A disease of isolation

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I have a real problem. I'm 19 years old. I have no real friends that I hang out with. I'm always at home, alone. I go to university. All I do when I come home is watch television, go on the computer and study a little. The only times i go out is when I go to school. My weekends are spent alone in my room watching tv, surfing the internet, watching porn and studying when I have to.

This is even worse during the summer. I don't have a job so I do not work. May, June, July & August, 4 months of summer are spent indoors. My routine usually consists of sleeping in until 12 or 1 in the afternoon. After eating breakfast, I go on the computer then watch a little tv or play some video games til I have to go to sleep, which is usually at 2 in the morning. And this routine is repeated everyday for the entire summer! Now of course..sometimes i have relatives coming over...or I go to the supermarket..small stuff like that but most of my time is spent in my room all alone.

If I didn't have to go to school, this is what my entire life would be. Pretty sad and pathetic you must be thinking, yes it is. I've never made many friends in high school. I've never had much social experiences. I've never had a girlfriend, ect...

So why am I writing this? Well..maybe to see if anyone else has a similar experience and to seek advice. I don't know where to find friends. I've tried at university, but seems like everyone wants to stay friends as "school mates" and not more. I'm shy so I don't approach people often. I don't want to get a job because i'm lazy and also shy around people and don't want to work where there is interaction between large groups of people.

Now I'm a pretty normal guy. I can be funny at times and serious at times. Although I have been told I'm too serious sometimes. I like to crack jokes. Nothing is wrong with me. I'm 19, average height, average-looking, so it's not like there's something wrong with my physical appearance. I'm not dumb or mean or anything like that either. I'm an average guy. I like sports, going out to see movies, chilling, ect.. I don't do drugs or smoke.

I never really understood why I'm so lonely. Part of it is a lack of socializing in high school but there is more to it. Sometimes i feel it's simply bad luck. In the summers, I get so depressed that I start having suicidal thoughts and even sometimes I start crying at night.

My parents yell at me for not going outside and they yell at me for not getting a job like all other teenagers. I don't feel like working in a fast food restaurant. I'm afraid of going and applying for a job.

All I want is friends. A job, perhaps. A girlfriend. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. Not having a social life or not experiencing sex. I want to change, but I need help. I don't know where to start. I'm afraid this will eventually end up torturing myself to the point where I just decide to kill myself and end my misery.