i feel like i have no real friends http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/ well i guess that soemtimes i feel the same way, like im in the 8th grade haha and i have tons of friends at school, but its like i never hang out with them. my mom is way over protective, and she wont let me even go dt or anythign. so at nights i feel alone. any advise' http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-212782 2007-12-16 18:11:52 Everything you just said matches me exactly. I think it just depends on the environent you are in as to how many friends you make. The cure for me is to date people, so that I can actually feel close to someone. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-208072 2007-12-07 10:31:20 :( THAT IS BAD http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-201039 2007-11-24 13:30:59 Feeling lonely is normal most people feel that way I have 3 maybe 4 really close friends. And I've now known them for years. One since highschool one was his roomate later and one from college. Learn to think positive by not telling yourself that you don't deserve it, and stop telling yourself bad or negative things after I graduated I secluded myself and was a loner who got high and depressed and constantly beating myself up which made me more depressed. Find interesting places that you like and make friends, Community College museums etc whatever interests you. Most Americans are anti intellectual and when you bring up insecurities they think your wierd because most people ignore them and pretend they don't exist. When I was 23 I started roller blading and exercising and was trying to do things for myself and I dated 4 women consecutively it was because i felt good and that attracts people to you. I wish I could have learned this at younger age I'm now almost 37 and I'm just figuring it out. You are great follow your passion and if someone puts you down it is not about you, it is about them and their own insecurities. Be true and honest to yourself and get out. Highschool sucks for most people but life outside can be better. Do what you truly enjoy and be happy then people will want be around you. Believe you can, no one can do it for you! Peace http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-182121 2007-10-22 13:04:03 honestly, once you get to college you'll make tons of friends. no matter what kinda person you are. popular er not, college is a BIG place and theres bound to be people who share the same interests as you. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-164754 2007-09-16 23:42:10 talk to peple more. if you do you might find some friends that will becime tight with. it doent have to be ONE frind. it can be more. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-151857 2007-08-20 21:47:47 People put too much weight on "oh it will happen in college" because the experiences are like high school experiences- they are based on the situations. If you want friends, and you are truly unhappy, you need to change something. Evaluate yourself... what is easiest to change without harming your core identity that would draw potential friends to you long enough for them to become attatched' http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-134107 2007-07-16 18:23:02 i ll b ur friend my hotmail is netlord06@hotmail.com http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-134105 2007-07-16 18:09:39 FUCK SOMEONE love. love. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-105840 2007-05-12 16:55:35 i know dat feeling, i dont give a damn either. i dont care what people think of me i dont listen to popular music i dont do any of the same boring repetitive CRAP!! that the majority of people do its just a waste of life my freind! i dont need freinds to be happy, i have a girlfreind and she is all i care about, what im trying to say is that you dont need freinds to make ya happy they wont satisfly you and once you have one you'll want more, just concentrate on your grades right now, what would you rather do eh' spend a couple of years studing being bored and having a wonderful future with lots of friends, or have a great couple of years and mess up your future. good luck dood! http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-103883 2007-05-09 17:22:51 im the same but i choose not to have any close friends. i know that sounds stupid but im happy not being close to anyone. i go out and stuff and hang with some people but they the sort of people that only want to get fucked up wasted without any friendship strings attached if you get what i mean and im happy with that. im more of a home person anyway but i do occasionally like to get out now and then. why not ask someone at school who you feel most connected to and ask them if they wanna hang in during the weekend or something'' http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-101970 2007-05-06 04:53:18 Lmao if this was a girl at my school named Chlesea Bianci I would laugh my ass off.... http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-101905 2007-05-06 01:07:06 I feel the same :/ http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-90921 2007-04-18 00:19:07 Youll probably get friends in college since its a whole new school and a fresh start. But maybe you should consider YOURSELF into this problem. How social are you' are you trying to make friends or just like expecting them to come' I know that friends come when you talk about something or share an interest and if you dont talk much or seem to be a boring person people might consider that a turn off. