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I want to know if it is normal that in your entire life you haven't had one true friend that really cares about you. My whole life I have tried so hard to fit in and be a good friend, but all I get is bad treatment by people. I have a wonderful husband, but he is the only person in this world who seems to love me. Even my parents don't care about me. I am no trying to have a pity party, I just wish I knew why. It seems like my entire life no one has really treated me right. Some people have friends that care about them and throw them birthday parties, care about their feelings, etc. I have never had this. I am jealous of people who have true friendship. I was very mistreated by my parents, who have told me they are going to move away to get away from their children, and that they should have never had any to begin with.
Does anyone out there feel this way, too?
Has anyone out there ever tried so hard to have friendship, but people just don't like you and you don't know why?
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Here is the honest truth that no one will ever tell you. You really have to perceive this by doing critical thinking and not just say, no that cannot be.

YOU are different. Why? because everyone sleeps around with everyone they hang out with, or they only hang out with people that THINK like them, do the same things, live the same way. Anyone who is different, they will brush off in an instant. You need to adapt. People NEVER talk with emotions. If you are talking with emotions, it is because YOU are the only GOOD person. No one likes GOOD people because they think "oh they think they are better than me." Seriously, it is so sad and true. It is the law of nature. Because you do not give yourself to other people, they will never like you. If you are beautiful and not sleeping around, no one will like you. If you are ugly, no one will like you. It is what we call, reality. People do not let go, people jealous. You have to understand this concept because you are not a jealous person you will never know.
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so damn true..I realized that there are a lot of people that have such a special ora that others hate it because that person is different.I have also found that a lot of times when people don't like a certain person for no reason it is because they do have a good heart and believe it or not there are a lot of people that are afraid of things they are not used to and because you are not like a lot of people it makes others uncomfortable.I think these type of people were specifically designed to not have friends for Gods own reason.
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Today the meaning of true friendship has completely vanished . If you share some of your feelings with someone emotionally they laugh at u and they never take u seriously . Sometimes it feels how dumb ass , stupid emotionless people have filled this world
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I strongly agree with this. Everyday iwakeup I ask myself who can I please today but at no time does ithe question "how many people can I fuck over for my own pleasure?" Or "who can I break down today?"or "who can I make as miserable as me if not more?" Those questions and so many more are processed daily by so many humans all over the world it's absolutely disgraceful. Why don't people want to go through each day with laughter and happiness? Why can't people stop and think of those around them rather than just about them selfish selves? Why doesn't the world wanna meet each other half way to happiness? We would all be so much better off and then us innocent bystanders wouldn't be the only victims....rather we would all be victims to one another pride. Sounds so much more fulfilling....don't ya think?
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violent10dency
WOW!!! I mean WOW!!! I never thought anybody else felt like this on the entire planet, but me. My whole life I got picked on and beat up in school and even in my neighborhood. Now I know I'm kind of weird, because i'm very shy, and really anti-social, but I mean damn people look at me and sometimes act like they wish they could rip my face off. Now don't get me wrong I did have a few friends throughout my childhood (some who i've found on myspace and become even greater friends with), but I can barely remember what it was like to be their friend when I was a child.

I grew up in a poor area, and I wondered if that had something to do with it, but nope I still got treated like shit when i moved in with my dad, everything I did somebody got an attitude. You should see me in college now, I shake if I have to publicly speak, and i'm very very very shy, but thankfully everyone is so nice. It could be because I was a teenager, but even my teachers treated me like shit, and I always heard rumors like I was pregnant, or I was the "whore of the trailor park down the street". I even remember screaming at this woman saying "I don't stick my chest out I have a C sized chest, you imbecile".

Most of my teenage years I spent indoors, because I hated all my neighbors. LOL. I had a few friends at school, but I wasn't really close to them.

Now my best friend is a 43 year old woman I work with, because everybody else just comes and goes, and hurts me. So fuck them, I say the hell with people, if they can't see you for who you really, then they need to go check themselves.

Throughout my years of being the center ridicule, I have come to the conclusion that it all boils down to J-E-A-L-O-U-S-Y. People tell me I look and act different, so what does that mean I have to look and act like everyone else to be accepted and surrounded by people who actually care about me? It's not worth it, atleast you are married, I would be happy with just a boyfriend.

