32 year old virgin

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Don't feel to bad, I am a 49 year old virgin who has never even been out on a date.

And you thought you were an ass.

I'm the only one who will EVER tell you this, but...
Being a virgin isn't a bad thing!

I just wanted to let you know that one of my best friends is 32 and also a virgin. She wants to remain one until she's married, and though this decision hasn't been the easiest one for her, she feels it will be rewarding. She is gorgeous, talented, has everything going for her, and it confuses me why she isn't married yet. I just want to encourage you, that what ever your case is; whether you're waiting for a special someone, or whatever the case...it's not abnormal, and all these rude comments, please don't listen to them. There's no need to get upset with yourself, I hope you find someone to share this experience with! I'm 20 years old, and I'm a virgin as well, and am planning on waiting til I'm married. Good luck :)

I see that this thread is a few years old, but I felt like telling you that you're still not alone. I'm a thirty-four year old, male virgin for various reasons. I've come close to losing it a few times, but have somehow always held true to my desire to share that intimacy with the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. I haven't really found her yet, and at this point am not too bothered if it never happens. Damn sure, would never kill myself because of it. Hope you don't either. Hope all goes well with you. Later.

Dear 32 year old virgin,

I would like to congragulate you for keeping your virginity. I am a 21 year old female, who lost my virginity when I was 16 and married a slut guy of a husband. And from those experiences, let me tell you, I'd give up my husband any day of the week to marry a virgin instead. I am not joking. It is very hurtful when my husband comments on his past relationship with his ex's. Being with a virgin husband would be heaven. I never realized virginity was so important until after I was already married. The bible has it right, wait till you get married. Believe me, it's worth it. Don't you dare think about killing yourself, you aren't pathetic at ALL. You are special, staying a virgin for this long, means that you are sincere in finding true love. Believe me, finding someone to have sex with is the easiest thing in the world. Finding someone to have a true relationship is a million times harder. Your taking the harder road, instead of giving in to the easy road. I commend you for it. Don't give up!!! Don't you DARE go out there and find some stupid hooker to lose your virginity too. Be someone who actually thinks that sex is special instead of something to do for fun, like watching a movie. Society these days are like that, they don't give a shit about the meaning of sex. Don't give in and be one of those people. And by the way, sex is waaay over-rated. Believe me, it's not something so grand and great that you need to worry about it. Love, is something that is grand and great. NOT sex. Well, I hope this helps you feel better, because you shouldn't feel bad at all, I wish I was still a virgin.

You do not say weather you are a man or a woman. Still you should be congratulated.
You sexuality is YOUR business. Having sexual intercourse is not like two dogs in the street.
Sexual relations must have love and kindness attached...otherwise we are no better than animals.
Do not feel like an oddball. Sex is personal and should be kept that way. Be proud of yourself. I am happy for you.
Alfred Kuchinski

I know a 31 year old virgin, so you're definitely not alone.

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin. I am a 32 year old virgin as well. As with all the posts I've read thus far, you are not alone.

It is your personal choice and don't feel bad about it. Don't let pop culture and the media mess with your head. And don't let these idiots with negative commentary get you down either.

I personally believe you want to safe your sacred gift for a special person. If this is the case I commend you for that. I also believe that perhaps someone or something is egging you on, pressuring you, or making you feel bad for staying a virgin. If this is an individual that you know, you might want to consider discontinuing all communication with them as they are not worth your time. If it is something that you read in a magazine, simply take a lighter and set fire to that garbage. If it is your television, simply turn it off or change the channel.

Whatever you do, don't kill yourself over being a virgin. Be proud of what you believe in. Be true to yourself. Love yourself.

Hey Dudes...I am 31 and still a Virgin...Lol!!!

It seems as though this guy is a very depressed individual. I highly doubt that losing his virginity will solve his problems.

I'm a virgin myself and don't fool myself into thinking that losing it is the answer to all my problems in life.

It's interesting, as I'm a 31 female and a virgin. However, no one I know would EVER guess - mainly cos I'm considered to be an really attractive, successful and nice person. I've always found it difficult intimate relationships, which makes me really sad, but I don't want crappy one night stands for sex. For god's sake, don't kill youserlf over this, and ignore and the numbnuts posts here who encourahge you too (obviously those who are deficient in their own areas to be so interested in your posting!).

