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I am involved in a relationship with a beautiful 17 year old girl... I am 38.
The relationship is very odd, in that most of the time it is an almost parental kind of thing... she has had a very troubled life growing up and I give her guidance and advice... she has already begun to change and mature in many, many ways, all positive.
The problem is the large age difference between us - there is no legal issue, as the age of consent in this state is 16, and she is almost 18 - we have never had sex, primarily because of my own feelings of guilt over the whole thing. It's not even a "relationship" as such - most of the time it is just friendly, but every now and again it becomes something a bit more than that.
I realize that what she is getting from me more than anything else is a "father figure" kind of thing, and my own feelings for her are very confused at the same time. Half the time I feel like I am "in love" with her, the other half that I just love her in a platonic, mentor kind of way.
For the record, and to stave off any questions about it, she is not related to me in any way.
Several years ago, I was involved with her mother, which is how we knew each other. Her mother, and my family, would completely flip out if they knew the extent of my feelings for her - they think I am doing this wonderful thing, helping this troubled young lady through a rough patch in her life. I feel like the devil himself because of the other feelings I have for her... well, maybe not the devil, but at least Woody Allen.
Just looking for random opinions here...
The relationship is very odd, in that most of the time it is an almost parental kind of thing... she has had a very troubled life growing up and I give her guidance and advice... she has already begun to change and mature in many, many ways, all positive.
The problem is the large age difference between us - there is no legal issue, as the age of consent in this state is 16, and she is almost 18 - we have never had sex, primarily because of my own feelings of guilt over the whole thing. It's not even a "relationship" as such - most of the time it is just friendly, but every now and again it becomes something a bit more than that.
I realize that what she is getting from me more than anything else is a "father figure" kind of thing, and my own feelings for her are very confused at the same time. Half the time I feel like I am "in love" with her, the other half that I just love her in a platonic, mentor kind of way.
For the record, and to stave off any questions about it, she is not related to me in any way.
Several years ago, I was involved with her mother, which is how we knew each other. Her mother, and my family, would completely flip out if they knew the extent of my feelings for her - they think I am doing this wonderful thing, helping this troubled young lady through a rough patch in her life. I feel like the devil himself because of the other feelings I have for her... well, maybe not the devil, but at least Woody Allen.
Just looking for random opinions here...
Do you think it's normal?
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Besides this, you dated her mother, how long do you think you can keep that up?
You better stay away from trouble man.
The problem is that she might be considering you a father figure - and Only At Times a potential bf, the heart of a girl that age is fickle, trust me.
I suspect that it would really mess up the relationship you had with her mother, were you to get Seriously romantic with the daughter.
My advice, next time things begin getting a little steamier than usual between you - sit back and TALK to each other about it.
Tobra
but really thi sounds weird but im only a kid, so i dont really wuury bout that stuff much.yet
hope that helped
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