Can't Have SEX

I met my husband when i was 24 and I was a virgin when i met him. We have now been together for 6 years, and we got married 2 years ago. we are very happy in nearly all aspects of our relationship. he is funny, kind, attractive, and he feels the same way for me as i do about him. As i mentioned before, i was a virgin when i met him. The thing is, i am still a virgin. My husband and i have never had sex. we have experimented with all types of oral, but when i feel like things are getting too intimate, i just cannot bring myself to do it. My husband is very patient with me and he always says he will wait for me no matter how long it takes, but i am starting to feel really guilty for taking his sex life away from him, and also the chance to have children. We have been to countless sex therapists, and i have been to the doctor. but nobody seems to know what the problem is. I am devastated because i am desperate to start a family with the man that i love, but no matter how hard i try i cant let my husband have sex with me. has anybody else had a similar experience? i am so desperate to resolve this problem so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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crazyme (4954)

2007-01-21 16:15:53

I think you should try it even you don't like it. You love that man and you want to be with him. I was scared too but I get over it. Now I got a wonderful son. You have to fight with your head and your thought. No one can help you with that even the doctor or s*x therapy. It's all in your head.

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Moi (588)

2007-01-21 17:54:59

Your husband must be a patient man.

You say when things are getting too intimate you back off?! I think that having oral sex is more intimate than having intercourse.

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Shavemeslowly (5177)

2007-01-22 02:22:10

You are overestimating sex.
Don't romantisize it. He is sticking his cock in your pussy. Thats it. DOesn't have to be perfect. Get over it.

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Godson (3879)

2007-01-22 05:21:11

yes, sex is over-rated, but dont worry, hes probly gettin it elswhere.

BTW, Good Luck W/ That.

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Shaka_Zulu (3938)

2007-01-24 23:09:54

do this, let him tie you down gently to a bed & gag you. then you can't change your mind. that way you will have to get over it. if he loves you he will be very gentle & you may even end up loving it in the end.

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freakravingdoll (5555)

2007-01-29 02:51:37

so hes gay.....but sex is over rated as far as the virginity thing...suck it up and do it...afterwards you realize how stupid it was to make such a big deal....

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piratewithahardon (5527)

2007-02-14 13:54:27

Have iiiim

I wouldn't be suprised if he was fucking 50 other girls.
You need to be giving him some, at least once a month

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Moonbeam (5922)

2007-02-16 12:38:09

Why not try having a few drinks to help yourself relax. It can work wonders.

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Breezy (6041)

2007-02-20 16:44:45

I really think you should try it.
Your husband is very sweet for being so patient.
& You are not wierd, sex is scary because of the hype, but it's over-rated.

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Nodo_TheRanter (5564)

2007-02-20 16:52:14

You are a selfish twat, give up the nooky! NOW!

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sonic.echo (6320)

2007-03-03 12:18:23

you obviously have some fears and a lot of pent up feelings/expectations about whats to come... if you know you really love him, im sure the sex will be a fantastic way to open up to him, and let him discover with you parts of you that you've never known before... or if you're too unsure, the experience might disappoint you... if you're looking to the action of the sex to enlighten you then you're goign to be disappointed, because sex is, it really is, overrated. but if youre lookign to let him into you physically and as well emotionally i think it will be great for you. if you want to have children, imagine the great and wonderful powers of life together you have and the love you share.... just aspire some good feelings within, without limiting the experience with expectations. masturbating would probably help too.

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Danny50010 (6400)

2007-03-10 23:33:20

Get your husband to tie you down and fuck your brains out. After that you'll most likely want more. Problem solved.

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ThisChica20 (6524)

2007-03-12 17:08:42

You're MARRIED and haven't had sex?
Something is wrong.

JUST DO IT :)

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crash (6534)

2007-03-12 19:56:38

If you are truly considering a family you will need to have sex unless your considering artificial insemination. You have experimented with oral so you know how to get each other off. So whats the problem? Sex I must admit was a little hard for me and in hindsight it was really about me not being comfortable with myself entirely. It doesn't have to be a fast 'n' furious style encounter(with people screaming and bed slats breaking), you husband from what you have said is very patient and considerant. Take things slow if you need, do it in the dark whatever works. Imagine a baby was to magically appear could you really get close to your child if you cannot get sexually close to your husband( this is not stating you inadequate). Maybe time to take a dive (or your husband too :) ).

Goodluck.

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Tawniewolf (6434)

2007-03-17 08:50:04

Wow, your husband must be a very good man and its sweet that he is waiting for you. You have a good man. I'm sure, if you haven't already, tell him how you feel then try and do it. The problem won't go away and if you are feeling guilty, just have a go. It isn't a bad thing to do, it's not the greatest either. As far as I know, sex is over-rated. Good luck.

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Riley (6694)

2007-03-18 00:38:41

@: Shaka_Zulu

Some of ya'll are being mean about this. She needs advice not ideas for torture.

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Riley (6694)

2007-03-18 00:39:36

@: Riley

Oh and by the way I'm only 11 and I'm a virgin so I don't have any advice.LOL.

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SweetAngel (10282)