help shy

Are you a girl or boy? If girl: focus on tight clothes because that is all boys see. If Boy: Get a Camaro. These two things are only starters. Get back to me ASAP. I will tell you what to do with these things.

GROW SOME PENIS HAIRS AND STEP OUTSIDE

i put the story up. im female i can't wear tite clohes cuz my parents ARE stric about what i wear and i didn't say i wasn't noticed i said i was shy

There is a great quote for this... "most people wouldn't worry about what others thought of them if they realized how rarely they did". Think of how you think about other people, and realize that other people think about each other and you the same way -- for example, you probably don't spend days obsessing over how stupid somebody's nose looks, so if you had a funny looking nose you could assume other people weren't thinking about it often enough for you to need to worry.

some basic rules of English grammer ie. punctuation. Then people will like you more.

Hey sweetgirl, If you can't wear tight clothes, Go for the Camaro. Dudes love Camaros as much as chicks do. I like them because they are so fucking cheap-ass.---> ANYWAY, try Booze, it loosens up the spirrts.

sweetgirl didn't post this story i did why did u think sweetgirl did

There is a secrete glitch, I found. Quite simple, really. Anyway, Try taking small steps, like jokes and special dances. Eventually you shall become more like me: THE KING. "of poofter"

Try to put things in perspective. Does it really matter what Joe Schmo thinks about you? Do you think it'll matter 5 years from now? Not at all.

Oh, and also look at how many people rated this normal. Tons of people have self-esteem issues, they just handle it in different ways. Some people try to be loud and obnoxious, making jokes so they're laughed with and not laughed at. Some people are shy & reserved like you. Just remember that most people, even the most confident person in the room, have days when they're not feeling that outgoing and they're just as scared as you are.

I read a story about a guy who was shy and what his psychologist did to help him. One of the things was to go to the mall and ride an escalator up. While doing this, say "hi" to everyone on the down escalator. After a while, the guy realized that either people tried to ignore him, or the reciprocated his greeting. Those who reciprocated did it without malice. Ignore METHOSjr. Those posts are meant to make you more promiscuous, which is not a good thing. Just learn to say "hi", and let things develop from there.

and what glitch would that be?

I should probably add that I used to be really shy. I opened up as a teen. Part of this was just maturing, but part was probably being in my high school's marching band. Group activities are good for helping you communicate. Just don't overdo it. There is a Chinese proverb: A wise man is slow to choose his friends, and slower to lose them. It means take your time to build good relationships, and don't drop them whenever you enter a new phase.

Well, "sweety" 22 girls have had a similar problem such as yours. I am not trying to make you "more permiscuous" like the Newbie says above. There are horrid Glitches in the world. I just said "be more outgoing" by taking small steps. I'm not saying "be like METHOS" because you would die of exhaustion and THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE!

I've seen your other posts, METHOSjr (and I know you don't like the jr). If not promiscuous, then at least very flirty, which is not the healthiest form of outgoing. Redoing your wardrobe or buying a new car hardly seem like small steps to me.

A modern Woman gotsta Accessorize, Yo. If she don't she will feel outdated, Then she will never leave her home, Maybe get overweight, And never taste the true flavor of Living Large. Better Recognize, Word to Your Mother.

**A Camaro is Total Bitchin' start on life, Dude.**

i am not old enough to drive

i had a similar problem, when i was performing onstage with one of the plays for my old theatre group, i was petrefied to get up on that stage and act because of the opinions people will get of me, such as "oh, she mispronnounced that word." and "this girl moved her head in the wrong way when she speaks", so i started to be really aware of what i was doing, and spoke too slowly, and without emotion, and i lost all the lead roles i had. i then realized that people dont usually care if an actor mispronnounces a word if she does a good job otherwise. i just forgot that i was performing, and that i was reinacting the character's life, that i WAS the character, and i now get the leads in all the productions i try out for. my point is (if you didnt catch it) that people WILL develop an opinion of you, whether that it is you are a shy girl (im assuming you are a girl because of the sweetgirl accusations menthos had) or that you are a fun, outgoing person, or whatever you are. you just have to stop caring and focus on the bigger picture.
hope i helped!

I am quite shy too. Even around some of my friends, I would barely say a word, unless I felt like being really goofy. But, now that I'm a little more self-confident, it's easier for me to talk to some. I'm not totally over my shyness yet.

All I can say is, talk about things you know, things you like with people, and eventually your shyness will just go away. It will take awhile, that I'll say.

I'm do an internet school, and I knew nobody at all at first. But, I started talking on the message boards. Started talking about things I knew about, or liked doing. And, I've now made a few good friends that I talk to quite a lot.

And, don't worry about what others think of you. The only oppinion that should matter to you, is your own.

-A.