It's completely normal. Ever notice how people who have lots of promiscuous sex end up getting divorced, dying alone, catching STDs at orgies, listening to Tom Leykis, etc.? They are very sad and empty inside, never having realized early that quality is better than quantity. "The 40 Year Old Virgin" was obvioulsy written by someone who wishes they could take theirs back. You've got two options: You can find your soulmate(another virgin) and experience true, eternal love, or you can keep up a decent porn collection and take it with you to the grave. Both are better than skanking yourself out.

Don´t worry, you´re not alone! I´m 30, virgin and even if i´m not a supermodel i´m not ugly either (i´m sure bendan is). I know many girls who are our age and virgins. I don´t say it´s a good thing but certainly no reason to kill yourself.

go for fourty one kick steve carrel's ass

I'm not sure if I should be saying this but I will.

I'm a straight female and I much prefer fucking virgins over guys who have been around the block. I mean, if you've been with more than 5 people it's just dirty. Yes, I'm talking to you men, men can be whores too.

So, around some circles, you are a rare and delightful treat. Don't be too sad about it.

Keep in mind it always can be worse. You could have had sex by now but have a painful and nasty disease that you... well, I could go into more detail but I'm sure you can imagine how bad it *could* be. And in some cases (mostly outside of marriage), sex is definatly overrated.

I'm 33, and I'm still a virgin (for religious reasons)...however your circumstances may be, I want for you what I want for myself--to find a caring, fine woman who will make you forget you ever thought about killing yourself, for that matter...And besides, the movie was so funny...but check this, the guy actually gained respect from his peers AND got hitched at the end...stay strong

man i ni idea that somemany people are still virgins after their teens im 20 and felt kinda alone but i see that it is kinda common

It's Completely normal to be a virgin at that age. All it means is that

1. Your not a tramp
and
2. Your not desperate to do that

You just gotta find the right person to do it with. Someone you love, Because if sex is as awesome as, im sure, everyone around you makes it sound, The pleasure of it will 10 times better with someone you love rather then someone you just "do it" with~

i say this to all. it's ABNORMAL to have sex out of wedlock. i'm a 39 year old virgin and damn proud of it. i cherish it with all my heart. i made the decision when i was 13. i'm not a religious fanatic. it was my own decision. i'm a an old soul i guess. old-fashioned. supremely romantic. commited to being commited. sex out of wedlock is animalistic and unorganised. risky as hell-we all know them. not worth them. it's much better the first time if you're in love. no guilt. no horrific consequences. beauty is the only outcome. i'd kill myself if i were somehow persuaded in to having sex. when i do it for the first time i want to know my lady will be there the next morning, and the next and the next. in the Bible King Solomon speaks of the "strange woman", in essence the prostitute who is of course a stranger to the john. he doesn't know her. to him she's just a piece of meat for satisfying his desires. that's animalistic, loveless, meaningless. just like mindless, heartless, emotionless animals. we are capable of so much more. it you must have sex, so be it. but to all the old virgins i say wait. it's normal, commendable, healthy, wise, beautiful, moral. don't let anyone tell you different. it's the right thing. be proud of it. love will find you one day.

One more thing...I saw that movie 40 year old virgin and it sucked. I am a 34 year old virgin and couldn't relate to that movie at all. Also, why does everybody in these comments say how easy it is to get laid...it's not easy. It's hard for me to even find a fat chick willing to have sex with me. if you are a girl, yeah, it's easy. You can be ugly, fat, it doesn't matter, a guy will have sex with you. I heard some statistic about how fat girls even have more sex than skinny ones. For a guy it's way different....if you are ugly or average looking or shy, you are screwed. You either have to get a face transplant or fake a really awesome personality
so people don't notice how ugly you are in order to score. I've even considered going to a sex addicts group just so I could meet a slut who will hopefully be going through withdrawal symptoms and need a quick fix. I am utterly hopeless. It's not easy getting laid and I am not a virgin by choice either. I'm not waiting for marriage and neither is this other guy. He just wants to get laid by a hot chick, damnit!