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-90569 2007-04-17 20:14:18 I know the feeling man, maybe not quite that drastic, but i know the feeling. You need to work on the social life in general for it to be good in college. I went throught a similar thing and i've got my fair share in college now. So it all just depends on how you act. Stay quite and stand in the corner...you're going to stay in that corner by yourself. Open up to people and attempt to make friends. Spark conversation, take up invites, live it up. You only live once... http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-80039 2007-03-28 20:08:30 A WISE PERSON ONCE TOLD ME, "IF YOU HAVE 2 OR 3 GOOD FRIENDS YOUA RE LUCKY THEY WITH YOU FOR LIFE!! IF YOU HAVE ANYMORE FRIENDS THEN THAT...YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS AT ALL BECAUSE ALL THEY WILL DO IS HURT YOU IN THE END!" I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTON TO THAT AND HAD TO BE THE POPULAR ONE....NOW THAT I AM AWAY FROM SCHOOL AND ON MY OWN...I WISH I WOULD HAVE PAID ATTENTON TO THOSE WORDS BACK THEN! http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-76907 2007-03-21 14:05:20 i am the same way i suppose. i used to hang out with a large group of people every day, but then i decided to do something with my life instead of the same old shit. i took up something that im very into now, and i am determined to make it my future. i talk to lots of kids and i kno lots of kids in my school but i never hang out with any of them. might have done it once or twice as a freshman, but i never do. i feel lonely and out of place sometimes, but the truth is i know if i continue to be successful with what im doing, ill be happy later in life and have a lot of friends later on. i mean i hope =P http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-76901 2007-03-21 13:54:12 I don't mean to burst your bubble, but college isn't all that differnt from high school. makes sense, after all, it's just high school kids in a new setting. I felt the same way as you in high school. My boyfriend was my best friend so he was the only person I ever hung out with. I remember being sad that my mom ordered 200 senior pictures but I only had a few people to hand them out to. I invited those same few people to my graduation party but they didn't come. I'm not trying to make this into a boo story, because I take full responsibility for my pathetic social life. Anyway, college isn't a whole lot different, which is fine because they're all mostly assholes anyway. I do think it's important to have at least one close friend though, whether a boyfriend or sibling. Perhaps, if you show more interest in other people, they'll show interest in you. For now though, look forward to the future and a fresh start. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-70990 2007-03-03 02:49:37 I'll be your friend ;) http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-56442 2007-01-19 07:08:35 it's better to have few great friends than many fake friends-- don't worry about it you'll probably have better friends in college http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-53434 2007-01-11 00:17:09 i'm like u and don't feel like i have any real friends, like when my friends go on trips into town and the cinema, i am rarely told about it and if i ask i'll be told nothing is happening on that day, then when i go out to do some shoping in the city, i'll end up seeing them all in town! http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-52403 2007-01-07 13:48:40 If you find one true friend in life your lucky these days. You dont sound like your completely alone or an outcast so I wouldnt worry about youll make friends in college Im sure http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-49716 2006-12-27 19:49:52 I'm the same way. I haven't even had any friends since the 8th grade, and now I am a college sophomore. I couldn't stand the few friends I had. All they did was insult, criticize, and nag at me for not conforming to their petty group. My middle school experiences gave me such a strong distaste of "friend" groups that I have vowed to never ever be apart of such a pathetic crowd. I am far too individualistic anyway. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-49607 2006-12-27 00:20:43 Same here too. I do have friends but then we not really hang out. 5 years ago, my best friends back stabbed me and it's hurt until now. It's hard for me to find new friends now. I can talk online but in real life. I'm really scared and not trust people. I feel lonely too. I hope in college you will have new friends and start to hang out with them more. Hang out, go shopping, eat, ect. If you don't like to hang out with them long... just go for a bit then go home or go somewhere you want to go. http://isitnormal.com/story/6122/#comment-49577 2006-12-26 22:53:11