnight stay and she is confident he will beg her to let him into her room and watch her undress. I ask her if she will let him wank over her tits and she says she will. Just the thought of this happening turns me on. She suggested calling me on her mobile and asking for permission before letting him fuck her and even thought of leaving the phone on so I can hear her cum. We have been planning this for months now and I can't wait! It seems I am not alone in moving their wife from fantasy to reality. She knows I love her and that I will be grateful to her afterwards so she feels safe to play.

This a great forum. I stumbled across it and i am extremely excited. I have always worried about the fantasy of sharing my wife. I am very happy to see that there are plenty of others who enjoy the same thing. My wife and i are new to this and would like to find someone who has experienced our favorite fantasy and could point us in the right direction so we can eventually enjoy ourselves with out the guilt.

If you are seriously thinking about adding a sexual partner you need to talk about it .... over lunch. Its always a good idea when you are hot and bothered... but it may not be as exciting over lunch.

If you decide that it is something you guys really want to explore then you need rules.

It will make you talk about everything. Every sexual act is YEAH BABY when you are in the mood but when you are talking over lunch you need to think about the following:

Will you be jealous if she does things with him that she normally doesn't do for you?

Will seeing her kiss or flirt bother you? Kissing was difficult for me watch... go figure.

You will need your NO signals and set the rule that if either one of you says NO it is NO. Its never too late to say NO. Even if the partner is traveling to see you. Its a risk that they are taking.

Pay for the room if you are meeting in a hotel. You guys check in first and get settled. You need to pay for the room so there is no feeling of obligation. He can buy dinner or drinks but the partner should NOT pay for the room.

These are just some guidlines for you to consider. Things we learned from our experiences.

i to fantasy about watching my wife being served by another man ,i think i would want it to be with a stranger not a close friend,the very idea of seeing it happen turns me on, i talk about it when we are having sex but but nothing ever comes of it,maybe hopefully it will one day,i am quite sure i wll be able to go though with it if my wife ever agrees to it.

Watching my wife fuck other guys is the biggest turn on that I can imagine. We've done it a few times and the best was when I fucked her immediately after the other guy had cum in her. The next best was after another guy had cum in her for the second time and I got to her before she cleaned up. I went down on her and though I don't like the taste or smell of cum really, the fact that I could smell his cum still in her was also a huge turn on.

This was pre-aids, so it's been a while, but I'd love to see it happen again. Normal? Not sure about that, but it sure is fun!

I think it's a huge turn on as well. I think my wife is pretty hot and I'd love to just sit back and watch her please another man as much as she does me. It is a really odd feeling because I'm a very jealous person.

I've half mentioned it but she seemed like she wouldn't have anything to do with it so I didn't push it too hard.

I think these fantasies all started when I found out she sent some nude pictures to someone. I'm kind of old fashioned and it really hurt me and pissed me off. But then I started thinking about the guy that just got those pictures... He was looking at my wife, the one I get to wake up to every morning, and rub his cock and fantasize about whatever he wanted to do to her or have do to him.

I had confronted her in anger...it happened a few other times as well over the years. Felt the same each time. Like I get hit with a ton of bricks...but also end up jacking off haha

Now I really like to have guys cum on a picture I send them and have them email it back to me. Or I do some photoshop and try and add another guy to pictures of my wife etc....

About a year ago I had fantasies about my wife fucking other guys. After I had them recurringly I told her about them and she thought about it. Eventually she agreed to give it a try. She's since met up with a few guys by herself and we've also had some MFM threesomes (I'm straight, so guy-on-guy) and we all had fun. When she's seen a guy by herself I've had her record the audio - with the guy's consent of course - (MP3 recorders are great!) so I can then enjoy (and re-enjoy) hearing all her moans and screams, the bed creaking as she's being fucked and their conversations when they're having sex. My wife is quite loud.. I'm convinced she sounds better than porn actresses! :D

'Is it normal?' .. who cares.. 'Is it fun for all involved' is more the question. My wife has since found things a little lacking with these other guys and is seeking someone that is someone that she can be more 'friends' with and have sex with, than some guy that just fucks her and then doesn't bother chatting until he wants sex again. Quite a lot of guys either want a girlfriend or they just don't like the fact she's married and can't/won't get to being actual 'friends w/sex benefits'.

One thing to point out is that I did not force my wife into doing this.. I suggested it and let her know I was open to her seeing what she wanted, and let her take it from there. I'm not my wife's 'keeper' and I let her know that.

