MOM SAYS NO!!

Your mother is concerned for you, not trying to punish you. At age 13 she feels having a boyfriend can lead to trouble and she is right, it often does even though you now think you can head off problems. Try this, wait a year and then approach your mother about this. A year does make a difference and it isn't uncommon for girls to not be given permission to date until age 16. Your mother isn't trying to be a thorn in your side, rather she is trying to protect you. Be grateful you have the mom you have.

Do as your told

wow cab youre really a rebel :D

Why not just say what you said in your post, to you mum?

Naughty Rascal, I thought the same as you, but in defense of the mother this is what likely came across her mind and caused her to switch:

At age 13,

1. no birth control, high risk of pregnancy, and a huge problem if it happens. Just saying no doesn't work for long in the heat of passion.

2. use of condoms cuts down on pleasure and high chance they will not be used at some point.

3. no condoms and risk of disease

4. HIV infection and a life altering problem, cost of drugs over $10,000 per year to prevent AIDS from developing, which there is no cure for.

5. At age 13, reputations develop easily, espcially in a school system, and kids are often downright mean and sometimes vicious. Rumors and labels get tossed around and the person who was your closest friend, your intimate partner, has a falling out with you, then becomes vindictive, uses your most private matters and slings them around as a weapon.

13 year olds should not be dating!

im 12, ive had more girlfriends than my fingers, iv made out, and gotten a blowjob. my mom doesnt want me to be active. but wut is your mom gunna do about it, if u go to the same skool she cant prevent it. so just live your life the way u want to

Sometimes you need to cut loose and have fun, but you should keep it under control at age 13 (THAT MEANS NO SEX!!) ^^ lol

Honor thy Father and Mother! need i say more? she tell you this stuff for a reason although you may not realize the purpose until years down the road. listen to your Mom its ok.

mommy dearest knows best..

honey... do your homework first... i mean, you are just 13, dont rush... things have their time to be done and you are way far from the dating and boyfriends time...
the more mature you are when you start with all that, the more you will enjoy it...

She's just looking out for you, she loves you. Maybe do try and tell her what you've said here. If you're sincere in that you say you would tell a boy that wanted to have sex with you at 13, and you know your boundaries, maybe you can show her you are mature enough to 'date' as americans call it. If not, just get on with what most 13 year olds do, daydream about boys and enjoy your youth! You will have boyfriends in good time, i'm sure.

wow u ppl r sooo uptight,hun i started dating in 6th grade,i was 12. and i kept it a secret from m parents and they still don't know i date,and i also have sex! i'm 15 and i always use protection soo if u wanna date,then da,if u wanna have sex use protection,i don't thinlk ur quite od enough for sx yet though,wait on the sex part ok hun?jus have fun!!

yeah you can date but no sex....plus if you start to take birth control pills too early.. I don't think it's good though...but use condom when you're old enough to have sex...kiss and hug are ok...but it will leads to a guy wants to have sex with you and will touch you then you will give it to him.... Just try to protect yourself ok?????

you better listen or else it REALLY WILL lead to sex and unplanned pregnancies and the like. don't do it

tell your mom that you can get fucked with or without a boyfriend, and that's just something she's going to have to deal with.

she'll love you for it.

Just saying no doesn't work all of the time! Your mother is concerned for you and your health. She is not picking on you, she just cares a great deal for you. I think dating at 13 is ok but dont let it get to a stage where it gets out of hand. You must respect your mothers' wishes while you are still a teen. I Hope this helped in some way.

your mother brought you up
please don't bring her down

Well said santi!

whatever ur mom doesn't know... won't kill her

unless you try to kill her

Listen to your mom, she loves you. And if you don't respect her. You'll never know what you have until it's gone.

As for being 13, you don't need a boyfriend, there are more things in life to do. Besides that it's so much more fun to be single and able to flirt, you don't want to be tied down to a stupid boy at 13. Most 13 year old boys are dumb, literally. You may be maturing but they aren't, not yet.

