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hi not that long ago i swapped numbers with a bar tender at a club i go to all the time. we text for a week and he came on pretty strong saying he really liked me. But i didnt mind. I went to see him at work friday and saturday night, he told me he wouldnt pull any other girl cos he wanted me. On saturday i realised i liked him back. but had other things to deal with and he had seen me talking to other lads though i did pay him alot of attention towards the end of the night i went to say bye and gave him a kiss. he was annoyed i had to rush off and on the night was asking me why i did. anyway he ignored me all of the next day even though i had sent him loads of messages. and then the day after he was texting me and i couldnt work out weather he was annoyed or not. then he stopped textin back again and i sent him about 5 msgs before i realised i needed to tell him that i didnt mean to rush off and the other guy was just a mate. so i sent another 2mgs saying i needed to ring him about someting, still no reply so i text him explaining that i was only texting so much to try and work out if everything was ok between us as i thought he was pissed off. do u think i have f**ked it all up?

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moother (5095)

2007-01-15 17:25:02

yes

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sisophous (3738)

2007-01-15 18:04:56

I agree, yes you messed up. There are no rules, you have a right to talk to whomever you wish, but it's very rude to express interest in someone and then blow them off ("had other things to deal with"). And, in front of his view too. It's game playing and seems to have annoyed him, can't say I blame him.

I've dealt with far worse, once had a girlfriend flirt with other guys while on a date with me, can you believe that!!! I didn't show any anger although I was fuming inside. That same night she admitted to trying to press my buttons to get a reaction out of me. That was the last time I ever bothered with her.

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crazyme (4954)

2007-01-15 18:50:46

You have your right to talk to whoever you want to talk to. He works at the bars, many girls will come and talks to him even flirt. He has to learns how to deal with it. You haven't start relationship with him and he acts like you're his already and not let you talk to anyone. If you're with him, he won't let you talk to any of your guy friends. Tell him that you have your right to talk to anyone and explain to him that they're just friends. He needs to give you trust if he wants to start relationship with you

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cabinet70 (4440)

2007-01-15 18:53:18

you hardly even know him move on find someone else

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CuteStrawberry (3780)

2007-01-16 01:13:47

he sounds kinda jealous and insecure otherwise he wouldn't care if you were talking to other guys. its a damn bar and its not your fault, dont worry about it there are plenty of other men!

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mymunchkins (5639)

2007-02-02 02:48:20

He's being too sensitive. Make him text you back.

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ThisChica20 (6524)

2007-03-12 16:34:34

This guy is dumb.
He'll probably be an abuser if you do end up in a real relationship together.

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Anaxamander (7312)

2007-04-12 03:08:11

Here in the states, we think your a desperate person if you try to date a bartender. or a whore.