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Lying

I started dating a wonderful man about 10 months ago. It seemed to be love at first sight but things changed. I lied to him in the beginning about horrible things but after 5 months I decided to make a difference and wanted honesty so I came clean and told him everything. It didnt matter if I even lost him I did not want to lie anymore. I never cheated or even talked to another man the lies were things that had happened to me in my life. He said he was proud of me for telling him everything and we would work it out. But that has not happened since that day our relationship has been going through hell. I have not lied to him since I came clean but he doesnt believe a word I say which is understandable. He changed into a different person after He found out I was lying tro him. He became very verbally abusive. He tells me it is my punishment and I need to understand. My question is is this right should I listen to the abuse ? He says I need to suffer the consequences. It has come down to me not being aloud to shave my legs, wear no makeup, quit school, I cant even go to the dentist or doctor because he doesnt trust me. I dont know what I should be doing I have done everything he has wanted and it has not helped. He does not trust me and says he hates my guts I ruined him I made him the mean person he has become. I need to kiss his ass and treat him like a king cuz he deserves it after everything I have done. I am in desperate need of advice. It has came to the point where I dont like the person he has become but I feel resposible. I have tried to end the relationship and told him to find some one to make him happy but he will not let me go. He says I need to stay and suffer and maybe one day he will become that nice man I fell in love with. I am going crazy I have changed for the better and he has changed for the worst is there a way to get back to what we had?
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Comments (12)
You should deserve better. You told him the truth and you try to make him happy but he's not appreciates. Dump him and find a guy that is treat you much better. Everyone lie once in a while. But you learn your lesson and try to do better. He can't treat you like that. If he loves you truly he will forgive you. It's hard for him to trust you again but that is not the way to make him trust you from abuse. Lost someone trust is very easy but earn someone trust is very hard. I think he should treat you better to see how you do and how you learn your lesson. Abusive can't help anything. He wants you to stay and suffer from what you did. It's not right. Later on in future you may get marry with him. He will make your life like hell and always bring that up. You won't have a good time in your life with this man.
And one thing, if he wants to forgive you and have a good old time like before. He will forgive you and love you. Not abuse you. If thing happen like that already. I don't think he will change to go back to the old him and treat you nicely like before. Maybe I'm wrong. Why not tell him that he needs to stop what he's doing and treat you like you're his gf. A gf should now be treat like that.
you shouldn't be putting up with this shit. get a restraining order against this guy and leave before it gets even uglier
Well its not his fault its urs, so it sounds like its time to let it go, and move on. Next time dont lie, and u wont be in this position.
You did your part. You righted your wrongs.
The ball is in his park now. You did what was right, now it is his term. If he is not forgiving there is nothing you can do, but if you do leave him learn from your mistakes.
You sound like a good person who has some issues you want to deal with. You will do better next time.
How bad were the lies hun, if u didnt cheat on him, then wat the f*cks his problem, dump his ass.
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He's not God, and it's not up to him to "punish" you and make you suffer.

What the f*ck does shaving your legs or going to the dentist have to do with lying? Dump him NOW.
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well.. if what you lied about is fucking scary... them i understand it...

but he seems like hes acting like a crazy father, instead of a crazy boyfriend. if you leave you cant be an idiot and call him.... get all your shit. go. never look back... dont make this mistake again