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I think I am in love with a co-worker Part IV

Last time on "I think I am in love with a co-worker:" I asked this girl I've been working with out via email and she said she didn't get it. Her email was messing up and she really didn't get it so i sent her another asking her to lunch the following day. Unfortuanately her email was still messed up so she got it a day later. She told me she was sorry we couldn't have lunch but didn't offer to do it another time or anything. I told her in the email that I have had feelings for her for quite some time. I also told her I would really love to talk to her and get to know her better. When she first got it she didn't say much so i thought she was weirded out or something. Then when I got online later that night we talked for like two hours about a bunch of different stuff. We asked each other questions, likes and dislikes and stuff of that sort. So we are getting to know each other better but I'm not sure if she wants me to ask her out again or what since she was kind of short with me right after she read the email. Did she just need some time to digest it because it came as a bit of a surprise? What should my next course of action be? Thanks.
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-12 13:02:15
You are wasting your time with her. If she had any interest whatsoever in you she would have followed up for lunch. She sounds like a very polite girl who is trying to be nice to you but has no interest in you. I also don't believe much about emails getting messed up unless she has company email or spam blocker that blocks messages. This is just a delay tactic people use when they don't care to respond, blame it on the email trick. Look elsewhere for girl who has interest in you and don't waste anymore time with her.
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roger49 (3711)
2006-12-12 14:13:21
Sisophous, I'm disappointed in you. How much experience do you have with computers to not know that anything and everything can become messed up at any given time. At my school the email worked on some computers but not on others a week ago, and even when it is working it can take a day for an email to arrive. And let's not even get into my mom's email. Original poster, I say keep getting to know her, but give her some time before asking her out again. And don't be afraid to hedge your bets.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2006-12-12 17:29:26
Are you writing a novel
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-12 17:44:05
@: roger49
Roger, I'm just going by the things this poster describes, signals indicate to me she is disinterested. If a girl likes you, she will send clear messages or at least had followed up about going to lunch. She never did. I also have seen all the game playing by girls so I suppose I'm a bit cynical and don't waste my time with any who show signs of disinterest. This poor guy seems obsessed and is heading for a big let down.
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roger49 (3711)
2006-12-12 17:55:37
I wasn't disappointed in your advice, I was disappointed in your lack of cynicism about computers.
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Moi (588)
2006-12-12 18:02:02
It's possible she just wants to be your "buddy" on line and at work. Do you talk with her on the phone?

Go ahead and ask her out again, but not for lunch on a work day.
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Rory2424 (4424)
2006-12-12 20:27:34
This is the poster. I don't really know her that well so I'm thinking that before she decides if she wants to go on a date with me she wants to get to know me better(hence the chatting online). When I asked her out to lunch it was only two days after she had just broke up with her boyfriend of nine months. I'm thinking maybe I asked her too soon. She has seemed to have taken an interest in me and asks me a lot of questions about what I like to do and random questions like whats my favorite color. I of course have considered the possibility that she is completely not interested but then I think, if that's true why does she keep talking to me? She always initiates the conversations by the way.
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roger49 (3711)
2006-12-12 23:45:11
I think you asked too soon. I think you should get to know her better before making a move, although if what you say is true, it looks like she's at least somewhat interested.
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Fantainfinite (4355)
2006-12-13 07:08:54
I disagree with sisophohowthefuckdoispellthis. Girls are so all over the place, playing games, i love you, i hate you, i want money, i want love. They probably don't know what they want a lot of the time. I would say if you poured out your heart maybe she got a little scared. Maybe she wants to get to know you first. Give it a while, become friends first and then after a few months or 6 months or something ask her out again. Then again she could just be fucking every1 else at the office except you and using you to talk about her problems.
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Rory2424 (4424)
2006-12-13 12:27:57
well, we are both 18 years old and work at a pizza place, so she's definitely not screwing other people where I work. She mentioned to me that she liked laffy taffy so while she was at work i got one and stuck it in her windshield wiper, she called me and thanked me and said it was sweet. She just seems to be sending me a lot of mixed signals. Sometimes she's real chatty and sometimes not much at all. I felt weird the first couple of days after I asked her and when I went in to pick up pizza off the clock she complained that I didn't stay and talk to her. Just stuff like that that I just can't figure out what she wants me to do.
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Rory2424 (4424)
2006-12-14 00:31:40
Well, thanks for all the advice, even though i didn't like most of what i heard. The issue has finally been resolved after a week on an emotional roller coaster. She likes me she likes me not sort of deal. It turns out she really did want to get to know me and asked me out earlier tonight. So were goin out on Sunday. I couldn't be happier. Thanks again.
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Mimir2 (3348)
2006-12-14 00:55:12
sounds like youre still on the rollercoaster just going up this time.
And assuming your neediness and uncoolness will continue, and her crappy dishonest unworthy player attitude as well....
youre definitely in for a downrun soon.

I mean, whats the matter with you man, who cares if some woman somewhere wants to talk to you or not.
Youre just in a very dishonest and expensive way of buying laid.. and you might not even get laid at all after paying.

So my advice is... speed up in growing up, tell her to fuck off, read a book about the mysteries of the universe and then go downtown and fuck your fuckbuddy.
Thats living.


About your sunday going out thing....
are you paying?
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Knock_It_off (6904)
2007-03-25 11:50:06
She doesn't really like you like that. She's probably just trying to be nice to you. She thinks you're a pussy for asking her out through emails then asking her if she got them in person. She'd appreciate someone who has the balls to verbally ask her out.
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