Don't forget, that movie had a happy ending.

Lots of people wait until they're older to have sex, it's not unusual. I'm sure there's a-holes out there who get off on cracking jokes at your expense, but thet's what a-holes do. The bigger you make the problem in your mind, the bigger it's going to be. Meet girls without planning to have sex with them, plan <U>not</U> to have sex with them. Let it happen in it's own time. And I'll gaurntee you that most girls are exited about having sex with a virgin, it reminds them of high school or something.

Same age, same non-problem. Getting laid is not a goal for me, and will never be.

I wish for love, though. I'll be ready for when it comes, but I'm not in a rush. I'm willing to wait for the right person instead of getting stuck with the wrong one just because I wanted to get laid.

Being a virgin sucks.I give it to you.
I'm a 25 year old woman and a virgin because I hate my body.Deeply ashamed of the thing and can't imagine actually having sex in real life,so I just feel pathetic and sad and pretend instead and avoid the whole thing altogether.
With that said,if you're anything like me,you can probably just start therapy and see how that works out for you.
However,I'm poor so I can't afford therapy so instead I guess I'll just have to suffer.But at any rate,if you have insurance and it helps pay for therapy,go down that route.Don't kill yourself,you gotta at least give a go at really really trying to save yourself first.

And remember the thing about that 40 year old virgin movie is that it was a fucking retarded movie,period.They made the guy look like this naive developmentally regressed moron or something.It was completely inaccurate of what most older virgins are like
Also,they forgot the people who are older virgins aren't usually virgins because they want to be.We just have issues and/or we haven't met the right person.So I know none of that will make you feel better.But at least you know you're not the only one.
And lots of people who are having sex,have issues too.
The world is a dumb place and that's all there is to it.

I%%u2019m a 35 year-old virgin myself and I%%u2019m an Atheist. You don%%u2019t have to feel any pressure to %%u201Cloose%%u201D it so that %%u201Clittle kids%%u201D won%%u2019t pick on you. That%%u2019s childish. The fact is that everyone has their own beliefs, standards and desires in life. Don%%u2019t try to conform to other people%%u2019s standards or way of life. That road will just lead you to sorrow and perhaps a feeling of betrayal to yourself. And many people will %%u201Claugh%%u201D at you for this just because they are compensating for an insecurity within themselves because they think it makes them in some way %%u201Cbetter than%%u201D you. As long as you believe in yourself and understand why you are in your situation%%u2026then you are OK.

The reasons for virginity are not always that cut and dry. Some people aren%%u2019t just simply aroused to the point of action that easily. Some people will drop their pants at the first opportunity. And there are Great men may have been virgins for their lives. Sir Isaac Newton supposedly never had any sexual relations and was thought to be even secretly gay during his time. Well%%u2026what do you know%%u2026he was dedicated to working out the foundations of math and science that transformed the world%%u2026and without those theories%%u2026what we are typing into would not even exist!!!

My story%%u2026
As being an Atheist, you can guess that virginity is not an act of %%u201Cpurity%%u201D or anything like that. It%%u2019s just that I haven%%u2019t found anyone to share those feelings with, despite scattered dates and even %%u201Cphysically attractive%%u201D women wanting to date me. If I was going to engage in a loving relationship, I would want it to have a potential to last. Short term relationships aren%%u2019t for me because I don%%u2019t want to waste my time, or even risk STD%%u2019s with someone who%%u2019s %%u201Cinto%%u201D casual sex. As for dating for %%u201Cfun%%u201D while I know that it will not lead anywhere%%u2026well to me that%%u2019s WRONG to my partner. I won%%u2019t subject someone to be a %%u201Ctemporary%%u201D placeholder to make me %%u201Clike my friends%%u201D. I%%u2019m much stronger and more moral than that. Because I was born with characteristics that I believe give me a chance to make a great contribution to humanity%%u2026I have chosen to accept only a relationship that will contribute to these life goals. Even being single to life is an acceptable option to me (if I never meet anyone) because to me that%%u2019s worth the struggle. I know this would be considered a bit extreme to some in this day and age%%u2026but I guess that%%u2019s part of the reason *I* have never been matched. %%uF04A

Please don't feel bad. But, so you don't feel alone I will share that I too am a virgin (and I am 33). I have made a conscious, solid decision to wait until marriage. I look forward to it but have so much anxiety about it. I am JUST starting to realize how little I know about sex, intimacy, his body, my body. Either way, I do NOT regret my decision and if anything, when you get married; your spouse will value and admire your discipline and self love/respect.

