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So I am 25 years old. I have this co-worker that has a thing for me. He is 60. Ok yeah at first I was like OK gross! That is soo wrong! As time has passed about a year, I have a mutual attractiveness to him. He always asks me out to lunch and what not.. I refuse because it just seemed so "wrong" But is it really wrong for two people to be together? If we have feelings for one another is it wrong to act upon them and see where it goes? Please give me some insight. Oh and for him being older - I thought he was in his 40's - definately not 60. So he does not look or seem his age at all! Help!! Do i just go for it and see where it goes or is this territory that should just be left alone?
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smithee (4389)
2007-02-02 13:36:21
Yeah its not that bad. Does he have a "5 year don't die plan?"He'll need it, you'll get all his money if he croaks, so yeah, i'd take the deal!
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sisophous (3738)
2007-02-02 14:36:03
This is actually very easy to address. If you wish to find a guy to marry and raise children then do not get involved with a 60 year-old man. Politely decline his advances and do not see him.

However, if you wish to just have a friend and are ok with initmacy, no strings attached, then go right ahead and see the older guy. There is nothing "wrong" about such an age difference but you must decide what it is you want in life and be able to deal with the consequences. Most women your age would want no part of a guy so much older, but that makes it uncommon, not illegal or immoral.

Happiness does not have a written script, it is a personal choice. Would you be ok being intimate with this older man and then accept it when he decides to go his separate way?

Find out what his background is and pay the money. You may be alarmed at what you find, it's worth a small fee before getting yourself into something deep.

Copy and paste this link:

http://www.ussearch.com/consumer/ntsrflow/product.do;jsessionid=8hz5xN Du6uu57vdWnQ7qQ**.node2?searchtab=background&adID=10002101&pid=3005
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05mercedes (5647)
2007-02-02 14:45:40
@: sisophous
Thank you sisophous. As for the background search - I work at a company that makes us go through a rigorous background, criminal, drug screening prior to hiring as we. He definately can not have a crazy past or we can't hire due to the type of work we are in. I don't want to go into detail about where I work - but we deal with Government & Military affairs, so there is a major screening process prior to employment.
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sisophous (3738)
2007-02-02 16:29:57
@: 05mercedes
Hey mercedes,

From your post it sounds like you really want to go ahead and date the guy. Dating often leads to intimacy and that brings about emotional attachments so as long as you are ok with that, then go ahead. If you don't want to be emotionally attached, best not to even date him, not even for lunch. Just my thoughts.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2007-02-02 18:26:38
It wouldnt hurt to try him out for a while but dont consider anything long term
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