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Regret having kids
I got pregnant with my first child when i was 13, and as my mom is very religious, she was against me having an abortion. I gave birth to a girl when i was 14 and desperatly wanted to give her up for adoption, but my mom was against that aswell. i am now 21 and have 3 more children with another man who i dont particularly love. i love all of my children very much, but i find myslef very resentful to my eldest daughter. i blame her for my lost childhood, though i know it is not her fault. i feel trapped in a loveless relationship and am deeply regretting having my children so young. the thing is, i am pretty certain that i am pregnant again and i dont no whether i can cope financially and emotionally with having more kids. i am now seriosuly considering giving up my children for adoption. but i feel like my friends and family will turn there backs on me if i do. what shud i do?
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Comments (12)
crazyme (4954)
2007-01-23 12:51:17
When you made a first mistake, you should be careful and not make mistake again over and over. You can't blame her because you had s*x with someone and you got pregnant. It's not her fault. You created her and brought her to this world with you. You should take that for example and not make mistake again. You look at her and you learn, not blame on her. If you think you lost your childhood you should use protection or birthcontrol pill. You can't blame on anyone but yourself. Now you have more kids. You should take responsible for your action. Love the kids more and be happy with them. Soon or later, one guy will love you and the kids. If you want to have s*x around, try to take pills. You don't want to have too many kids with too many dad. Later on they can't find their dad.
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sisophous (3738)
2007-01-23 13:06:52
If you do not feel competent to raise your kids then adoption is best. It is unfair to raise kids who are not cared for properly. Since your kids already know you, working out a situation where you could schedule visits is not easy and would have to be arranged and planned carefully to whomever is their guardian should you give up parental rights. Perhaps a relative could help out or is willing to take in your kids? If your relatives and friends turn their back on you so be it, what matters most is that your kids are well taken care of. Good luck and it is best to have your tubes tied at this stage.
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x-princess-aimi-x (4763)
2007-01-23 13:11:42
I agree with 'Crazyme'. you should have learned from your first mistake. and i dont mean to be rude... but what were you doing having sex at 13 anyway? you were still a child! and if u already felt like u were regretting havin ur first child, how did u manage to have 3 more? AND u have another 1 on the way! my friend got pregnant the first time she had sex, when she was 15. the second she found out, she went out and got a job, she started working really hard at school, she stopped smoking, basically she grew up. AND she hasnt had sex since. now she is 18 and a very good mum to her son. so that is proof that you can be a decent mum even when you are young. i think you need to grow up and start taking responsibiltiy for yourself and your children... and for crying out loud start using PROTECTION.
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hemlot (640)
2007-01-23 13:33:13
What on EARTH is wrong with you?

After the first child mistake, why did you not start taking the pill?
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Moi (588)
2007-01-23 13:59:26
If you are pregnanat again, look into getting an abortion or put this one up for adoption, and then get sterilized immediately! You could also consider temporarily putting your kids into foster homes if you feel you can't handle the responsiblity of caring for them . . .
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PartyGal07 (5460)
2007-01-23 17:18:22
What is wrong with you? you have 4 kids by the age of 21 and possibly another one on the way? If you didn't want children then why not use birth control? I think that if you do not feel you can provide for your kids, then adoption is probably the best option (that rhymed :D) or you can have them fostered until you get back on your feet, then you can take them back afterwards. but PLEASE stop having children NOW!
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Freedomofspeech (3655)
2007-01-24 03:19:50
Don't blame your children for your own idiocy.
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Shaka_Zulu (3938)
2007-01-24 20:14:58
@: Freedomofspeech
amen.
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mm2184 (5042)
2007-01-27 18:39:55
i've got only 2 words for you: BIRTH CONTROL
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dragoon188 (5130)
2007-01-30 20:02:35
Just make sure you don't tell your kids that they were mistakes. I think that would hurt them alot. And getting pregnant at 13?!?!?! why didnt you get an abortion!
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ThisChica20 (6524)
2007-03-12 17:19:48
Don't you DARE blame her for losing your childhood, you threw that out when you started having sex.

People like you make me so mad. Always want to put the blame on someone else.
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tellthetruth (4512)
2007-04-03 21:19:55
@: ThisChica20
Chica20 is right. you're fucking messed up in the head if u blame your daughter for not being able to keep your legs closed. Do everyone a favor and go jump off a cliff!
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