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I can't cum during sex.
If I masturbate [only by rubbing my cl*t or rubbing/grinding,not fingering], or if a guy goes down on me, I can cum.
But if I'm having sex, or anything having to do with something going inside of me, I don't cum and never have that way.
I have no idea why, and I've been trying to figure it out for a while.
It's not the guy either, I know it's me.
I've had many sex experiences and a lot of good sex.
It feels so good when I'm having sex, and sometimes when he hits the right spot, it feels SO good that I can't take it. It's like, it feels TOO good and I have to tell him to not go so deep/hard.
It's just really weird, and I'd like to know what the hell is wrong with me, lol.
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Comments (14)
ladyoftheworld (4309)
2006-11-27 07:47:56
Hi, you are not the only one like this. Many women cant cum having sex. Infact I think majority of women cant cum just having sex. They need foreplay or oral sex first. If you wanna cum during having sex, ask you boyfriend to rub his fingers on your clit whilst he is having sex with you, this way you will have your orgasm whilst having sex
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roger49 (3711)
2006-11-27 12:09:12
Perhaps if you were to continue when it "feels too good" you would cum while having sex.
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Korriexx (4485)
2006-11-27 18:23:29
i know quite a few girls that cant even orgasim when they have sex this is perfectly normal and what she said lol
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AilaMarie (4489)
2006-11-28 00:53:02
Yes, I've tried that before. When it "feels too good" I try and keep going to see if that helps. But nothing happens, and it gets to the point where I'm like ahhh and I still have to tell him to stop.
And it also takes a while for me to cum. If he's just rubbing my clit, I'm not so sure if that would work. I have to have it rubbing my clit and close to the hole. It's really weird, I don't know.

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x.princess.x (3703)
2006-11-28 13:16:16
Alot of woman never orgasm
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AilaMarie (4489)
2006-11-29 01:33:24
I DO orgasm though.
I just can't when something is going inside me, like in and out.
ahhh idk.
I guess it's normal.
I honestly didn't think it was, but I'm glad I know now.
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Cinderflower (4693)
2006-12-10 03:44:04
Rub your clit while he's thrusting inside you. Or let him keep going when it feels "too good". That's probably your G spot.
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CockCrazyGirl4Life (2408)
2006-12-10 23:55:22
Wow, I'm glad I don't have this problem.

Orgasm via penetration is the most satisfying experience in the world. Clitoral orgasms are too light-weight, and leaves more to be desired. Also, I'm tired of seeing other women, who suffer with this malfunction, attempt to pass it off as "normal for most women". For the record... it's NOT & IMO, such females are simply closet lesbians.
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normmyass (4845)
2006-12-19 02:12:00
One of my ex-girlfriends had the same problem it is incredibly common. Alfred Kinsey reported that as high as 70% of women do not cum durring sex some not at all. However with my ex girlfriend who had slept with many guys before me we tried the masturbation durring sex thing. It took a while but then it worked. From then on very quickly masturbation was not needed durring sex. Now she has multiple orgasms with squirting from just sex. Unlike with men a womans cumming is triggered from the mind. You just have to convince your self you can and how.
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Deal79 (4945)
2006-12-26 11:35:07
@: CockCrazyGirl4Life
Lesbian? You're calling her a lesbian?

Just checking.
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smithee (4389)
2007-01-06 20:22:28
Not my fault due.
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DrKimber (5336)
2007-01-16 18:14:52
Perfectly normal. Less than 10% of women can climax with penetration. Most of those who say they do belong in the theatre and not the bed.

Some women can only climax when alone. This points to a psychological block, not physical. Try relaxing, try mixing it up, and most importantly-don't be afraid to touch yourself when he is in there! Plus, it's a major turn on for the guys...
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robeenie (9733)
2007-08-02 17:40:31
yeah, i have the same problem, i was just surfin the net to see if its normal, i had sex for the first time 4 weeks ago, and so far i havent came through sex, i feel the pleasure...just nothin to show for it. lol. i have also came through oral sex but thats it...glad to know im not the only one who feels like this. i'll take some of the help from the other commenters on board and see wa happens.
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Guest1111111 (11505)
2007-11-07 21:27:39
Maybe its not THAT good.
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