What is "normal" to spend with your best friend?

No, it is not normal. You should be concerned.

He is married and should be making you his priority, and that includes spending time with just you, with NO third company.
Everyone needs time to themselves, even married couples, but this is excessive and crosses the line. It sounds like you married a selfish person or one who has poor judgment and never should have married. Because he invites you to join is still not right. Not everyone is a right fit for marriage, some people are better off staying single. You can speak to him and set limits but it likely will only bring about resentment and hurt your marriage. Dating and relationships are all about picking and choosing. You chose wrong. Sorry, just my opinion.

Thank you. I have tried to talk to him about this and have gotten nowhere. WE do spend a lot of time together, alone, so that isn't the issue. I just don't think it's normal how much time he spends with his friend. I have friends I go out with occasionally. We spend a few hours together and that's it maybe one to three times a month. We have even discussed this and agreed that if WE spent that much time together we'd kill each other haha!

I agree sounds kinda selfish, like he wants his cake and eat it too. How long have you been married? If it has been forever then perhaps he is just bored. If you are newlyweds then the focus should be on making your future together, alone. Maybe counseling would help, perhaps then you could figure out a reasonable solution. Hopefully he isnt in the "closet" about his friend and marriage is just a convenience.

only 8-24 hours?!!? lol thats NOTHING

you're an a$$hole you know that? sexist pig..... anyway i think u should tell him that you realy miss spending one on one time with him.

btw when i said you're an asshole i meant strangelad up there who has some major problems and who will never get married and we'll have to make a new movie called 50 year old virgin.....

Guess the alternative is how would like him to spend it with the company secretary instead..lol

stop complaining.

YEA I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM IF HE LOVES YOU HE'LL UNDERSTAND YOU GUYS SHOULD GO OUT ONE NIGHT OR SOMETHING MAYBE HE FEELS LIKE YOU GUYS ARENT SPENDIN A LOT OF TIME WITH EACHOTHER SO HE GOES SPENDS IT WITH HIS FRIEND OR IF YOU HAVE KIDS MAYBE HE'S JUST ANNOYED BY THE KIDS SO HE HANGS WITH HIS FRIENDS YA BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY THINK ABOUT GOING OUT ONE NIGHT JSUT THE TWO OF YOU AND GO SOMEWHERE YOU KNOW YOULL ENJOY WITH HIM

Don't listen to any of these assholes. The bottom line is, your husband hates you and is actually a closet gay, so expect to get SuperAids if you touch him. The only possible way for you to ease this situation, is cut your throat with a rusty butcher knife. My condolences.

honestly, for me, 8-24 hours a week isnt even enough. i could spend 24/7 with my best friend and we would never get mad or anything lol. as long as you two get enough time together alone, then let sleeping dogs lie. its not causing you any problems.

See, I am 13 and i don't really know much about marriage, but if he married you he should be spending most of the time with you and thinking about what fun and romantic stuff he would do with you instead of spending so much time with his best fiend.I would be like "If you love your best fiend so much, why don't you just marry him?"..but that is just me..and by the way I am a girl..if you didn't already know!You should get him for some alone time, talk to him and tell him how you are feeling about this hole friend thing and see where it goes from there, if he sees that it is bothering you..then he might stop...cause i know how women are they don't say anything and expect their man to know what they want..but in this case.. YOU HAVE TO SPEAK UP WOMAN..lol.but seriously. do something about it!

That is scarry and gross!!Hairy-stick-nipples's comment is disturbing...so dont listen to him..that is wrong..do not assume anything!...Assume= makes an ASS of U and ME

Sisiphous and poster:

Sisiphous...you are a blithering twit. I quote you..."He is married and should be making you his priority, and that includes spending time with just you, with NO third company."

Are you normal? Are you kidding me? Why is it that SOME women when they marry feel that they OWN the man? Anyone has the right to friends! Do you actually mean to say that once a man marries he is no longer allowed to socialize with anyone else but his wife!!?? I can't tell you how angry your idiocy has made me.

POSTER: You have every right to feel the way you do. He is your life's love. Your husband. You feel left out seeing your husband spend more time alone with his friend than you. Have you ever brought this up with him?

You must also remember that men tend to have stronger bonds with other male friends than women usually do with other women. I am not saying that women don't have strong, meaningful friendships. They do. It's just that men usually have tighter bonds to some other male friends.

You commented in your story "I am always invited and welcome, but I just feel weird. I DO like his friend, but don't like how much time they spend together."

You are always INVITED. Go along with them! Why would you feel weird? You say you like his friend. Isn't he your friend too?

You don't like how much time they spend together. OK..you're jealous. That's human. You should talk to your husband about this CALMLY. Tell him that you would like to be able to spend some time with him now and then too, alone. But remember, you should not expect or ask your husband to give up his friendship(s). That would be incredibly selfish and insensitive.

To be honest with you I find your concern to be a bit unusual. I don't see what the problem is with your husband having a "best friend".

I think you should include yourself with them occasionally. You might find it enjoyable to be an insider instead of an outsider. Maybe you could understand it a bit better if you spent time with them.

Don't feel weird. There is no reason too.