I saw a shirt today that said "I%%u2019m not anti-social! Society is anti-me!" I'm buying it!!! it so suits me.
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i always feel alone like most of you do. the world is filled w/ billions of ppl but it seems so hard just to get some close friends. i have some but even some of them back stab me few times. i just couldn't believe it. i was married once, thought he was the one, but he chose his fam over me n now im married to my second husband but still feel miserable. he used to treat me rly nice before n comforted me, he was rly patient too, but now he is like a totally different guy. he would raise his voice for small things and just argue with me..
i grew up with ignorant parents who never cared much bout me. my mom used to steal my pocket money, my uncle used to abuse me verbally, my dad was just an ignorant. anything bad happened to me, no1 seems to care. now that i have my own life, my parents n siblings would just "use" me, asking me for money all the time as if money grows on tree lol. i always wonder how can my life be so sad but when i look at others, im so jealous with their life, they dont have to try so hard to gain friends. my own mom would compare me with my sister in front of strangers or my sister's boyfriend as if im nothing compared to her. but at the end of the day, my mom would beg me for money. i feel like no matter what i do, nothing can please them.
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am trying to be nicer on this website but i need to bring something up just for a sec
why do you keep telling everyone about your chest size its just getting wired but post whatever i guess O.k. While thats out of the way
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She just proved a point that people hate on her and randomly start up with her. i'm just saying.
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violent10dency
LOL. when did i talk about that? i was just trying to explain something about what people would say about me, like how they said i stuck it out but i didn't it was just big. i'm not proud of big chest, it doesn't matter to me.
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whow whow its done its done
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violent10dency
LOL.
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I feel like I am who I am and if they dont like it, they can bite my ass. I am an average very openminded, very helpful to my friends when they need if something I can do to make a difference, I really try and not be judgmental, I dont want to be judged by others simply because I am a male crossdresser. I have tried overhauling the clothes for new stuff, but when it comes down to it I am a t-shirt and jeans, or in summer- shorts, no shirt and sandals, I dont drink to excess, I hate hangovers, I try to treat others as I would like others to treat me in return. I will stand up and defend those that cannot defend themself. I dont smoke, cant stand the smell, I DO keep my crossdressing home and private, for the most part. And NO I dont go skipping off down the street in what society deems as "female" attire or lingerie. I realize most of society is not nor ever will be accepting of guys like myself. I am not worried about being accepted or not, what really bothers me is the way many very outspoken, narrowminded, Macho-egomaniacal, loud mouths are. I have heard many things that "friends" have said about me behind my back to another true friend. The trust is lost, the friendship is shot to hell and never will be again. What Im tryin to say is just because people may hear secrets about someone, or even they tell you a very private part of them as a person, We DO NOT have the right to pass judgment. Either people will be my friend or they wont. I will say tho, (patting my own back) As a friend I can be a hell of a best friend, I work on cars, build and fix computers, repair your house if you need, etc. I will bend over backwards and go out of my way for someone that I know for fact is a true friend. You dont want people makin fun of your siblings or your kids, so why make fun of or harrass someone that doesnt fit in your "box" idea of a world around us. Im done- (stepping down from my soapbox now).
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You have to understand that people do not CARE. If you do not truly understand that that means, i will try to explain it.

You go to the store. They don't care you are there. You say hi, they wonder why you are so nice. "Are you leading them on to have sex?" You offer help. They take it because it is free. You keep offering, they keep taking. YES, the majority of people in this life are like that. They think like this. Because, "you need to take care of yourself before you take care of others" but guess what... people do not follow the bible.

The more you act like Jesus, the more no one will like you. Think about it. You like so and so but if they don't like you, you move on. If they don't talk to you, you move on. Now, guess what... They are doing the same thing without thinking twice. People do not talk about life or stop to think, they just do what they want. This is what we call, freedom.
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It's kinda like, we are living in hell. Waiting to go back to heaven by trying to repent our sins here on Earth by doing good. We listen to the bible or something to teach us to be better people. But guess what, no one listens to the bible. They do not even know it themselves because they live this carefree life. They do not love people unconditionally like you.

