Is my husband over protective?

Yes, I would kill anyone who raped my wife. I'm not sure about the assault, but I would definitely beat the living shit out of them.

i'm against rogers opinion there, if my love got raped...



i would catch him & string him up in a deep deserted place for torture that would put medevil torture practices to shame. i would have IV drips to keep him alive & i would sterilise all of my 'tools...'

i can't promise the same treatment wouldn't apply to anyone who ever ever, hurt her physically...

its normal. he loves you alot, be grateful.

I have the same problem with my boyfriend.
I think it's normal.
I'm going to college soon and he's a year older than me and in the Army and he's freaking out about me partying already and it's not even close to happening yet.
idk. i think it's just a protective guy thing.
& I find it comforting most of the time as well.

Yes, this is normal. If a guy didn't feel this protective over his wife or girlfriend, I'd have to say, in my opinion there would be something greatly missing.

He loves you and has a very strong desire to protect you. That's a good thing.

Introduce him to the girlfriends he does know.

He might be a control freak if he doesn't let you go out with them after this, or I guess he could just think they're sluts.

He could be jealous of you spending time with your friends instead of him.

Not letting you go out with your friends is not being overly protective, it is being too controling! The chance of you getting raped or assaulted is pretty slim as long as you are with other people.

Why is he afraid your girlfriends will beat and rape you? Are they bull dykes?

Your husband is only one jealous prick, that is all.

THIS SIGN CONNOTES THAT HE IS CHEATING ON YOU, HE IS TRYING TO COVER UP HIS BAD SIN!

Wow. You can get over that pretty quick. Why the hell would that mean he was cheating on me? I can see jealous and insecure, but not cheating. Damn, that's messed up.

After our exchange of views (re fire} I read your Question.

The problem for you is wheather your husband is protective or a control. freak. The best way to find out is to ask yourself (or him) how he would react in the following situations.

You have been out with a group of friends and one of the boys, not wanting to you to be out late on your own walks you to your door. Would he be pleased that you were in good company or would he rush out and attack the lad.

Also does he treat you in the same protective way when you are together and no one else is around.

If he reads my comments will he pay me a visit (with an axe). How long will it take him to get to London?

let me know. B&J.

He would be happy I had a guy friend that was as protective of his wife as he is. He would probably question who he was, and I would probably explain that he was one of my gay friends (The only male friends I have that he doesn't have are gay). He would make fun of him for a while for being gay, but no violence.

Whether we're with friends or not, he is a gentleman. He pulls my chair out for me, opens the car door on occasion.

As for reading comments - this may sound strange to some, but our computer lives are completely separate from our home lives. We both have MySpace pages, but we're not on each other's friends lists. Not any reason to be friends online when you sleep together every night!

And he has already been to Britain once. Doesn't want to go back. You're safe. :)

Thanks for the scenarios. Sheds a light on the subject.

my boyfriend is like that and in a way i do find it comforting... but sometimes it pisses me off. like this one time i was talking to one of my guy friends infont of my b/f and when my guyfriend left my b/f threw a fit just because he thought that my guy friend was flirting with me... i think its normal, just if it get too much to handle i would do something about it

I hope I get a guy like that. :D

i'd appreciate the fact that he cares about you, and i would find it comforting that someone was so worried about me and noticed what was going on in my life. but no, i don't think it's right that he's controling your social life. he might be afraid that you'll cheat on him, a lot of guys have this fear and intense control is the only way they know how to deal. i think u should talk to him, and tell him that you love him, and he shoudn't be worred about that. that youre faithful, but you don't like it that he's so controling about your girlfriends. women need a little alone time without their men looking over their shoulders!

All I know is when my girlfriend is (was) very jealous of me going out with the guys she kept saying we were going to pick up girls and be having sex, etc. That was because she was doing guys when she went out drinking with the girls. So I am very suspicious when someone gets protective over nothing.

my sisters husband is almost the same. once when he was drunk, i heard him say that if anyone raped her, he would rip of his penis wit his own 2 bare hands.....

i dunna about you, but i think that its sweet that hes protective, but if he gets in ur way of having fun, tell him

i AGGREE

yes it is completely normal....if u find it comforting then its greeeat

OVER PERTECTIVE

Thats not over protective, i'd do exactly the fucking same to anyone who dared to try anything funny with my girlfriend. I have been in a fight with a guy who slapped her and i went nutz....but thank god she aint been assualted or raped, god damn rapeist cunts.



LOLOCOPTOR...not in a funny mood

Yes it is normal. What man would not lay down his life for his loved ones?

I have question for you. A guy caught a guy that brutally raped his wife and killed him. Should the guy do time for it?

I think he should be honored for it.. The case I stated is fact. And, I think he got 20yrs. for doing it!

Something like this is hard to say since we hardly know you or your husband. How long have you known your friends that he's so adversed against? If you've known them for years and they've never shown you unusual signs of misconduct or bad behavior, then I would tell him to stop being a control freak and get a grip.

Restricting your freedoms isn't correct no matter how much he loves or wants you safe, because it'll put a wedge between you and your husband after a period of time. Ask him to give you some trust, tell him that at one point you were alone in your life (were you not?) and you can/could handle yourself. If he doesn't like that, enroll into defense class and buy yourself a gun and learn to use it.

Then tell him to take his shotty idea elsewhere?

It could be jealousy/control freak or actual fear for your safety. Talk with him about it, be open with each other, yes?

Good Luck with that!

It's always nice to know that the one you love would put his life on the line for your sake or do anything to keep you alive.

Completely normal!

i find it conforting when my husband says that but he never says that about friends he doesnt know, i would introduce him to all my friends cause he has a right as your spouse to know who ur hanging out with n what they represent of themselves.

That seems a bit over protective, since you'd be with a female friend and all.