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I'm a homosexual 20 year old male. I have little atraction to female's beauty or their character. I never had a relationship with a guy (of any nature exept friends.) I had a girlfriend but it was before I was aware of my gay tendencies. The thing is that I atract many girls (flirts and conversation) even if I don't want to. I am just afraid to tell them one day about my sexuality, as I never told anyone about it (well almost anyone.) I also don't want to hurt their feeling if I ever tell them about my homosexuality. I'd feel bad about that myself. So what I tend to do is to be all negative around girls that want to be around me, in order to avoid their frienship and my eventual revelation of my sexuality. Recently in university, I met this girl online who si in my section. I haven't met her yet but I chat with her on mail. She is the same nationality as me and I'm afraid that she will want more than a frienship. I can't possibly tell her about me. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?
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sishu (5826)
2007-02-12 15:11:00
Hi. I'm the one who posted this. I forgot to say that I am actually in love with my studies. The reason why I'm in university is so I can study well, not because I want a relationship. It would actually distract me from work. I always tried to balance studies with relationships but this time the balance drops in one direction only.
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Nodo_TheRanter (5564)
2007-02-12 15:24:49
In one direction only, unlike your anus.
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sishu (5826)
2007-02-12 15:39:13
Hey not all gay men what to have sex. Most of them just want affection. You should read about what goes on around you before commenting about it.
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smithee (4389)
2007-02-12 19:18:29
so why say on the internet that you're gay and don't want anyone to know about it?! Well looks like everyone knows, and by the way, are you oriental?
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sishu (5826)
2007-02-12 19:48:01
uhm...right...uhm, I'll ask again. Can anyone help?
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supernova (5518)
2007-02-12 23:30:07
sigh...why are all the cute boys gay...
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advicemaster23 (5969)
2007-02-16 17:22:00
i don't think your making it to heaven
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wannabemo (6104)
2007-02-23 09:14:17
look people.A confused person comes on here and is seeking help and all you can do is give him crap?c'mon give him some sympathy.i know the reason i logged on is to get help with my problems that is probally all he wants. Sishu i think that if you are homosexual but you have a little bit of straight tendencies that you may be bisexual.....maybe you should try a relationship with the girl and see if you possibly do like girls a little bit...but tell her that you can't go out every night because you have studies and that was the only intended reason for going to the university.
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wannabemo (6104)
2007-02-23 09:18:44
Plus i know what it is like to go through life knowing i am different.So don't be rude and make fun of him.I know what it is like and i also know that life is so much harder when it feels like you are not wanted and everone acts like you don't deserve to be human.
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Shavemeslowly (5177)
2007-02-23 11:40:36
Just tell them you don't want a relationship. Thats all you have to say, and its the truth. If you tell them up front, or in passing conversation, they may lower their expectations for you to be interested.
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mymunchkins (5639)
2007-03-12 01:12:59
It is very honorable to dedicate your life to studies - not everyone has to have sex to live. Stick with your studies, and when you go out, go out with groups. That will take the pressure off of a one-on-one situation. Hope it helps! :)
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chicken_little (6547)
2007-03-13 06:16:49
Tell girls ure sexuality right away (not right after they say hello I mean, after they start flirting) try to be sincere or get a boyfriend so that people no ure gay
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little_white_angel (6940)
2007-04-05 22:03:44
why do cute have to be gay? o well
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MakingMyselfBelieve (5668)
2007-05-01 21:47:57
Wow. This sounds familiar.
Is your name Andrew? hahahaha.
Seriously, wtf. This happened to me.
Dude was homosexual and didn't really tell anyone and he met me online and we hadn't met yet, and I did want more from him and shittttt.
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feelssogood (8676)
2007-06-05 16:33:42
hey some of us cute guys only used to be gay... im serious i know what this guy is going through i really used to be gay but one girl changed me it was so romantic
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Potato (7428)
2007-06-05 16:55:52
@: feelssogood
You are still gay
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feelssogood (8676)
2007-06-05 17:00:24
@: Potato
you just want me to mash you and than put my cock in you
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Potato (7428)
2007-06-05 21:06:58
You know you want to..... thus proving my point. Fag.
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yummypinkblobs (9632)
2007-07-27 20:45:17
feelssogood. how can you used to be gay?

Anyway, you should tell really her if you think she might like you. don't lead her on. try not to be touchy and affectionate with her, you'll crush her, that is only if she wants you. you wouldn't want a guy you really like to make you think he's gay and likes you by being flirty and affectionate, then find that he's straight then turn you down. don't be afraid to tell her about yourself. if she judges you than she's probably not the kind of person you want to be friends with. girls are usually pretty accepting of gay guys. be confident in yourself.
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