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the confrontation

Ok, again, another story regarding my problem. I took this girl I really liked out ice skating and offered to pay for her, twice, she refused. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time but when a mutual friend asked her how our date went she responded "it wasn't even really a date, I had to pay for myself." I also think the fact that I didn't kiss her may have put her off to. I work with her tonight and I have got to talk to her. I guess I just want to apologize and tell her that I like her so much that I didnt'want to do anything she could construe as out of line or argue with her over who would pay. What should I say to her? And I know i've asked this already, but my friend still thinks I should just walk up to her and say something like "hey, I'm sorry for this, but I've just got to see something" and just kiss her. If she thought I wasn't assertive enough on our date, then this would be a good idea right?
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Moi (588)
2007-01-30 12:12:47
Leave the girl alone. Sounds like she's not interested in you since she told this other person it really wasn't a date. Don't appolgize or even think about kissing her . . .
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sisophous (3738)
2007-01-30 13:03:49
You don't seem to take a hint do you? If the girl put you down already via a friend, she is not a person to spend time around and is disinterested in you. If you insist on pushing the issue, can't accept you and her are going nowhere, then go ahead and learn the hard way. Frankly, she sounds like a not so nice person to me.
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roger49 (3711)
2007-01-30 15:26:03
It sounds like she found an excuse to torpedo whatever relationship you had starting before it got going. You don't want a girl who will tell you she wants something then ditch you because whe really wanted the opposite. You'll be happier if you just find someone new.
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roger49 (3711)
2007-01-30 15:27:24
Oh yeah, I almost forgot. You're stressing out way too much over the whole kiss thing. DO NOT DO IT!!!!! That is as bad an idea as the getting the buddy to mug her thing. It's time to move on. It's hard I know but trust me it's better this way.
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vaver16 (2811)
2007-01-30 15:35:18
she sounds like a bitch, ditch her, and find a new girl thats not so stuck up, and a lier
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Rory2424 (4424)
2007-01-30 15:37:59
poster here. I know you guys are right but I just can't stop thinking about her. You've got to realize I've been putting her on this pedastel for the past four months and I am seeing her as perfect. My friends are trying to convince me she's not the great girl I think she is but still. All I want to do tonight is confront her and tell her that I heard what she said and try to find out if that was the reason why she didn't want to date me. Before we had went out she was really interested in me and we talked everyday on teh phone and online and everything changed so fast and it is killing me not knowing what it was that went wrong.
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sisophous (3738)
2007-01-30 16:54:34
@: Rory2424
Rory,

Don't get offended but you really are sounding needy and pathetic. We all have people at some time in our lives who we are infatuated with and hopes and dreams of forever being with. But, when they reject our friendship it is best to not dwell on it, rather move on, let it go.

Hoever.....................if you still believe you can "win" her over, I have a love potion I can sell you but it is costly, at US $1,000 per bottle. You simply pour the potion into her drink and get her to consume the liquid. She will be yours forever, never leave your side and give you all her attention 24/7. What do you say? Is her love with it or not?
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Rory2424 (4424)
2007-01-30 17:19:11
@: sisophous
Okay, Sisophous, if you really have a potion i will buy it to see if it works...im being dead serious. And I'm aware I'm sounding needy, she never rejected my friendship though, just a romantic relationship.

Unfortunately I have seen that episode of the twilight zone as well. You got it wrong though, the love potion only costs $1, and the antidote costs $1000. If you were referring to that episode, IDK, it just sounds like it. But seriously, do you have the potion?
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george_bojo_II (5543)
2007-01-30 21:25:19
it's not rohypnol is it, sisophous?!
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shawnapaulajoe (5549)
2007-01-30 23:12:34
This girl is not worth your time, and it really does not sound like she is that into you.
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rockhudson (5788)
2007-02-08 16:08:38
not being assertive is one thing but this girl sounds like a bitch which most women are she probly wants a guy that will treat her bad and make her pursue him just be your self and if she doesnt like it then shes the one missing out not you.
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callmegod (6066)
2007-03-02 05:29:07
@: rockhudson
Thats tru you prety well sumed it up
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dukepost (6726)
2007-03-25 23:34:11
word
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