Sit and watch a room full of people and you will finally understand. You will see God's sick show. You will see people talking smack about others. We call this a sin. We call this gossip. We call this, hate. We call this jealousy. We call this bad. People do it, and they don't even know it.

Now, another question is, who do you think you are? You are not your thoughts but the collection of roles you play with the people you know. Example. You go to france, do not take the time to learn french. The french call you a stupid American when you get there. You however, say "No i'm not a stupid american because I know who I am inside." We call this ignorance. YES, this is TRUE ignorance, when you do not even realize it yourself.
(ignorance is bliss) (if you did not understand what I just say, reread it and think about the other person's perspective... CRITICALLY THINK)
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cabinet70
You will find today a lot of people dont know what real friendship is unless your right in their face they dont care about you. Dont worry about just enjoy life with your husband. You might find its your husband people dont like just a guess
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If you try too hard to make friends, it often makes it worse, and you have to reckon with the fact that b=people all have good and bad sides, and unfortunately most peoples bad side involves taking advantage of anyone who is really nice to them, and then not giving a damn about that person.
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violent10dency
Yea I always get used by people, so whenever someone asks me for anything I usually get angry, even if it's just for a ride, or to buy them a pack of cigarettes, I never do. I feel bad later too.
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i never had friends, and then i got pretty and now everyone wants to be my friend.
beware. people will betray you. its better to be alone with one good husband than to have friends who will stab you in the back at any moment.
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ignore flick. hes just an ass hole that should die. it sounds to me like your parents are very cruel and aren't worthy of the title. Further, I'm afraid we are just in such a day & age where friends are only there to laugh at people, and it's now acceptable to not care about a friends true feelings. so i would definitely say this is normal.
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seems odd to me,everyone i end up meeting in life is mostly likely my friend i all ways found that to be wierd it may because am outgoing but who knows while maybe you should just relax with your husband till you get a friend i mean i think that as long as your husband caers about you thats all that really matters
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don`t worry- focus on what and who is good in your life. A word of advice: I seem to often attract clingy people - its because I am very open and friendly and also because I empathize with lonliness (one of worst feelings in the world). But there have been a few such clingy people who I simply had to let go (not return calls). This is because they put great pressure on me- telling me I was their best friend when I hardly knew them...What I`m sayiing is- if you try too hard you scare people away because no one wants to be responsible for the feelings of a vulnerable person that they hardly know. You have to take your time and allow a bond with people to come about more naturally.

Good luck- take care and appreciate your husband`s love.
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I have the same experience as you are before because I was self center without realize myself. Well now I have a lot of friends now. It not depend on how ugly you are. It depend on your heart and how you think for people are you. Always think about other before you think for yourself. That how I gain a good friend.
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All I know is, the best way to make good friends is not o get worried or anxious, and not to give a damn if you dont get through to them. Your definetly not alone and you ahev a good husband which is a lot more than many/most people have.
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Ouch that sucks, not many people really care much about me, my family and that's about it. I am anti-social most of the time, sometimes I don't mind big groups as long as not many people talk to me, like 2 or 3 is fine but if I'm in a big group and people constantly come up and talk to me then I absolutely hate it. I prefer being alone most of the time, I rarely actually want to go round a friends house, today I made up some excuse of why I had to leave my best friends house just so I could be alone. People don't generally mistreat me much, well not anymore when I was 11-12 that was a completely different story and those 2 years fucked me up a lot, I realized those 2 years were the roots of one of my major problems, which then caused me to go depressed at times and avoid talking to people as much as possible. Yeah I'm just wittering on right now.

I don't care much about anyone either though, my family don't care about my friends much and one girl and that's everyone I care about really. When I was 12 and under I cared about a lot of people, but now I don't.
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I exactly know what you're going through.
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thats totally fucked and i would be ur freind if u needed one
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Anyone who TALKS to you LIKES YOU SECRETLY. YES! That is who you are... You are nothing but how you look. EVERYONE who knows you, LIKES YOU. They are waiting for you to notice. If you don't, they call you an "iny-mini-myni-moe" lover because you cannot choose. Only ONE. That is all you get. Pick one.