Although you are not alone and there are many more like us, it IS not normal in the sense that statistics clearly show that somewhere around 5-10% of people are virgins at our age, depending on whose numbers you trust. I am also 32 years old and a virgin. It's pretty depressing sometimes and I cite failure to develop emotionally for the most part. I feel it is partly the way I was raised. I also have no tolerance for relationships that don't seem like they are going to last so even when very attractive females have tried to seduce me, I shrug it off because I don't want to be involved in a relationship; I see it as too much trouble.

I failed to develop intellectually in other ways whereas my behaviors are in many ways characteristic of someone much younger. It seems at some time, I just stopped developing emotionally and psychologically. Well, we are all different and I will look towards my strengths and not my weaknesses.

You're pathethic, there's more to life than love and sex.

The only people who care are either just kidding or not worth knowing. Not exactly normal but not a big deal either. Honestly love is waaaay more important than sex.

PS Someone said if a man has slept with more than 5 people they are a slut. Total BS!

Looks like either way (lots of partners vs none) you'll always find someone to disaprove of your lifestyle.

Look up the story "Worth the Wait" in the sex category. it may help or give you some type of encouragement and support.

I was wondering if someone can give me input. I'm a 21 year old virgin...I guess rather young compared to others... My problem is that there IS a girl that I really like(I know this because I wasn't attracted to her the first half yr I knew her and became attracted later on). I feel that if I actually made a strong attempt to pursue her then something can happen. My problem is that I'm deathly afraid of underperforming, because she lost her virginity when she was 13 and is also 21. She has had so much more experience than me and is friends with all my friends, and I feel like it would absolutely kill me if I do something weird or just don't do anything right and she tells people that I know(I know it shouldn't matter, but it will) And even if she didn't tell people, just having to see her and think that she's upset or not satisfied or whatnot...would also kill me. How do I go about dealing with this...?

Hi! When I read this, I found out, that I,m not alone. I'm 34 years old and also still a virgin. I had boyfriends, I'm not ugly, or fat. I have friends, but I don't know, I just can't do it. By the way, I am a woman.

They laugh at the movie because the movie is a comedy. Anything can be funny in a movie like that. Keep your chin up.

No, being a 32 year old virgin is not normal, but you aren't alone. I'm a 34 year old virgin. I blame religious guilt for being a virgin through my twenties. I turned down a few opportunities with fat disgusting blobs. Then I got BDD and just hate my face and body and feel uncomfortable in my own skin so I basically have no confidence and don't approach girls and they don't approach me. I even avoid going out sometimes. I don't really have any friends either because I've been a hermit for so long...I've never had a girlfriend...so my life sucks a little more than yours I am guessing. If you have good friends, a good family and a job you like, you are doing alright. The most important thing in life is friends and family. I have a good mom and dad which keeps me going. Girl's are superficial and rely on you to make the move. It also helps if you show off. Girls like guys with skills to qoute Napolean Dynamite. That's what some fat 16 year old kid who told me he had slept with 16 girls already told me. I mean, if a fat kid can score, you can and I sure hope I can, but maintain some standards.

You think a 32 year old virgin is weird try a recently out 24 year old gay virgin(as in havng never had sex with a guy yet or even dated or went near a women jinda virginity).Dont worry about not having sex at your age remember its quality not quantity.Maybe there is a dating site(s) for virgins to meet each other and share their lives together not that im oushing it maybe you could find a women who would understand.

I%%u2019m a 35 year-old virgin myself and I%%u2019m an Atheist. You don%%u2019t have to feel any pressure to %%u201Cloose%%u201D it so that %%u201Clittle kids%%u201D won%%u2019t pick on you. That%%u2019s childish. The fact is that everyone has their own beliefs, standards and desires in life. Don%%u2019t try to conform to other people%%u2019s standards or way of life. That road will just lead you to sorrow and perhaps a feeling of betrayal to yourself. And many people will %%u201Claugh%%u201D at you for this just because they are compensating for an insecurity within themselves because they think it makes them in some way %%u201Cbetter than%%u201D you. As long as you believe in yourself and understand why you are in your situation%%u2026then you are OK.