Just wait. And btw, sex. No. Keep it in your pants. I'm 15 and I've made the decision to stick to abstinance. No sex until marriage, and if a guy can't respect that, he's not good enough for me.

I hope that you read all of that, I'm really just trying to help, I hate to see young girls get their lives ruined. And yes dating at a young age can lead to a bunch of disasterious stuff. Besides you're not going to be with them forever, and do you really want to feel teenage heartbreak?

Angel

heck dont listen to her, go ur own way. i mean if u think u r ready go for it. parents cant stop u from wut u wanna do. and 16 pshhh plz, im 13 too, just like u and my mom said im not aloud to date but hey i just lie and tell her i dont have a bf =P it works.

^ ^ you are going to end up pregnat at 15, with all types of STDs that you don't even know about. It's that kind of mind set that is truly upsetting to me. I was born into a world where there was no care, and my parent wasn't ready for a child. So just because you think you're ready, does NOT mean you are.

Don't throw my advise aside. I HATE to see young girls such as yourself THROW your life away! It is NOT worth it. And no, I'm not some old lady that's giving dumb advice.

I'm 15 years old with a lot to know about this sort of thing.

Please, just think about what you're doing. You can make a differnce, I'm really trying to, I hope you hear me through this, although no matter what, it is ultimitly your desicion.

I hope you make the right one!

Angel

dont listen to ur mom

don't be an ass

MOM'S ARE NEVER RIGHT!

man, you're an ass too.

Moms are nice, always listen to them

*Rakes in Brownie points*

Yes Bobert! you sure did 'rake' in tons of brownie points with me

Angel

Yup, never fails.

So Bobert, why would you want to earn brownie points with me anyways?

Shits and giggles?

Oh Bobert. You're crazy, in a good way. Kind of like Cab.

Alirght i hope to help you a little better then these people ....

ME::
Well everyone you finally get to know my age.
Im 13 (14 soon) my girlfriend is 14 and cant date till shes 16 due to her bitch of a mother that dose not want history (family) to repeat its self..... Ive been out with her for a lil under a year liked her since i was little(er). We can't go out on dates or hang out just about anything....(sucks) but we're going to the same high school and are invloed in a lot of after school stuff so we make it work...

FOR YOU:
If you want a boyfriend get one...but dont expect your mom to approve (my gf's mother likes me just not near her daughter)If you try to go out you are going to get in trouble phone taken away computer tv ect.... You can do really 3 things fine a 1 guy that will wait (like me) 2 same but a guy you might be able to talk your mom into letting you go out (i wish was my case) 3 just wait ....these are my guesses

Hopefully will help (and hopefully your not my gf lol)

NO...ineednolie im not ur girlfriend...but thanks that helps alot and i actually found some1 now!!!

that was a little confusing. but yea, little confusing.

thank you! gee someone on my side

eveyone listens to didsbury(new member)and may i say that you come across as a very sensible and articulate young lady. your beautiful heart wants a boyfriend but the intelligent part of your make up believes that maybe and i stress maybe it is not yet time to be serious about dating. please keep me informed.

i have a 13 year old sister and she told me the same thing just the other day our mother wont let her date i no how she feels and i no how my mother feels but really it's her choice if she want's to or not.so yeh it's really your choice because you have to live your life not your mother but at your age just keep with holding hands nothing more

Yup. Dating is the first step to sex - so if you date then be prepared. i have seen some very hot 13 year-olds with nice tits. Once a guy gets hot for you he will do what he can to get you. The hormones make you do a lot of things you don't plan.

i have big tits =] lol

Tell her theres nothing wrong with teen mums

maybe shes doesnt trust you.

LISEN TO YOUR MOM!!!

AMEN GURL!!!

Tell your mum that youve listened to her advise so you dont intend dating, just tell her that your masturbating instead.