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So here I am, 28 years old and I have never really had anyone close. With no family and one really bad relationship under my belt I learned how to live alone. I am fully independent and I have been that way for a long time. Over the past two years I have a friend that has made it past the protective barriers everyone else gets. We are now officially BFF's and are about to rent a house together. She is like the sister I never had but I am not used to 'needing' others. Is it normal for people to rely on others emotionally? I am not sure what divides the line of co-dependency and just normal human connections. I want to make sure I am on the right side of that line. In my heart I feel we have a great bond but I am new to having someone who truly cares about me and having someone to care about. I am a little confused and unsure. :( I just need to hear from people who have had family and healthy friendships on the topic.
Do you think it's normal?
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downbythewater (16608)
2008-10-07 13:00:40
Learn to open yourself up to people. Being completely closed off is your problem. And yes it is normal for people to rely on others emotionally but it's not really something you want to do anyway.
Just be open.
Knock down the walls man.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2008-10-07 16:32:42
Just go with the flow and see what happens take things easy it will take you a while to get used to living with someone but it will get easier in time.
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flikr (10636)
2008-10-08 20:22:55
if your moving in a with a girl and youve never put any moves on her then your gay and thats your problem
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Anonymous Story Author
2008-10-09 19:32:37
@: flikr
Sexual orientation isn't the issue here. I am not sure what world you live in where best friends don't sometimes become roommates.
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MisterGee81 (16946)
2008-10-17 12:35:14
homer your mom loves to suck big juicy black dicksss you racist faggot thats why u are such a racist its obvious and i know her personeely she told me your screen name u white trash opile of shito
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smeagolxx (24102)
2009-06-21 23:43:56
bff is a recipe for disaster unless you're both of the same gender... you'll see what i mean when she finds herself a boyfriend...

the only way bff between opposite sexes can work is if one is gay, or if they're together as a couple
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PurpleOne (31131)
2009-11-11 17:32:22
I too am 28 and also live alone. Yup, it's nice to be independent in a way but it can be tough to feel like you don't have anyone around. I say good for you that you found someone to share our space with even if it's only for a short time. I wrote an article called <a href="http://hubpages.com/hub/Tips-for-Women-Who-Live-Alone-It-Doesnt-Have-to-be-THAT-Bad">7 Tips for Women Who Live Alone:It Doesn't Have to be THAT Bad. </a> Let me know if it helps somehow!
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-12-20 09:27:12
Human beings are by default social beings; they prefer being around each other. Why try to deny this?

You should be celebrating the fact that you now have a flatmate whom you can have a good time with. Believe me, good social interactions cure many problems in life. There's nothing to be confused and unsure about. Just enjoy it! Have fun!
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smileytea (38914)
2010-03-17 07:06:06
Its ok to have reservations.Getting ground rules to start with can aleviate many problems when you live together.Stuff like the chores, who does what, provides great chances for relationship building while they are being done but can cause alot of hastles if you dont sort out who does what early enough.Being open and honest and receptive to changes also goes along way to help relationships.Its worth the risks to live with someone. Go enjoy yourself.
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amberinboston (38933)
2010-03-18 19:07:19
Enjoy having a roomate and emotional support. However, take note that living with someone and seeing them on the daily provides challenges that are new and sometimes arguments or irritations arise.
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cgirl123456 (38911)
2010-03-19 20:16:23
It's really important to have emotional support! It's scary to open yourself up to someone, but if you find a special person that you can trust, then you can definitely depend on her!
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