The reasons for virginity are not always that cut and dry. Some people aren%%u2019t just simply aroused to the point of action that easily. Some people will drop their pants at the first opportunity. And there are Great men may have been virgins for their lives. Sir Isaac Newton supposedly never had any sexual relations and was thought to be even secretly gay during his time. Well%%u2026what do you know%%u2026he was dedicated to working out the foundations of math and science that transformed the world%%u2026and without those theories%%u2026what we are typing into would not even exist!!!

My story%%u2026
As being an Atheist, you can guess that virginity is not an act of %%u201Cpurity%%u201D or anything like that. It%%u2019s just that I haven%%u2019t found anyone to share those feelings with, despite scattered dates and even %%u201Cphysically attractive%%u201D women wanting to date me. If I was going to engage in a loving relationship, I would want it to have a potential to last. Short term relationships aren%%u2019t for me because I don%%u2019t want to waste my time, or even risk STD%%u2019s with someone who%%u2019s %%u201Cinto%%u201D casual sex. As for dating for %%u201Cfun%%u201D while I know that it will not lead anywhere%%u2026well to me that%%u2019s WRONG to my partner. I won%%u2019t subject someone to be a %%u201Ctemporary%%u201D placeholder to make me %%u201Clike my friends%%u201D. I%%u2019m much stronger and more moral than that. Because I was born with characteristics that I believe give me a chance to make a great contribution to humanity%%u2026I have chosen to accept only a relationship that will contribute to these life goals. Even being single to life is an acceptable option to me (if I never meet anyone) because to me that%%u2019s worth the struggle. I know this would be considered a bit extreme to some in this day and age%%u2026but I guess that%%u2019s part of the reason *I* have never been matched. :p

I'm a 35 year-old virgin myself and I'm an Atheist. You don't have to feel any pressure to "loose" it so that "little kids" won%%u2019t pick on you. That%%u2019s childish. The fact is that everyone has their own beliefs, standards and desires in life. Don%%u2019t try to conform to other people%%u2019s standards or way of life. That road will just lead you to sorrow and perhaps a feeling of betrayal to yourself. And many people will "laugh" at you for this just because they are compensating for an insecurity within themselves because they think it makes them in some way "better than" you. As long as you believe in yourself and understand why you are in your situation%%u2026then you are OK.

The reasons for virginity are not always that cut and dry. Some people aren%%u2019t just simply aroused to the point of action that easily. Some people will drop their pants at the first opportunity. And there are Great men may have been virgins for their lives. Sir Isaac Newton supposedly never had any sexual relations and was thought to be even secretly gay during his time. Well%%u2026what do you know%%u2026he was dedicated to working out the foundations of math and science that transformed the world%%u2026and without those theories%%u2026what we are typing into would not even exist!!!

My story%%u2026
As being an Atheist, you can guess that virginity is not an act of "purity" or anything like that. It%%u2019s just that I haven%%u2019t found anyone to share those feelings with, despite scattered dates and even "physically attractive" women wanting to date me. If I was going to engage in a loving relationship, I would want it to have a potential to last. Short term relationships aren%%u2019t for me because I don%%u2019t want to waste my time, or even risk STD%%u2019s with someone who%%u2019s into casual sex. As for dating for "fun" while I know that it will not lead anywhere%%u2026well to me that%%u2019s WRONG to my partner. I won%%u2019t subject someone to be a temporary placeholder to make me "like my friends". I%%u2019m much stronger and more moral than that. Because I was born with characteristics that I believe give me a chance to make a great contribution to humanity%%u2026I have chosen to accept only a relationship that will contribute to these life goals. Even being single to life is an acceptable option to me (if I never meet anyone) because to me that%%u2019s worth the struggle. I know this would be considered a bit extreme to some in this day and age%%u2026but I guess that's part of the reason *I* have never been matched. :p

