Fingering Myself

Sexual self pleasure/gratification is a private matter that is best kept to oneself. It is no one's business but your own so tell no one unless you want others to invade your private space and judge you.

Many healthy relationships between long time married couples has either spouse fantasizing of former lovers/boyfriends/girlfriends and is not shared with each other. It is healthy to be able to fantasize to bring about sexual pleasure. I often visualize former girlfriends as a sexual stimulation and recall memorable times, most of us do although are not honest enough to admit it.

Carry on and feel free to think of multiple people and/or situations that are pleasing if you so wish. There is no harm in this, even when with that special person, just keep it private.

As to the physical pain, you may want to experiment or read up on tecqniques that are less prone to causing you pain. Have fun.

i finger myself up the arse all the time thinking about my father while i do it. damn, it feeeels sooo good as well.

do you hotshots? Your father was probably a monkey and i bet you like big hairy ape don't you?