Talk to them both, explain what you want and then all agree to do a nice threesome.

I got questions . . .

There's post here somewheres that sounds very familar to this one. Are you the same guy??

Have you mentioned this to your wife yet?

No, I never posted here before and no, I think it best at this time to try and work it out with the stepdaughter first.

Thanks for asking though.

You fucking old perv. You should be getting ready for retirement by that age, thinking about fishing, gardening, golf and hanging round toilets picking up young boys.

Is your step-daughter a munter

Hope she tells you to fuck off then tells her mum so you lose em both, you fall into a manic depressed state and kill yourself by drinking meths and eating lit tapers.... hope that helps.....

Dan,
Thanks for your comments. I see the compassion in your replies even though your stories are hidden.

EyeAy,
Losing them both is a possibility, though unlikely. She has expressed her love for me.

I like the meth and lit tapers part, the civilized world calls then candles. From your "out of body" story I must assume your 15 or so. Grow up kid, I'm looking for answers from adults.

No, the civilised world (England) calls them tapers and they are used to light fireworks... now stop being such a dirty old bastard and you try acting your age........ cunt

The fact that she says she loves doesnt mean she is in love with you. She will be reaching her sexual peak you wont be able to keep it up to her. Youve got about 10 years of roots left in you if your lucky shes got 20. I would reccomend you have a root with her if you must but dont leave your wife. See how it goes.

i think it can be normal. If you really want to leave your wife and have a relationship with her daughter sounds ok as she is not blood family, and sure the 20 year gap seems weird, but theres alot of couples like that. Billy Joel and his wife have a 30 year gap, the oldest man in america who is 100 yrs old has a 70 year old wife. If you carry this out though, how would your wife feel? Do you really want to hurt her like that? leaving her is one thing, but then doing her daughter is just rubbing it in a little bit further.
Good Luck

You say that you brought a little girl into your home who would become just like a real daughter to you, and after the bulk of her life during which time she thought of you as a father, you think that it makes sense just to go about doing God-knows-what with her? Why don't you do the poor woman a favour and let her see some other guys before she picks her goddamned dad.

That's really messed up to even consider something like that! I know I would FREAK THE FUCK OUT of my stepdad (who is like a real dad to me) EVER told me he wanted to get with me. What's wrong with your wife that makes you want the stepdaughter? You should fix the problems with your wife and leave the daughter ALONE. PLEASE, please, please, leave her alone! Go to a psychiatrist, you really need help, for your whole family's sake!

If you and her are of legal age then why not. It is common for a man to fall in love with a beautiful woman.

Just do us a favor and tell us the truth if you do it or not.

When my stepdaughter was in college and I had repaired her sports car. She got in the car with me wearing very short shorts. I am 28 years older than she, but her young well-shaped thighs drove me crazy. I can't tell you had badly I wanted to fuck her and I did, at first, have some guilt feelings. Later, she was thirty and just divorced from a druggy husband who had cost me thousands of dollars. I bought her an upscale doublewide in a nice restricted heighborhood and was helping her with some window treatments. I was behind her and my groin touched her. Instantly I pulled her to me and she didn't resist. That was 15 years ago and I have been screwing her all this time even though she has remarried.

Go for it! Just be sure SHE is game!

JustAsking, I think I know exactly how you feel, as I myself am going through something similar... my SD has grown up to be a very attractive young woman - our age gap is also 20 years - and not only that, when I'm by her side I feel I'm alive again, something I haven't been feeling with my wife lately. It's not just sexual attraction, she makes me feel real good when I'm with her, although I haven't disclosed those feelings to her. I think she's beginnig to get suspicious of what's happening inside me though, these mixed feelings that are fighting each other and which I'm fighting the best I can. I think she is because on my birthday she wrote on a congratulations card that ours has grown to be a father-daughter relationship, that she knows that everything I wish for my daughters I wish for her too, and that she loves me as a dad.
It's been overwhelmingly painful to see her go out with her friends on weekends and to imagine that some lucky son of a bitch - whom I envy like hell - may be screwing her, touching her body at will, kissing her...

I know she'll never be mine and this hurts deep in the heart... I've been living terribly sad and depressed lately and, what's worse, there's no one I can open myself to. That's why I'm telling you all this. Arright, now you can start throwing stones at me.

What I say is, I would if I only could.

And about your questions:
1 - if you're not you're likely to get crazy with all this, I know how it is.
2 - it all depends on who are those you call "others".

I wish you to be happy, wish me luck cos I'm going nuts.