Hey,I'm a 32 year old virgin too!Hoping for marriage then sex and behold I hear something wrong!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ystoIF6hXd0&feature=channel_video_title

Im a happy gassybitch thirty four year old virgin. Im wierd, but that does tend not to get you laid when your 34. Some say im a tranny but im not there are so many rumors that go around made by a really hot guy that gave me dogshit cause i ripped a stinky one in front of him at least he was thinking of me on valentines day. i mean come on now im dirt poor cause i should nt be playing video games i should be have random sex with guy s holding there nose if or when i fart when it goes in. I mean there are so many beautiful things in life plus gas x maybe ill get lucky. But nah im a prude thats a pain the ass get a dildo and get over it you know what im saying.

I felt like this, I was a virgin until I was 22. I was about to go pay for it, but I met a girl at work and it all went from there.

My advice is just pay for it, I wish I did when I was 18. I have done it many times since and it's a great boost to your confidence, and then you have nothing to worry about when you do meet somebody

No, not at 21. You might not think this, especially since you are an adult now, but you are still way young. You still have time. Being 21 doesn't seem young when you are 21. Now, if you were to tell me that you are 41 and should you kill yourself, then I would say yes. I am not trying to be mean, and I am not trying to use reverse pyschology here either. I am being genuine here, because I speak from experience.

Being 41 and a virgin is not normal at all, and that means you are just a pathetic individual. I know, because I am that 41 year old person, and I am pathetic, and a freak, and I admit it. So 21 is more normal than you think, but don't do what I did and try to be responsible by get and education, getting a decent job, getting your own residence, and all of that before seeking a mate, because that's what society alwåys tells you. And it's a hypocritic society too. Society always barfs out that crap, but they never do it themselves.

All of my college friends hooked up, at college, without a job, without an education, without any means to support a mate, and now they all have families and lives even though they weren't responsible like they should have been. Here I did what I was suppose to do, and I will die alone. How is that for irony?

So if you ever have a chance to hook up with someone who wants you as much and you want them, then start a relationship with that person and have a life, and to hell with societal wisdom. Sometimes being responsible is for the birds.

So see there, you aren't in a bad enough situation to kill yourself over like you thought you were. Just don't let 'doing the right thing' get in the way of your own life, and you will be okay. Hope this helps.

I would never advise anyone to kill themselves, but if you get to 40 and are still a virgin, life is going to suck and be major hell. In fact, odds are, you won't even have a life, and you really won't be living. You will just be existing, and there is a big difference.

And don't pay any attention to those who will tell you being a virgin at 40 isn't a big deal, and all of that. That crap always comes from people who have never had any trouble getting and having a relationship, or the sex that goes with it. In other words, that advice always comes from hypocrites.

Don't listen to them because they haven't live it like you and I have, so they do not know what they are talking about.

Now, while I would never advise anyone to off themselves, I could understand their wish to not just exist. You can't just exist. You have to live life, otherwise life is meaningless.

Being a virgin is terrifying. Most people don't understand that kind of loneliness. How are you supposed to be a man? I don't get it. You're the first virgin I've heard of who's older than me. I'm 27 and I can't take it anymore. I'm suffering psychologically and am currently seeking therapy. Why has god forsaken me???

Can someone tell me why staying a virgin is a good thing? Because it really does suck from my point of view. I would rather be doing porn!

I've always been alone and horny all the time. I wish I was fortunate enough to have a sex life.

Why don't you all go get hookers and get aids and go fuck yourselves, non-virgins!

ALREADY POSTED ON CRAIGSLIST THANK YOU!

Hey guys, isn't prostitution illegal?

You people have no humanity.

Man, this is all bullshit. Fuck life.

I hope you all die of aids. I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

Ultimate answer: demoralize yourself

I hate you

I really need to talk to someone. Help...

Please don't kill yourself! There is so much beauty in this world, it's down to you to feel good, who cares about what you have/haven't done, if you want to enjoy this beautiful world, enjoy it. Don't worry about anything or anyone else. And if you want to lose your virginity be bold and don't worry about it. If you don't that's up to you too. Love your life and to hell with everyone else. :)xx

I'm a 32 year old virgin too!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ystoIF6hXd0&feature=channel_video_title

Plus im a fucking major loser.