My opinon? You have NO self respect and I would bet my life daddy wasnt there for you when you were growing up either! You are crazy for asking for people opionons you know whats up you know what you need to do, so do it while you still can before you end up pregnant or with an std or something.

thx its exactly what i know but im just too weak to do anything about it. no self respect is what ive been putting it down to!

I think you have self respect you thought this man had feelings for you. I would recomend you keep away from criminals especially yardbirds like this prick. you will have to put it behind you and move forward

Age is not important, but love is. It has to be mutual, unconditional and growing. He is a lucky bastard, but I would happily put his dick in a blender and feed it back to him spread on toast.

its just hard, i tried not to judge him based on his past. he doesnt seem like someone who has done so many things wrong. the little detail i failed to put in the story as well is that he is my brother's (who is 27) best friend!!! so im probly doing the wrong thing by my bro. and it doesnt look very good for him either to be fuckin his best mate's little sister. hmm yeah i shouldnt let myself be used. thx for ur reply

hhahha i guess people his age would be like "fuck!" and yeah , think he is lucky. theres prob not many blokes like him who could get the chicks, especially young ones. i saw myself as mature but i dont think im mature enough to be treated as a sex object

Wow, dude, you're just flamming aren't you. no need for you to hide any longer, come on out of the closet, were not going to judge you, it's okay.

what?

TOTALLY my opinion...you are in a go no where relationship. I agree with what someone said earlier you are going to end up with an STD or PG. And, if it's PG then where is the kids father going to be... apart of the child's life? I think not. I think even if he wasn't going back in jail he would do one of 2 things; either run like hell, or beat the child silly. So what do you think is that any kind of a life?

And, yes I have to agree an older guy would think that a young girl like you is a crown jewel for them. But, you know what there is probably a lot of guys out there that are not"jail birds" that would treat you right because you sound like someone that really likes adventure!

thanks again kristina. :( i mean, i am not stupid. i was blind for a while and didnt see this for what it really was. but now i understand ive been making a lot of huge mistakes!!!! i mean farrrk, lol my whole case hasnt got much going for it has it!! haha old enough to be my dad, he's been in and out of jail, he is my brother's best friend, he has even told me how has fucked a couple of women before because they wanted kids. :| omg i could say a hundred things,. i know what the answer is to all this, i just cant do it. im too weak to break it off. a "go nowhere" relationship is totally true .. :/ i should respect myself more. hmmm
thanks heaps

I am sorry you took what I said the way you did... I didn't mean to imply you are stupid. All I am trying to say is that you are in a jam right now. Have you asked this guy where he got his tats at? My guess is that he got them in jail. Know what they use for needles..they aren't sterile! Just there are so many things that can go wrong here and I, seriously, fear for your life. He sounds like some one that can be very possessive.

You need help in making a seperation stick! But, for your own safety don't have sex with him any more!

If you want to try and start you could, even thou I have no way to see you through it on here, start by promising to me, and to yourself that you aren't going to be with him any more.

Good Luck!

no no you i know u werent calling me stupid :P
i know i am though!!!!
thought i was strong enough to deal with it all. i came out of a loving relationship, and treated my boyfriend like absolute shit to be with this man. only to find out a month or so later what his true nature is. and it seems i never meant anything to him. i threw away all that was good in my life, to be treated like shit by this person. this person i put all my trust and everything into. it sounds like im askin everyone to cry me a river. i know what it all means, it all adds to only one thing : grow some balls and dump him, move on. it sounds easy enough but its not!!!!
he may well have got his tats in jail for all i know. ive heard some stories about him i am too scared to ask him about! but if you are eligible to give blood, that means you are free of all infections and shit doesnt it? cos he has given blood.
a promise that im going to end this charade isnt going to be made!! :( sadly. one day when i have the strength. but yeah i guess i wont sleep with him anymore. and when i tell him that, we'll see what his reaction is and how our relationship is after that. he's a family friend too which makes things harder.
thx once again :P :)

Hey, I hav to run but the fact he gives blood is not a good excuse. Afct is if you give blood you are suposed to tell them you have got tats recently and they through that blood out!

Good luck girl I will pray for you!

thanks heaps . u have really helped . i just need to get over it all hey, move forward. i dont think he got the tats recently though, i think maybe 20 years ago .. :/
thx for being decent unlike most of the other losers that accuse me of bullshiting! lol :D

How's your strenght going! I hope you are staying away from him.
I believe you are going to make it. Wish you were here in the states. I wouldn't mind talken to you in person...seem like some one that just got in a jam and are looking for away out!

Again God Bless you!

