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I get really nervous before things such as individual sports like athletics, triathlons etc, and also speech competitions, and even when having friends around.
I don't like to fail myself, so i guess you could say thats a reason why I get so nervous.
But what happens when I get nervous is that I vomit, so instead of diahrea or something I spew, which can be really embarrasing,and people are always like are you ok? which is really annoying. I think I do it though so i have an excuse if I lose, so i can say I was spewing.
But usually even though I spew before, during and after my race, or before speeches, I usually always win, however lately it has started affecting me so bad, that it makes me fail coz i can't keep running because of it as i dry-retching in the race.
I've been to a psychiatrist and they gave me tips, but they don't work, coz they are mind games and my mind knows how to beat them.
Is it normal for me to be this anxious, and do you have any advice?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (7)
violent10dency (10988)
2008-11-06 10:43:33
Your situation is actually normal and I recommend reading "Living Full with Shyness and Social Anxiety" by Erika B. Hilliard Reading a book may seem boring or maybe even stupid for you to read about a current problem you are experiencing but I just finished reading this book, and I learned a lot about what can actually cause social anxiety and a lot about myself as well.
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winterfresh (21111)
2009-03-20 05:04:37
I remember I used to get super anxious about taking tests and those kind of things in high school. I now know it's because I was so inclined to be perfect, to impress everyone (mostly my parents). I'd get upset if I made one mistake. Though I never spewed or any of those likes, I still felt sick to my stomach. For days before the actual test. Thankfully one day it all stopped. The day I stopped careing to impress anyone but myself. It's hard to accept yourself, so you think it's hard for others to accept you. Just take my advice on this... hardly anyone cares if you do well or not. Harsh right? It's true though, think about the other people at speech competitions. You don't even listen to them do you? Just give it your best, never stop careing about doing well, but definitly stop careing about being perfect.
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heidi22 (22744)
2009-05-07 03:22:48
Hmm.
Maybe you should talk to someone more about this. I mean i get anxious, but not sickly.

I think the problem is more than anxiety.

|Good luck x

Di x
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mistyluvr (23116)
2009-05-17 14:25:56
You've been traumatized somewhere in your past to tell you that the only thing that brings you self-worth is to be the best at everything you do. Perfectionism. If you don't win, or succeed, then you are a failure somehow and that therefore defines you as a failure as a whole and not worth anything. You don't have permission to fail for some reason. Maybe a parent pushed you to be the best, or perhaps you were neglected or rejected a lot when you didn't succeed. Perhaps you feel invisible if you don't succeed and you can't bear that. I understand what you are going through. For me it was due to rejection and abandonment, and if I failed then I wouldn't be getting the attention that I felt I desperately needed. I am learning that God has to be enough for me. It isn't easy.
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iraver (23275)
2009-05-21 15:57:57
one of my friends who is a girl is JUST like that!
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housecat (22932)
2009-06-16 11:33:09
Try reading The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.

Before going into an event that makes you nervous, remind yourself that the world is just a big sandbox for you to play in, and enjoy it :)
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HalfMoonFlare (27886)
2009-09-01 12:18:36
Ask you doctor if Aspergers Syndrome is right for you!
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