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I hate my mom

I think i hate my mom. I know what your thinking, "Great, another teen who needs to grow up," but please read on. My father died when i was 6 and i have had to live with four different men while growing up. I think this is part of what bothers me is that over the years my mom always chose them over me. Shouldn't a mother put her children first? It just pisses me off cause it doesn't occur to her that it has actually affected me over the years. Also, She lets my stepfather beat me and i don't think he has any right to touch me. Hes not my dad! And i don't think that she should be hitting me either. I have bruises, scratches, and scars right now. I'm 17, and i am not a bad kid. I have a 3.6 GPA, I play sports,I've been team captain, earned college credit while in HS, Been Student Council secretary, Taken upper level classes, learned to play 3 instruments(and i can play well), I'm the band section leader, and was my class representative. I dont deserve to be beaten. All of my friends think i am happy and normal. People always ask how the fam is and i lie and say everything is good. But it is just the opposite. Everything at home is horrible. So do i have a right to be frustrated with her? I've tried everything to get her attention. She never says "I love you" or complements me on anything. I feel like im nothing to her. A lot of parents would be proud to have a daughter like me, but all she can do is b**ch and complain about what i don't do. She hasn't even came to a game or a band concert. I tried, but now im ready to give up. Thank god there are only three more months left in hell.(im graduating) What should i do. I can't talk to her. If i try, it always ends in a fight.
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Didge_Daz (5056)
2007-03-03 15:03:57
Seems you did you part of thinking this matter over, id say leave them, go live with another family member or something, if things are as bad as you say they are then i doubt talking about it will solve anything, sometimes its time for talking other times its time for walking.



Peace jah bless
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Moi (588)
2007-03-03 15:18:04
Most parents would be proud of you. But your mom's been that way all these years and she's most likely not going to change now . . . she is the way she is.

As for your step-dad hitting you, no one should be hitting a 17 yr. old!

You say you are graduating, are you going off to college next fall?
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sisophous (3738)
2007-03-03 16:25:28
That's a sad story and you are 100% correct, your mother should have put you first, not other guys. In fact, she should not have dated any man until you reach legal age of 18.

You can't change the past so look forward. If these stepfathers touch you, consider making a complaint to the police. Show the police any mark left by your stepfather and he will be arrested. It will worsen your relationship with your mother, but no man has the right to put a hand on you. An adult guardian does have the right to take away privileges.

It is best to move out and get a roommate. That too has problems but at least it is a change and away from a toxic environment that it seems you live. Until you reach age 18, you should not have to support yourself. See if a relative you like would take you in. Otherwise, stick it out for a few more months.

As bad as it may seem now, hopefully you will meet someone in the future who will be good for you and all the past can be left behind. Counseling is not a cure, but it may help.

Good luck to you.
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SoWhat06 (6323)
2007-03-03 17:25:36
Well, i have two issues as far as moving out.
1) All of my relatives live at least three hours away.
2) My mom said if i try moving out before i graduate she won't help pay for my college and she wouldn't let me take my car. She doesn't want to be known as one of those parents that push their kids off onto other people.

I am trying to get a job right now so i can support myself somewhat, but if i leave and got my car taken away i would have no way to get to work. so either way im screwed. I have had friends offer to let me come live with them, but i really want to go to college next fall so i feel that I have to stay. As soon as i graduate tho im movin in with relatives. I can't wait, cuz i love them to death. But right now i just need to figure out how i can get along with my mom as best as possible i guess. Thanx for the help.
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shunti (5798)
2007-03-03 17:31:04
You don't deserve what your going through. Your mother should be very proud 2 have a daughter like you. While most parents are struggling with their dumb ass teenagers who think making dumb ass decisions are cool. You are every parents ideal of a almost perfect child. My situation is almost similar too yours, so I understand your feelings and they are normal. You should report your punk ass step dad for beating on you. As far as your mother goes trust me, karma and guilt are silent killer's. Trust me once her ass get old she'll need you then, soon as you turn 18 get the hell out of there. Your going through hell now but there's something bigger and better in store for you. STAY STRONG
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cabinet70 (4440)
2007-03-03 20:59:39
She sounds like a cunt just keep doing good and as soon as you can move and wipe the bitch and get on with your life
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Shavemeslowly (5177)
2007-03-03 21:06:11
She doesn't deserve a daughter like you. There is nothing you can do about it, but accept that you are a better person than she is, and turn your back on her.
Maybe one day she will want your attention. Until then focus on living your own life, and making it a better than her miserable existance.
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