:) its so nice to know that there ARE nice caring people out there :P
well the more i have to do with him the more i realise i shouldnt! e.g i asked him how many sexual partners hes had (in a text message), only to be asked why, what is my reason for asking and then i didnt get an answer. things like that make me think FUCK YOU,.
i really am going to end it, i think if i see him in the next few days im going to explain that it cant happen anymore.
u know its hard, cos im used to having someone love me, im used to being cared about. now i have nothing except this stupid charade with someone i shouldnt have anything to do with.
he gives me good advice and stuff though, i just wish i had never started sleeping with him. thats what fucks things. i wish i had never broken up with my boyfriend :( and i never would have if this person wasnt on the scene. fucking leading me on , pretending to care:@ when he didnt from the start! ahh!! :@
thanks heaps :)

You know gurl I am not given uo on you I believe in you! It may seems starngetthat we have met in this chat area but something is telling me to keep an yey out for you1 Seems like you need a shoulder from time to time and hold you! I am polish so I guess I am your polish leaning Lmao!!!

yeah you know what kristina you're probably right. because i dont have anyone in my life to discuss it with and to get advice from i resorted to posting on here lol, just needed some reassurance. umm i dont know how to tell give u my email addy without EVERYONE getting it :S can u send private messages on here? i have no idea!
it makes me smile when i think someone out there is caring and understanding :)
ok so dont send him any messages or initiate contact. if he messages me what do i do>? hmmmph. should i discuss with him that we cant do it anymore? or just brush him off. im hoping i can move forward :)

you actually have my email address and din't even realize it!

And i would have no problems talking to you on IM or by emails instead of putting all your business on here

how do u mean i have ur email address and didnt realise it HAHA i have no idea what im doing :S

@yahoo.com

tried that and the email bounced back , it said i had the address wrong.

Sorry about that had a friend try to send me something and it id the same...try again think it's fixed

But any way how's your strength going? You staying on top of everything and away from him. Trying to get someone more your age? You know I was wondering do you have proms and the likes down there for High school Graduation? Think it would have been neat to do a High School exchange over there!

hey kristina. sorry for late reply , back at uni now and dont come on here much. i saw him the other day and for the first time in a while i felt he did care a bit about me. we didnt do anything u know, sexual together, we were just friends and he was helping me. im fine, i havent thought about him much and i think im ok. the aspect of my life that is making more confused and sad is that i dont want to move on and find someone my own age, i want my ex back!! :/ but i cant have him, as he now has someone else.
well im not overly familiar with the concept of prom. but after year 12 we have a 'formal.' which is nothing really lol just a function to celebrate finishing school. and some kids (i didnt do it but a lot of my friends a few years ago did) do a "deb" thing, um a debutant ball. which, again im not familiar with (theres a traditional reason behind it) but yeh all the girls did it cos u get to dress up and wear a white dress and stuff lol
well i should try emailing u again :P

Just kep your head on straight...I am still paring forthat day ehen youtell meit done

its probly good news then that i havent spoken to him all week :P and i dont plan to. if he messages me i will have to decide then what to do. its funny how u can tell how much someone cares just by whether THEY contact YOU first. etc!!!! what about you? hows your life? you got any problems lol!!

Girl, we all got problems...my last one is the reason I haven't been on here in a while. I got real sick. Had brocitis that they thought was turning into Pneumonia. So I spent a day in the hosp and then 3 days lying here zombied out on meds. Bad thing is I don't have much sick and vacation time built and just used it for this.

Plus I feel I get picked on by my supervisors at work. I do things different and don't follow"the norm." Everyone tells me I am going to get in trouble if I don't change. But, I am me and no one can take away my individuallity.

I am not going to pretend tobe something I am not. As you can problanly tell if you have read any other threads that I have commented on I am out spoken...if you don't like y opinion then don't ask! And, I feeel that's what tis sight is is a collection of everyones opinions.

Okay, since you asked I have a question for you that maybe you can give me YOUR input to. When officers are on road patrol everyone pretty much respects them they're the authority on the street. But, once they are locked up it's like they have the authority and the officers have to take their abuse. And, Mgt allows it...is that backwards or what?
An example...an exhibitionist, he will get picked up and trie for exposing himself to an officer. But, in the lock up if he does it they just chalk it up that he has no other sexual out let. Maybe I itsounds nuts but to me it sounds backwards.

Still have caught you on my yahoo!

hey sent u an email i hope it worked :) :)

I lost my virginity to a man 25 years older than me when I was a teenager.
I'd only known him for two weeks.
And I'll probably never see him again.
But I cared about him and I thought he cared about me.

So, yes, you are normal.

What if you had met the bloke at a club and he was not a friend of the family.
Would you still desire him. If so then where is the problem, age is only a number.

thx for your comment. the issue here is that he has been using me. if he really cared and i was happy i wouldnt have posted that :)and yeah his age had never bothered me.

the best advice i think anyone could give you is to stop being close minded and open up your eyes and realize that this guy is not worth it, i'm sure you could find someone better that appreciates you a little more than this guy does.

god damit no i should castrate him and shove his fucking cock down his throught and make him choke on his own semen

look he shouldnt look for sex in a young girl...and maybe want to be friends with befits but dont let that happen that just mean youll let guy do anything to you

I think he is just looking for some action i mean damn 41 and getting it on a girl half his age wtf dump his ass and get with someone who cares for u

your literally jail bate...stopo that shit your going to be disowed it always happens to girls