The final revelation. Try and understand this because I am not lying. Many people do not understand philosophy. Philosophy is the metaphysical world. To make it easy on you, it is like saying... no wait, it IS saying "we live in the matrix". YES, like the movie, the matrix. Everyone likes being who they are, care free. They are not bound by a single soul. It is scary to think this, but yes. People are materialistic, nothing more. You need to reread everything you have learned because it is ALL TRUE.
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We who cannot understand this or do not wish to do this are what they call, "failer to launch" or "NEO" from the matrix. Because, we are the only TRUE FORM OF GOOD.

***Listen to everyone. what are they saying, what are they not saying, and what are they trying to say. This is a part of "growing up"

No one will ever tell you their secrets. They keep it secret. You are the only one who has not taken the leap because YOU are the only one who is NORMAL. You have choosen to live a good, honest life like the bible has said. That is why people say, "GOD = LOVE". Everyone else is playing a game. How many people can I fuck in my life time, how much money can I make, how many people can I... etc...

This is where you really have to think...
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FYI, no one can see your thoughts. What you are is what you present. Look in a mirror for a change. Stop self reflecting and ask, who am i? why do certain people like me and certain people not? why do certain people never approach me. why do I only approach certain people. or, why are YOU the only person who is still being "friendly" to everyone you meet? you will NEVER see them again. you go to mcdonald's to eat not to meet people. you go to work to get money, not to meet. you go to school to learn, not to meet. people realize, they need only do things for themselves.

They are sinners.

And, I used the bible and god as a ref. but it was the best way to explain it.

because people wake up thinking, "what do i want to do today. what do "I" want to do.
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When you figure out who YOU are is when wisdom will finally flow to you. It is when your life will have meaning. It is when you will learn to be a better person. It is when you will finally accept everyone for there flaws. It is when you see that people do not know what "finding god" really means. it is when everything you have learned in life will TRULY have meaning. You picked your life, so did they. They find people that are like them, so should you. But it is true what they say.

Majority of people will never acknowledge 1 life form. They will "stay here in hell". Relive, retry... We cannot "save" them.

When one can truly understand nature vs nurture. when people learn that people cannot set themselves free. when one can truly CRITICALLY THINK about how ugly this world is, is when one can see beauty and fight.

When you understand why YOU do what you do, is when you realize that you yourself have been doing the same thing they have been doing, without even knowing it. Yep... YOU are just like them, but also different in the path you choose.

So, who are you? not the you that thinks by itself, but the you that people see you as.

You are what you want to be.
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askmebitch
I have been making crude jokes on here but this sobered me up

I see much of you in me
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I for myself have been in that situation and believe me it's not a pretty sight, now I am the oldest of the three children I am a hard working 31 year old who has looked after my siblings for a number of years. My sister is the spolit one of the family while my brother is the hard working student who knows what life is like in the outside world. I have been treated like shit for the rest of my life by my father and let me tell you he is the strict one while my mum is the one that sits down and discusses the problems at hand. Now my sister has always been spolit from the day she was born right up till this year, "Daddy I want this, Daddy can I have a car and Daddy I am going out with my friends. What happened she got a car, goes out with her friends to smoke sheesha, sleeps late and does not help out me and mum with the housework or anything.

Even my brother is warning her not to go OTT or else she might get what's coming to her but it's like yeah whatever that sort of attitude. Now if I ask for anything my old man says that I cannot get a car I cannot go out with my friends cause of his lack of motivation and even when something goes wrong I always get the blame for everything. I did lose my rag a couple of times with him but then my mum says what's the point in you arguing with him just agree what he has to say and walk out of the room and believe me it works. At least if you had someone closer like my brother for instance he gets me out of these situations and I do the same for him. Don't worry what goes around comes around me and my brother will be hard working, loyal loving husbands while for my sister she will have four or five kids, a shitty job, not enough money to pay for the mortgage and she will crying to daddy to help her out.

