Compulsive Lying..

Well, you are one step in the right direction, you admit to it and want to change. I imagine you really dug yourself in deep and are truly hated. I think the best thing to do is to apologize to each person, and then to seek help. No words are going to change your behavior, you need to deal with specialists who deal with compulsive behavior. I'd guess that a hypnotist may be helpful, not really sure where to direct you. Therapists may be able to direct you to someone who can help. Good luck, I can only imagine the situation you are in, must be horrible.

Well I'm not hated, -yet-, but I can only see the consequences of me bringing it all out (this is about four or five years solid lying, and a spattering prior), resulting in everyone I know hating me.

Cryingshame, what is really sad is you don't seem to have any control over it, it's habitual, sounds like a real illness. People must believe you can control the lying but it sounds like real destructive impulsive behavior.

Mmhmmm, if someone asks me a question my gut instinct is to lie and then I screw up later when it all breaks down.

heres the question

if you lie all the time, how do we know your not lieing about lieing

but if you are lieing about lieing, that means you tell the truth.

but if you tell the truth, then when you say you lie all the time, its true

so you're lieing,

so you telling the truth

so you're lieing......

Years ago I watched the soap opera As The World Turns and there was always a villain who would be a chronic liar, always digging himself into holes. I don't know why some people do it. I just did a google search under the title "compulsive liars" and there's a lot of info on it. Check it out, may point you in the right direction.

Cryingshame, you aren't lying to me now are you????? only kidding, bad joke.

I feel sick. As I was writing that I was still lying to someone and just now a friend referenced on of my biggest lies. Ugh, I'm repulsed at myself.

You are feeling sick because you are out of control. Once you start talking to someone who specializes in correcting it you will feel a load of weight off your shoulders. You know habits are contagious, so is telling the truth and honesty, politeness too. I'm sure you have a lot of good qualities, just need to address the harmful ones. I couldn't bare to tell a lie, only because I've developed the habit of being truthful, my conscience would kill me.

Trust me.. when im really stressed. i make myself cry. I can cry for hours and just go over the bad shit and good shit in my life. It really works. Make a mence with your self

GL bro

You a liar and deserve all you get and people will hate and will never trust you again serves you right I hate liars

Is that the truth, Cab?

stop lying!!

That must be so hard to deal with. If i were you i would just stop lying all together. Also if you can maybe try and tell some people you are very close to about it and say you are sorry. Hopefully they will forgive you and they can help you. Just try to be a better person and you wont be hated. I hope eveything works out okay for you.

I lie all the time. My first choice when answering someone is to lie. I don't see anything wrong with it. If you're really worried about messing up badly, then don't answer right away. Think about the question, then weigh the pros and cons of lying.

i'm a pathological liar as well. it's so bad to the point where I lie about what I ate for breakfast today. What I say is start over with the people you lied to and tell them the truth.

You should only lie to save your own life, otherwise just tell the truth. Stop being afraid of being lame. I know a whole family that lies, the daughter told me she was having a baby boy, and she really had a girl. She also told me she has a house with her bf, but actually she stil lives with her parents and her 2 sisters, in a one bedroom apartment. They have bunk beds on their living room.

Ahhhh.. I hate liers too. Especially cheating liers. jerks.

but in your case at least you know it

I wish I could stop... I wish I wasn't so defective...All I ever wanted was to be accepted. Why am I sooo screwed up? I have gotten better but I still lie sometimes and I just want to stop. I torment myself... I don't want to end up like Blanche from a street car

lying is normal.look at this place for example, every guy has an 11 inch penis.you think that aint lying?our president lies his ass off everytime he says the war is going well.so relax you fit right in.

If you have been lying for such a long time the people around you are either incredibly stupid and trusting or they already know. They might even be waiting for you to come clean and talk about it. The complusive behavior is covering up for something...even if it seems like you are otherwise fine you are avioding and denying SOMETHING - hence the compulsive coping mechanism. If you lie to other people how do you know you aren't lying to yourself as well? Why don't you try telling the truth voluntairily about one thing, but make it into a joke, make sure its a light and funny time...relax. It will make you feel so much better that you will find yourself wanting to come clean with other things...slowly. It doesn't have to be a horrible expeirence that completely breaks your self-image.

The help of a conselor would be a good thing as well, you don't have to get serious all at once, just talk about things. You probably have low self-esteem, but thinking about your low self-esteem does nothing but bring it down more...so find something silent to do(like drawing, writing, ect.) and redirect the urge to lie into that. Make it fun for yourself.

Good luck.

The most important thing to remember is that REAL crisis' are things like natural disasters, blood pumping out of a wound three feet into the air with the beat of your heart, a woman having a baby, being trapped underwater..ect. Emotions will pass and the new day will be just that...new. As long as you don't hang on to all the old shit and deny yourself a chance to live.

your lying again!!

Aha, tell everyone you're a compulsive liar, and are trying to seek remedial help asap. The first step is to not lie to yourself, and a little help, if you lie, I've learned that lies have to become reality, like it really did transpire, or really did happen, you've got to trick your mind into believing it's the story of your life, and then, stick to the story, to the point, it becomes secound nature to do that.

Otherwise, don't lie and please do seek professional help.

Good luck!