Hello, I am a mother of three children, ages 14, 15 and 16. I love my children but sometimes the annoy the sh*t out of me. whenever they get bored they always come and bother me. Sometimes the like to poke me and say "mommy" and i say "what" and they say "nevermind". and im all like, What the f**k is your problem? Show some damn maturity.
one day my children just made me blow my top and i beat the sh*t out of all three of them. first with a shoe, then a wet towel and finally a bag of apples. i mean, they just made me THAT mad. after that i felt guilty so i apologized. then suddenly i felt something hit the back of my head. it was an apple.... a f**king apple. then i beat my children again. ever since that day ive been beating my children with whatever i could find.
is this normal? if not please help me
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It sounds VERY immature. You need to seek professional help. I advise you to take yourself and all 3 of your children to a therapist.
You obviously have extreme anger problems.
Abuse is not the answer. They will simply lose respect for you, what little respect they have...
Ha and also ha. Seek help. Give the children to your mother to raise. Have your tubes tied.
You are the adult--or are you a teen mother? You sure act like one! At any rate, you're their mother, you're older, and in theory are more mature. That means you have to stop this stupidity before something really sick happens.
It's already been said, but I'll say it again. You started a vicious and violent cycle. YOU need to break it. YOU need to stop. YOU need to realize that people don't just take abuse without lashing back. YOU deserve everything you get until they finally realize you've changed. I can only hope you'll change. 3 against one, you'll lose in the long run, I promise.
We don't need to help you, you need to help yourself. If you can't deal with that, then you need to transfer custody to a caring family member or turn yourself in to the authorities.
Also, the kids probably say "nevermind" because they detected an annoyed tone in your voice and thought it better to leave you alone. They know these things...more than you ever will understand.
The kids don't know that they're annoying you. They think you hate them for no reason. Even if you ask them, they'll deny it. They probably have mixed emotions now and will be SCARRED FOR LIFE because of you. Congrats on dropping a bomb in their future.
What would you think if you, as a child, were beaten by your mother and didn't understand why?
You can't assume anything about them. Unlike me, you are unable to read minds.
You're a terrible person. Absolutely terrible. These are you children. They love you, and you should love them. What happens when they grow up and beat their children as well? You're condoning a sickening act towards children. I mean, they're KIDS. Grow up. And f*ck you.
Stop beating them and grow up lady, you act their age.
And your kids sound annoying enough to send to some bootcamp type thing... but you have to change before you try to change them because what you're teachng them obvi isn't the healthiest behaviour...
You could easily get reported and go to jail, which you obviously deserve. You bitch, go to hell.
WTF.
Please change.....for your own good, for your kids, for the next generation, for the world!!!!!
Peace,
Samantha
Stop hitting them. Go to a child & family welfare agency & get family and parenting counseling and whatever support the children need.
I hope your kids learn it is OK to get help. If this abuse is what you have put your kids through all along they may have problems emotionally and in school, work, and relationships now & in the future.
Anyway you'd better turn yourself around because you have already earned their contempt and disrespect. They may never forgive you and may despise you forever.
Your choice.
Regardless of how much they infuriate you, they are small, they are weak, they are inexperienced--they are children. Whether or not they know what they're doing, you should be the mature and level-headed adult, you should be the one showing them how to act. As it is, you're showing them to be violent if they don't get their way.
You need to find a more effective and less destructive and abusive way of managing your household. The only discipline they know is what you show them. You've started beating them, so now you will have a harder time getting them to respond to "normal" discipline. The longer you continue this, the harder it will be to ever go back to normal.
Moreover, the more you continue it, the more likely it is your kids will beat their children, and pass on your method of releasing anger long after you're gone from this world. Is that what you want your legacy to be?
But anyway, I think this is NOT normal at all. You have to get some help RIGHT AWAY. If you don't, then you could go into court, have your children taken away from you, and even be tooken to jail for Child Endangerment. Get a family therapist. And after your done, you should manage your anger problems . If they annoy you, you should just be calm, don't explode. Since I'm not a mother and I never came from an abusive household, I wouldn't know much, but please resolve this issue ASAP. I really hope the best of wishes to you and your children and that you will realize that abuse is not the answer.