I married a woman 12 years younger than me. She was 18 when we married. I had been married once before and divorced because she cheated on me one time to many. Some how this changed my view of a woman's sexual needs. I am about 7" long and slightly thicker than average. I went for looks and youth the second time around. Rachel is short, slinder, very well built, and a passion that made me realize she would be more than I could handle not long after we started dating. I married her anyway and not long after we married I began to develop ED. She was only 19 1/2 years of age when I bought her a dildo. She liked it but made the statement she liked the real thing better. A month later I brought home a friend I had known since high school football days. He was outcast by the majority of the girls in school because of his 10" length and very thick shaft. I had called ahead to tell Rachel to doll up in a pair of heels and a tiny outfit. I told her I was bringing home a stud to please her. She laughed and didn't take me serious. When my friend entered the bedroom where my sexy little wife was waiting she was surprised. 20 minutes later and some foreplay my friend got out of a 69 position with my wife and allowed Rachel to control the positions and rhythms. I was totally shocked at his and her stamina that night. They went at it for well over an hour. Rachel had her first ever multiple orgasm sets and several singles. I was ashamed, and jealous at first. Rachel and I still love each other as best friends but every other night or so my male friend and Rachel put on a show for me. I think Rachel had always wanted a well hung stud with stamina and didn't even realize it. I came to believe Rachel was a true nymphet.

Can someone suggest the best way to do it?

How to do it.

1. Go to wifelovers.com and place an ad for the type of guy you want. It's free.
2. Meet the guy. Be sure he's willing to give you some traceable info, like his home phone number or whatever to be sure you are as safe as possible. Look at his ID. Then discuss the scenario and details.
3. Take your wife to a hotel bar and let her get loosened up a bit with a drink.
4. Have the guy send over a drink for your wife from a "secret admirer".
5. Have the guy come over, introduce himself and explain how beautiful he thinks your wife is. Then he says, "Mind if I join you?"
6. The guy sits by your wife. After a bit, he starts to fool around a little with your wife (hand on her leg, etc) and it escalates till he says, "How'd y'all like to come up to my room and have a drink up there before you go?" He should have your wife's favorite drink up there, chilled and ready to go. (Alternative: if you don't want to spend money on a hotel room before you are sure you are going to need it, the guy or hubby can go arrange it on a "trip to the restroom". Being in a hotel bar facilitates that. Have a small bag and a cooler ready to go (behind the hotel front desk) with the beverages ready to go)
7. Once in the room and everyone has enjoyed a drink, Husband says, "You know what I've always wanted to see?" When they say, "What?", Hubby says, "I know this is going to sound weird, but I've always wanted to see a guy come up from behind my wife and squeeze her tits."
8. The guy does it, then kisses her neck. Then one thing leads to another.

Not so hard, hunh?

Some details that the guy can throw in that will help the wife go along are:

1. The guy mentions that he hasn't been with a woman in over a year. (gets the wife's pity)
2. The guy mentions that his wife died about a year ago and he hasn't been with anyone since. (more pity)
3. The guy says that he is an amateur masseur and suggest a free massage. (a massage gets a woman in the mood more than any thing else)
4. The guy mentions that he travels the world over and that he might be able to help them go on a trip (women love adventure and travel)

Hope it works out!

Mickey

Recently my wife was on a business trip and she met some bad boy with a big cock. She didn't tell me, but they fucked in her hotel room and had been chatting for a 2 weeks before I secretly found out. I shouldn't have said anything so that I could see if they hook up the next time she's got business over there, but I did and she tried to deny anything happening. I finally got her to admit it and she knows that it's wrong, but at the same time she knows it also turns me on big time. She cheated on me one time before we got married and I found her used panties stuffed in her hand bag. I was so turned on I would smell them and jerk off, cumming harder than I've ever cum. Supposedly this guy that recently fucked her used a condom and had such a big dick that it didn't really work for her. She says it was off rythm and she didn't cum at all or really enjoy. She said he had to stop fucking her and jerk off as she watched. Should I really believe that? I thought women loved big cocks. If it wasn't very good, why were they texting, emailing, and calling each other for 2 weeks till I found out and confronted her? One email wrote, "Why is it that I'm still thinking of you?" And he writes back, "Am I that amazing, lol?". She then writes, "are you counting the days until I visit again?" I would love someone's opinion. I don't mind my wife fucking some stranger as long as she's honest with me about it. If she likes to fuck other guys, I'd love to try to get her comfortable with telling me about it. I have brought it up, but it hasn't really excited her as I think she prefers the high of cheating when I don't know about it. Thoughts?