Are arranged marriages normal?

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If you want your parents to choose your mate, it's OK with me.

it's normal. a good thing in some cases too. arranged marriage is kinda the same as someone hooking you up with a blind date, just a lil more extreme. i'll admit, it goes a little too far at times, but it's still good if the married couple wants it.

Thanks.

Thanks for your input.

I know somebody at work whose marriage was arranged. I also know another colleague who married her blind date. In the meantime, I have a close friend who found a boyfriend via a dating website.

Fundamentally, there's nothing wrong with arranged marriages. They're just different variations of the dating website or friends introducing you to someone. As long as they know this person could be right for you, then there's nothing wrong with an introduction. But what's wrong though, is if your parents arranged your marriage just because they are desperate to see you get married and give them grandchildren without thinking about your happiness. This is counter-productive and will demoralise you.

As long as your brown, yeah....

No, fuck that. Once you left the womb you were your own person. Your parents can try to persuade you to do what they want but at the end of the day you can always say "hey, fuck off!" and do whatever you feel like. Live free, die free.

i agree with reddawn. everyone should be able to fall in love with whomever he or she chooses, not by what their parents want.most of those arranged marriages the guy and girl don't even know each other or haven't even thought of each other that way.
its cruel and unjust, and i've always been against them.

I see nothing wrong with it, and in some places, even in America, it still happens. As long as both parties are "of age" and agree to it then what difference does it make? As recently as last century, marriage was viewed as a union between two people for the benefit of themselves as well as their families. It was about procreation and combining/retaining assets/wealth and procreation. In the 17th century and regency period etc, it was common for for married couples to carry on their own affairs separately after a male heir has been produced.

Marrying for love was always a novel idea in theory, as far as in practice, it was fairly uncommon. A "love match" was always rare.

-Only in the past 100 years or so did people start believing that one musty be madly in love with their partner before marriage.

I say, normal.