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am i normal to be this nervous at my age
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Hi, I'm 21 and I'm trained to be a florist, but the only thing stopping me going on any further is my anxiety. I've just started a level 3 floristry course and i feel like I cant carry on with it cause I hate eating in front of people. I shake and go tense I can't think straight. It has come to a point where I just don't eat in front of them any more and that just makes me look weird. I'm terrible in social situation, i don't sit with my boyfriend's parents and have a drink as i feel like they could see me shaking. And, now that I've taken on a floristry job its getting 10 times worse, where i feel like I cant even make up the flowers just so nervous and when the bosses are around I just freeze up. I feel like I need help but I've already had counseling for panick attacks and been to hipnotheropy to relax me but it comes back. I dont want to go on medication as my dad was a nervous person and was hooked on diasapan, what shall i do next...
Do you think it's normal?
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WarLord (13444)
2008-09-29 18:33:46
Have a few drinks before work, this will calm your nerves. Nothing like Dutch courage.
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downbythewater (16608)
2008-09-30 16:39:40
See a doctor and get some anti anxiety meds. There are many excersizes you can do as well when you're getting nervous like squeezing and making a fist and slowly letting it go. It's relaxing and takes your mind off of being nervous. Reading anxiety books to get to the root of your problem really helps as well.
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scorpiomoon (18693)
2008-12-20 23:12:09
Well I Don't think its normal but you're definitely not alone. I too have intense anxiety in certain social situations as well as performance anxiety under pressure. I combat this with physical exercise and meditation. I can also highly recommend yoga. I still have panic attacks, but I can control them way better and I don't have them nearly as much. I'm pretty sure you probably have an anxiety disorder which you will probably always have, but you can get it under control if you believe you can.
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itwilldestroy (19802)
2009-01-29 01:09:57
hi :)
i suffered/suffer form anxiety, i felt every1 was watching me, i felt under intense pressure to not fail one example i have is when i was walking down the road as cars got closer i got tenser and tenser until i felt i was going to explode,as if they were watching, waiting for me to fail. I found that if i could take my mind away from the "on coming car" i would loose the tension, i would say the letters of the alphabet in my head and they woudl pass and i woudl be fine, i found over time with repatition it disapeared, i do get minor times of "pops" still happening but they pass so quikly now :)
i hope i helped :)
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MissMaevie (21577)
2009-04-03 22:55:18
I suffered from Social Anxiety for years. There are different kinds of relaxation techniques that a cognitive therapist could teach you. There are also different types and categories of medications. The diazepam that you mentioned is an older drug that turned out to be addictive. Today, they use drugs like Effexor which are not addictive and target specific brain neuotransmitters. Please see a psychiatrist for explanation!!!!
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MIZZSP0NG3BOB (16295)
2009-04-25 23:21:41
I think you are suffering from Social Anxiety...Your symptoms you are describing are the majority of those of Social Anxiety. I advise you to go see a doctor for a diagnosis of some sort or at least a check-up on mental activity.
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Infinity (24815)
2009-06-29 04:55:58
Some people take medicine to help them, and its strange that people frown upon it, as so many people self medicate, with alcohol.

Just because your dad had it, doesnt mean you will be stuck with anxiety forever, and doesnt mean you'd get hooked like him either.

If you dislike diazepam, just work on trying to chill out. Find somewhere you feel chilled out, try to remember why you feel like that.

And if you feel uncomfortable doing something like eating in public, dont do it. No point winding yourself up over something unimportant.

I've had panic attacks and anxiety around people too. Now I still feel a little too uncomfortable to go to nightclubs anymore, but its mostly all good.

good luck :)
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PRETTYUGGREBOOTED (28115)
2009-09-05 05:39:10
you might be allergic to Pansies LMAO
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