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I need to let go of him

I have been seeing this guy and its the type of relationship were we have admitted to not being able to get enough of each other and then down to a total cool off for months and back on again....for over period of several years. During this time we have both tried to have other relationships always falling short of "what we had". One night he told me he really wanted to be with me (marriage the whole nine yards) or walk away completely. This is hard to do when the very same person professes to tell he will always be in your life. I ended up being the one to chose "walk away" thinking it would be healthy to keep him at arms length. This was two years ago. I haven’t had a steady relationship because ever time I think he's finally out of my system he pops back in with a phone call or e-mail and I run back to him like a lost puppy. The problem...I really put him out my life (over 6 months ago) and I saw him the other day passing in the street. I fell back into all the emotions we ever had in that moment. We will playfully talk and get all suggestive, but upon reflection I told him I was confused and when I finally want him to admit his feelings other than hitting on my like a 15 year old…he asks if I am drinking? For the record I am not, but I am so surprisingly obsessed I don’t know what to do. I am going crazy....
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-24 11:41:20
Definitely do not marry, you two do not seem compatible long term and it will highly likely end in divorce/separation. To me it sounds like you are both very needy people who provide companionship that you haven't found elsewhere. You both know your relationship is not what you want it to be and getting together is a match of convenience. See him and realize if you wish but understand it will end in another meaningless split or drop him, dig up the courage and do not return to him. Find someone else who will be more rewarding long term. Keep dating others, don't compare others to this same guy. Lower your expectations and you will eventually find Mr. Right. Good Luck.
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salmons007 (5370)
2007-01-19 14:54:40
i know exactly what you are going through, i have the same situation with one of my ex's, but i soon came to realise that we could never work, and i think it is the same for you, what you need is just some good fun with your girlfriends and those feelings you have will slowly but gradually get smaller everytime you see him
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DarthChop (5472)
2007-01-24 09:18:02
I think (just my opinion) that you should think about what it is about him that you are so attracted to... Does he remind you of someone? Is he your "back-up" guy if other relationships go awry?
If you're serious about moving on, you need to make this explicitly clear to him, and then refuse any advances he may make. Hopefully he'll get the hint.
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