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In love with my best friend
I am a 38 year old man. I am married, and my best friend is another woman who is also married. I am in love with her, and I don't know what to do. I love her and care for her and sometimes I have sexual thoughts about her. I still love my wife. This is really hard for me to explain. I don't know what kind of feelings she has towards me. We tell each other that we love each other. She is a great comfort to me and I to her. I just don't want sex. It's more that we have common interests and we really understand each other and it's scary how we can read each others thoughts sometimes. I am afraid that our friendship would fall apart if I told her. If she has feelings for me, will she eventually tell me? Should I just wait and see? I know I can't both save the cake and eat the cake. I want to be married to both! Dammit, this sucks. I told her once I was scared I'd fall in love with her. She said she was so flattered.
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Comments (3)
sisophous (3738)
2007-02-22 12:23:04
Do you have children? If you do then stay with your wife and put all your energy into your current marriage and focus on your children. To be looking outside your marriage for comfort is extremely selfish and dead wrong. You made a committment toward your current wife when you got married.

And, this woman who you feel is so special may have a lot in common with you, but she is not so special a person to pursue you knowing you are married. She too is married and doesn't seem to care about her marriage.

This is what happens when people who are not marriage material, get married.

If you have children, cut off all contact with this other woman. To continue your relations with the other woman will ultimately cause your own children, or hers, HARM.
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Nodo_TheRanter (5564)
2007-02-22 13:47:17
Unless you are sadomasochist with a destructive streak, back the fuck up.
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ninjadude (6349)
2007-03-09 06:15:10
Maybe you can try swapping? You know, swinging? Otherwise, I have no idea what you would do. An affair is not the question, especially if you don't want her husband having a reason to murder you. Or your wife to murder you or her. You might as well break off the friendship otherwise and cut off all contact, this will ease the temptation. Or just let everything get so screwed up you don't know what to do.
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