This is what I am planning to do save up a lot of money and see if I can get myself an apartment that way I have got my own space and my own free life, no hassle no problems and even my brother can move in me if he wants cause I am thinking of moving to Manchster and plus it will be a great move for him as he has been accepted at Manchester University.
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I promise you if you are a man in this world you are fucked. If you are a woman you are fucked. If you are alive, you are bound to be fucked. And you best learn how to fuck other people. That's how it works. It's not even a dog eats dog concept. It's a Man Becomes Dog who Abuses Dog and blames Abused Dog for deserving being abused world. And if you are a man again you're in for a heart-breaking reality acceptance: most of the problems can be attributed to the fact that no woman is capable of harboring any of the virtues she claims she uplifts. In fact, you will be made into the monster she says she hates, and once you are that thing, you'll have more women swimming in your pool than sperm in your splooge.
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I feel the same way. I always speak through my emotions and how I'm feeling. To this day I do not have many friends or anyone who talks to me just because they want to. I know I am different and I am beginning to realize that other people are just shady. It can't be me if all I ever am is nice and I try to be a good friend and listen. Oh well their loss. I'm glad from reading all of your posts that I am not alone and that I hope one day i can meet and befriend people and start a relationship with guys like me. We are here to show people the real way to live.
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When i read this it was as if I had wrote it. I feel the same way. My parents too moved away, and have disowned all of their 5 children. I always felt it was just me, and i was different. People constantly take advantage of my good will, and kind heart. I often question, if I am just too nice, and need to be rude or mean to people to get friends. But I cant even pretend to do it, thats just not who I am. It is so frustrating, i got to the point where i thought something has to be wrong with me, it just isn't possible that it is everyone else, and not me. What do I have blinders on to?
Thank you for your post, as it is not easy to talk to people about this.
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I stumbled across this as I was interested in finding an answer to this very subject. @Philosopher King Wow! You nailed it! I have wondered my whole life why people treat me poorly. I have a need to want to make someone's day. By a smile, a compliment and making people feel special everyday. I have always known I'm different, and my whole life I've been told I'm "in the wrong" in every situation. My co workers use and backstab me, probably because they know I won't say anything. But it's only because it's not worth it most of the time. Good people are drawn to me, and Bad people hate me. Of course, because there are so many toxic people in my life (family and co workers) I am the scapegoat in every situation. I have often wondered why when I do so much good, that there are so many people who bad mouth, gossip and make up things about me, that I can't quite figure out why. I feel the pain of others. And I can't quite grasp why people would deliberately hurt another. Including myself. I know I'm different, but I would much rather be me and alone helping people, than be like them high giving each other for destroying people.
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oh man this is how it goes down
ok first when people talk about shit like this its usly the way they precive it. i thaought like this for 2 moths and i was misreble . i thought the world was against me but in the end it worked out good because it left a hollow shell to be refilled with knowledge and understanding. thats a diffrent story thow so back on point 2. its probly not very true you probly have friends and you said you had a spouse so there are people that care for you its just not the stereotypical way that they show in media
now to helpyou ill just tell you one thing play the game thats the whole thing all this be nice to be friends crap is bull you just have to damand respect and then that respect becomes whater you want it to be , fear, affection, hate , caring,anything you want go and live it
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omfg, i rly feel the same xO
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youwishyouwasme
Err... I don't try hard to make friends, I just be myself.
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you have to be a friend in order to have a friend. also, watch out for "users". stay cool, you will find one. friends have to have a common bond, such as where you work, having kids the same age or such. think about your own interests that can bring you to a group of people, such as a book, knitting, quilting, garden club, cooking class or bowling or golf league, maybe working for a political campaign or charity.
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I am the exact opposite! I make friends extremely easy, almost effortlessly, but my boyfriend hates it. He says people like me "social butterflies" need to go out to be entertained and "why can't I find entertainment at home?" He has this whole conformity kick to him, but what I would do, if I were you.. is reflect on the outside how you're coming off to other people. Take a step outside the box and look in. Is your body language confident? Are your words clear and on a consistent tone? People are drawn to those who are confident. I think that's something to work on - also, appearance. Dress like you're confident, stand tall like you're confident... and the world will notice and be drawn to you like a moth to a flame.
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Here is the honest truth that no one will ever tell you. You really have to perceive this by doing critical thinking and not just say, no that cannot be.
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PhilosopherKing, please please please pm me. I've never replied to a post on a forum before but you genuinely amaze me with the things you say and these things I've been realising over the past year and a half. Please pm me, really want to chat
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4years too late but here goes nothing
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If there is any way I can contact you please let me know
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