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Am I Bisexual? Please answer me!
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I've been reevaluating my life up until the present, and I have developed questions regarding my sexual orientation. I remember getting strange feelings around older girls when I was little, and I've had weird attractions to other girls over the years -- but only a few times. I've liked guys a lot over the course of my adolescence and such, but I'm not sure of myself. Being with a girl just isn't as great as being with a guy..but I still don't know.

Are these feelings normal during childhood and adolescence? Or should I identify myself as bisexual? Honest opinions..
Do you think it's normal?
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buriedalive (16071)
2009-02-18 09:23:39
Well, you don't really have to identify yourself as anything if you're not comfortable doing so. Some people like saying they're specifically one thing, but sexuality is fluid for many people, and they find their sexual preferences change over time or very hard to define, and that's fine too.
Also, it's perfectly normal to have feelings for both genders but have a preference for one over the other: google the Kinsey Scale if you haven't heard of it :)
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snakechik22 (20098)
2009-02-18 23:19:08
i think its pretty normal cuz ur hormones are going crazy and girls are sometimes attracted to other girls cuz they are just pretty and sensual and im straight but when i was in highschool i hooked up with a few chiks and it felt different i kno i wouldnt wanna be with a chik i just wanted to see what it was all about.. just see what happens but alota ppl i knew were "bi" back then cuz they were confused and ya its pretty normal
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confusedbutsane (20415)
2009-02-21 05:15:19
you mghit be going through a phase,hormones have a lot to do with it, but it could've been something that happenned to you when you were little as well. things work weirdly like that.
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verppisces030990 (20454)
2009-02-22 13:39:30
its normal. but on whether or not you're bi.. i can't answer.. you have to figure it out for yourself really. i have friends that are lesbians that are attracted to some guys and might even sleep with them, but consider themselves to be gay, and somestraight friends that are attracted to the same gender and might even sleep with them(usually celebrities).. i think theres just something about certain people that make us feel an attraction towards them. like maybe they're really pretty or something? :P
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Vivacious (20739)
2009-03-05 05:28:53
Hey :)

I think it's normal to be curious, and I know as a female, we tend to have more emotional attachments to other females, and that sometimes these can get confused for sexual feelings. Maybe they are, maybe they're not. Have you ever dated another female? Maybe you're just attracted to the beauty of females, because lets face it....generally, females are a lot easier on the eyes! Maybe try dating a girl, or kissing a girl and see if you have sexual feelings towards her. Good luck!
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TashaG16 (21119)
2009-03-20 12:36:17
Why even bother with labels? If you like chicks then it's okay and if you like men then it's okay. I am 80 % attracted to males 60 % with females like I am bisexual but my attraction to males are stronger and in the lond run I want to be with a guy but I will date a girl. I really don't even label myself "bisexual" as much as I just label myself "sexual" to all genders, race and everything.
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bubblegum (21146)
2009-03-21 12:47:30
hey sweeetie

naah i know how ya feel, its easy people saying its normal, but sometimes it doesnt feel that way, but it honestley, its fine!
and plus you might just be curiouse? forget about lableing yourself, the fun of life is finding out who you are :)
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cheergirl (21196)
2009-03-22 23:56:47
I would say you are simply learning who you are. Don't label yourself as bisexual. I'm straight and I've had many thoughts of being with girls and having sex with girls. But in the end, thats against God's will. and Girls can't give you real intercoarse. God mad Adam for Eve. Not Adam for another Adam or Eve for another Eve. Stay with guys.
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ilovesmellybox (20927)
2009-03-29 02:59:52
you are a poof....trust me Luv...
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LeonKh2 (21548)
2009-04-03 08:10:21
there nothing with being bisexual being bi is ok to be, express to feel comfortable that way and knowing me i got nothing against bi ppl my friends are bi and it nothing wrong about it, dont think it a bad thing, just be yourself
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gothiclord (21709)
2009-04-07 02:03:24
yes its normle too feel that way during those times in your life i had those too for guys and im a guy but not its all about girls lol.
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Strictsensitivity (21711)
2009-04-07 05:06:57
Why exactly are you concerned? It sounds like you are bisexual. But so what? Women in general form and need stronger attachments to their own sex.

To carry this attachment to a physical, sexual, emotional level is a natural thing.

