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In many ways you are fortunate in being given the chance to cheat on your wife but it does seem to me to be hard on her. Women lose their attraction to men far more quickly than men lose their attraction to women and this means that women feel far more insecure and vulnerable in their marriage than men do.
Surveys have shown that the majority of men who have never cheated on their wives have not done so because of lack of opportunity rather than faithfulness. This being the case, I suppose you should not feel too badly about it but you may well reflect on the fact that your wife has given you two chances after separating so please try and consider her feelings before you cheat again.
I am certainly not judging you, I have no right to do so, but I am sure you are the sort of gentleman who would give consideration to your wife especially as you are so much in love. It must hurt her to know what you are doing, or have done and in consideration of her, perhaps you might like to avoid continuing your cheating.
Anyway, you are not alone in what you have done and it can be very hard indeed to resist the temptation. May I suggest that you take a long look at your life and future and plot the right course for yourself. It may be a choice between your wife or occasional affairs with married women with no hope for long term happiness.
You sound to me like a good guy and I am sure you will deal with this situation in the best way for you both.
Best wishes.

Perhaps you two enjoy each other's company more than you do the actual commitment of love and marriage. I simply don't understand people who cheat, and I feel as if it so common that nobody thinks twice about it. Honestly, I have been asked by men for sex and to cheat on my then boyfriend. I have even been asked by a guy to leave my boyfriend and go out with him, and I've been asked by a women to have sex with her and her husband for her birthday. Each time I have been very appalled and infuriated as I think that is discusting and immoral behavior. I can't judge but I think it shows your true colors, and how much you really care about your wife.

I wish you well on your "endeavors" and hope you don't get another women pregnant or get an STD.

Careful that dinner your wife gives you may be laced with poison and the only reason why she takes you back. lol

But on the serious side, Sex addiction is a common problem, i would seek help and to be on the safe side, get tested.

it's not that you CAN'T turn it down when it's offered to you, it's that you refuse to. you do NOT love you wife. otherwise you would honor your marriage vow, you know, the part where you said, "Forsaking ALL others."

Be a real man and stop giving your wife's body to other women.

You don't love your wife. Otherwise you wouldn't be cheating on her. If its not enough, tell her. Stop being so shallow. If shes doesn't want to give more, then don't throw a little hissy fit and go to another woman.

You are not a nice person. No one deserves what you're doing to your wife. :/

OMFG STOP IT. you are an emotionaly detached person. your wife who you seem to love will not take you back < think of that next time it is offerd .

I hope she leaves you. I wish I had the guts to leave the guy I love who's cheated on me before. I feel like you are taking advantage of the fact that you know she won't leave. ... God, I hope she does. She deserves better.

Damn your wife's a doormat. I would never take back a jerk like you. You should be ashamed of yourself. It's almost as if your proud of what your doing. And you obviously have 0 respect for her or else you wouldn't betray her like that. And for 18 years! You are scum on top of scum.

See a councilor. You're obviously not fully satisfying your desires at home. And for god's sake you can control yourself, don't make excuses for yourself.

Try a threesome?

I feel bad for your wife, you need help or you need to have some bad sex with a desease infested wh0re... alth0ugh that pr0bably w0uldn't make a damn difference because you come off as someone that wouldn't care if they fucked someone over in any way shape or form.

Divorce your fuckin' wife and quit hurting her!

"Wife & soulmate" - ? - you are not behaving like much of a soulmate, or husband and you know it. You are selfishly living a lie and hurting her.

So she will find you out, again, and be hurt, again. Change or lose her. Those are the choices.

Get counseling to uncover why you are so easily drawn to these shallow affairs.