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I'm 21 and have NEVER been on a date
I'm 21 years old and have never been on a date, kissed a guy much less had a boyfriend or sex. I feel so left out when comparing myself to my friends who have been in relationships and some are even engaged. I know I'm not ugly because I have been told I'm beautiful many times. I get stares from guys but none approach me. What could be the problem??
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Maybe you give off waves of contempt, I have seen some hot women who never have relationships because guys are afraid to approach them. Or it could be that the right guy just hasn't come along yet.
shoot i'll go out with ya.
are you shy? if so-- don't be and make the move! guys could be intimidated by your beauty
Do you stink?
Your story is not as unusual as you may think. Many attractive women give off bad vibes that tells guys to stay away. I suspect something along this line is going on with you. A lot of female models are not dating or even involved in relationships over some time. Do you ever give a guy a smile? This sends a strong message that you are approachable.

You may want to consider an untraditional approach but pretty common. Many girls take the initiative and ask the guy to do something or go someplace with them, such as a concert, a show, or anyplace.

Here's an idea, pick up a couple of tickets to some event (sports event are fun) or concert and ask a guy if he'd like to join you. Have a backup plan (girlfriend) to go to if the guy can't make it or declines. There is no fuss or hassle, and it's something to look forward to. A girl covering for a single date is no big deal either as the guys usually pick up the tab the other times. You can also get their phone numbers on your own, give them a ring. I've had many girls call me at home, some I didn't even know. Have fun with it too. good luck
Don't worry baby, I'll fuck you. Just dance a little, smile a little, talk a little bit. Sometimes you gotta make it a little easier for the guy to approach you. If you're waiting for your night in shining armour maybe he's out there but maybe you'll be waiting a long time. Maybe lower your standards.
do you do drugs?
Maybe she should...
It brings people together
heh
Try http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html it gives hints on flirting. Flirting is an art form. It takes practice. I am only now BEGINNING to pick up on it.

You may only be able to smile and get a smile back before you blush and turn away, but keep practicing, and increase the number of men you flirt with day by day or week by week, start with 1, then 2, 3, 4, ad infinitum.

I had a similar problem. I just stumbled into my first sexual experience. And that is not something that I would advise. Be careful what you wish for.

Once you do get close to someone, DO NOT GET TOO CLOSE TOO QUICKLY. You still have over a decade to have sex & propagate. I repeat: Do Not Rush It.
well, if you hold off for a while.. you could get big bucks if you make a documentry about your life of being a virgin =) chick version of the 40 year old virgin.. heh i'd pay to see that!
Ha, I'm 21 and in the EXACT same situation as you. I know another girl like this too.

I've found that it does somewhat have to do with 'vibes' or whatever you want to call it. Although I've never been on a date, I've noticed (through observing friends and others) that usually it's the girls initiating the flirting or perpetuating it. Most guys will start a conversation but I think girls have to be aggressive or show obvious interest in the guy. If not, he won't have any confidence to ask you out. I guess men need a confidence boost or have some garuntee that you're not going to shoot them down if they do ask you out.
I'm 25 and never been on a date...
The women around me don't interest me much, and the ones that do are the age that would go for guys much older than me.

Don't try to force something to happen... "if it's meant to happen" and all that stuff.
yea im 17 and been on one date, all my guy friends just tell me they want to fuck me..im like uh ok thanks u want to fuck me but not date me?! and its not like im ugly, or a whore, so idk wtfs wrong with guys nowadays. i just stick to my education b4 lookin to fuck around with annoying lil boys. but i do hate when all my friends and their bfs are together then theres me. you need to hang out in places whith real men, not lil boys
pretty girls scare guys, because they're afraid that they might get rejected or they get bad vibes off the girl, so... so i'd suggest going to a dating servise or something! go all out, get some experience
Cant you just buy a gigalo or something?
vibrator.

..problem solved.
listen to sisophous.
Ask someone out. You can't have what you want if you just stand around and wait for something to happen. Grow some balls.
don't compare yourself to your friends, please
no i dont fink this is normal im 15 n already i have been out wiv 13 ppl the longest relationship i have been in woz a year and a half and i have shagged 6 ov thm 13 ppl n that how it goes for most ov my friends az well n they are all about my age i fink ya jst need to get out their more go clubbin or summat u will find sum 1 sum day lol
21 and never been on a date :O
lol u could marry someone and make them VERY HAPPY IF UR A VIRGIN AND UR BEAUTIFUL


if i was like 25 and u were hot id be like lets get married if u were a cool ass chick


nothing turns a guy on more than a girl whos like innocent
maybe ur shy bbe

try nd be reli reli open

be flirtasicous
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You a sped?
thats because you are a fucking slut
dont compare you self to fucking sluts like your friends
wow... thats pretty sad
I'm 21 years old and have never been on a date, kissed a guy much less had a boyfriend or sex. I feel so left out when comparing myself to my friends who have been in relationships and some are even engaged. I know I'm not ugly because I have been told I'm beautiful many times. I get stares from guys but none approach me. What could be the problem??
Mabey men asume you already are with someone, because thats usually the case with pretty women. Try asking someone out yourself, or as a last resort, go online to a dating site.
YOU MUST BE UGLY AS HELL!
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