Question is can you find a man and a woman and form a long term relationship with both?
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oskilover18 (22167)
2009-04-20 19:01:13
People thing way too much. We aren't straight gay or bi. We're somewhere on a spectrum from straight to bi. If you like someone go for it, if not, don't read too much into your intense feelings for friends. No one knows how you feel but you.
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oskilover18 (22167)
2009-04-20 19:01:29
Sorry I meant people THINK way too much.
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DiscoDuck (18706)
2009-05-01 15:49:43
Label yourself as someone who seeks the full enjoyment of life. You dont have to be gay or straight, being Bi aint all that bad its like the best of both worlds if you ask me...
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09missduckie (22558)
2009-05-01 15:55:56
you could just be curious... i first found out when i started snogging my girl friends and then snogging my guy friends lol !

you should try kissing a girl..then u will know !
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lisha590 (22204)
2009-05-07 13:27:59
You are not gay or bi...please dont think this. These feeling are quite normal but thats all they are is thoughts and feelings this does not mean u have to act on them especially if u believe they are morrally wrong.
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Poppyred (22938)
2009-05-12 15:09:19
I think you would only be bi-sexual if you felt sexually attracted to women. A lot of young girls and adolescents get "girl-crushes". You get it a lot in boarding schools and all girls schools where it's a way of releasing feelings of affection etc. It doesn't mean anything happens though. It's more that you admire them and aspire to be like them. I had girl crushes when I was younger and during my last few years at school girls had girl crushes on me. None of us were bi-sexual or lesbians.
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JustThatGirl (23267)
2009-05-24 07:15:32
I like girls and boys..
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sepia (23362)
2009-05-24 23:30:02
i find boys and girls both attractive (i'm a girl btw) seeing naked girls and what not turns me on, but just the thought of actually having personal sexual experiences with one makes me gag...kinda weird, but idk i guess everyone has twisted hormones that give us an attraction to the same sex at some point or another... doesn't make us bi, gay, straight, or twisted, i c it as a normal quality
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Fleabitten (24625)
2009-06-24 12:33:36
It's normal to have these feelings. You should really look into the information that's out there regarding sexual orientation.

Have you heard of something called the Kinsey scale? Seriously, look into it.

Also, you could be bisexual. Most bisexual people prefer one gender over the other.

Remember that there are many other orientations out there besides gay, straight, or bi. For example, I'm pansexual. Just evaluate your feelings honestly. You'll find the truth and remember there are many organizations out there that can help.
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THATSWHATHESAID (24827)
2009-06-29 12:53:00
NO SUCH THING AS BI-SEXUAL
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carib_kid (25063)
2009-07-04 22:45:02
@: THATSWHATHESAID
um. pretty sure there is...
you just dont want to call it that
>:|
its when a person just likes sex alot. and will do it with anything within its species. (ie one really horny person).

now there is no such thing as pansexual. that just sounds nasty.
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medicalstudent (22191)
2009-07-06 20:28:57
@: carib_kid
Why define yourself? Sexuality is fluid... if a woman walks into your life and knocks you off your feet, YEY... if not, then no need to think about it. Keep an open mind, and stay true to yourself.
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firestar2525 (27650)
2009-08-26 18:39:44
i hate gay guys i like lesbians sort of but don't aprove i like girl on guy it seems better to me sorry
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hahaifeelmorenormal (28275)
2009-09-09 21:07:30
Aw fuck yeah you're normal, fuck the haters homie. I got the same problem sorta, I've only done sexual stuff with girls like online, never met em face to face, I'm too scared and I have no idea how you approach the topic. But because I haven't done anything in the real world cept kiss my best friend once and it was stupid and quick, I question myself if I am or not. But yeah, you're normal.
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Argollun (28826)
2009-09-22 14:01:36
in this day and age, it's normal. I blame this sort of confusion on our society, liking someone, loving some and having sex with someone are all very different but it seems so common today to want to say they're all the same thing.
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scarfface (27555)
2009-09-25 13:22:55
it's normal...wait for some time. it's normal to question one's sexuality during adolescence...
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Kingdomwolves56 (30582)
2009-11-04 07:56:24
there is nothing wrong and alot of people will try and tell you others wise im ridiculed at my school for liking ladies and fellas but it doesnt matter thats a totally natural thing even if its just curiosity it doesnt matter
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