Please dont live your life to please others because when it comes down to it, they dont give a damn about you, so you would have wasted your time and effort trying to please. Accept yourself for what you are, learn to like yourself for you. You dont want to grow old and realise you have wasted your life trying to make people happy. Also if people wanna bitch about you or talk about you behind your back, just let them get on with it, let everything go over your head because they will soon find something else to entertain them, hope this helps.

I know it's easier said than done but getting on with your life and not caring what others think might not be easy for you but it's not impossible. try to not let it affect you.

I agree with the above comments. But is easier said than done. There's religion and hobbies and jobs but in the end there is no manual for life you write your own story.

I don't think I am living for other people. Actually, the opposite, Im very self-righteous but only because I usually am right about things. When I am feeling confident, I sometimes see myself in hindsight as being rude, arrogant, or maybe intimidating. But at the time, I am only being true to myself and see myself as very much in tune to whats going on. However, most of the time I see myself as being nice and giving. Its like I am two people, the quiet and the proud. I want to be proud, but I get afraid of offending people and/or being attacked verbally - socially because of my confidence. You see I have found that some people love to pose an argument to people that are confident and get a thrill on exposing any weakness they can find. Its this insecurity that I have a problem with. How do I deal with it? How do I approach the endeavor of obtaining a personality that is warm and inviting, yet intellectually stern with people in all walks of life?

When I have attempted to answer this question for myself in the past it has lead me to start exercising, be more properly mannered, be more unmannered, change the way I dress, read self-help books, and, most troubling, to hide my past from myself and others. I used drugs for a period in my early twenties - that is my horrible shame. I also come from a broken home in which drug, physical, sexual, and mental abuses were prevalent. So now you can probably see that its not what I percieve people as wanting from me but rather if people accept me for what I have become and what I am. I just don't know because like Fanta said its my "own story". How can I become more self-assured because I do not have any assurance from following a parent or role model. The things I do such as exercising or changing the way I act are usually because I saw a way to improve myself and not for others.

I don't know. Sometimes I wish I had a friend that I could really share my life with. Someone that understands and appreciates even if its different from them. My wife doesn't come close. My mother doesn't get it. My sisters have their own issues. My friends treat me like a charity case sometimes - I hate that most of all. Other friends are kinda intimidated by me. And others are apalled by me when I let my guard down and act silly. I cannot figure out what my mentors may think of me. Of course this paragraph is straight out of my imagination. But this I do know, my daughter loves me.

Are you born uder the Gemini Sign most people on here will probly talk junk but tell me if you are then it is you I am A gemini and I do that I think my day over think of things I could have done diffrent past and present Very jealous of my husbands past relationships all kinds of shit I say your normal

Taurus

well I was wrong Sorry you are still normal I am the crazy one

I appreciate it. I doubt you are any crazier than the rest of us. It really feels good to express this though. You said you are jealous of your husbands past relationships. Well, how does being jealous of them make you any closer? that is precisely the kind of thing that bothers me. If you really love him, then you will accept him for everything he is (good or bad) and understand him too. Take some time to understand why your husband is what he is today and what he thinks has made him that way. By doing that, you can probably see how you fit into his life. If you know how you fit, then you will have no desire of being jealous of past relationships.

Yes you are so rite u made a great point..
I dont know what does it but i certaintly will take your advice and remember it ..
Hope everything works out for ya

i think you are gay, think about that

I Could really talk alot of shit back to you ..
But since Im in a good mood today .
Simply Go Fuck yourself

im glad i found someone who shares a similar problem with me. it may be that misery loves company, but i can really relate.

i am the same way. sometimes i think of myself as OCD as well. the thing about me is, my obsession with thinking about what other people think, (probably a product of OCD), comes and goes.

for a few months ill be great and not even care, and some months, such as now, i will find my hours consumed thinking about what other people think about me.

this mainly started after i stopped hanging out with my old friends. i feel that when im around people and socializing, it becomes easier to deal with people.

but now that i stopped hanging out as often, i feel my social skills are deteriorating. i socialize well in school but other than that its hard for me.

i wish i could see a pshychiatrist about this but i dont want to tell my parent about this.

just get a close group of friends...... if people didnt like you they wouldnt be nice and tolerate being around you......... i have the same issue