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best friend vs boyfriend rival..help!
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I have been dating this guy for a couple months now but have been hanging out with him much longer. At first him and all my friends got along very well, he paid for everyones drinks and it was a fun time. When we started dating him and my best friend started having an attitude towards eachother..she called me and told me he said things like "if we weren't together then you and I would be" ect. But for some reason i honestly can't imagine that coming out of his mouth, and he swore on his mothers grave which he never does unless he is serious about it. My best friend gave me an ultimatum of him or her and to not go crying to her if i get hurt. I can only see him once or twice a week also..which i cut down to once a week because she told me she needs more time with me. She's blaming me for whatever is going on and not allowing me to make my own decisions. I'm not a push over and I'm actually a really smart girl capable of making my own decisions and good ones at that. Help!
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Comments (17)
silvermoon (19180)
2009-01-28 12:16:44
It doesn't sound like your bf is the kinda guy that would do that and it sounds like your friend is being a bit overpowering I know alot of people that actually will do that to a friend and most don't actually realize it (my sister used to tactickly insert herself in to a group and pick one person to be her best friend then she would skillfully make the rest of that person's friends hate her so that my sister would be the only friend her friend had, thus she wouldn't have to share her friend.... reread a couple of times if you need to :P I know I used friend alot :P

anyway tell your friend to lay off abit and good luck :D
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replicator (19836)
2009-01-30 21:09:48
Go for boyfriend. You won't marry with your best friend, after all. She doesn't pay for your drinks. Make the natural choice.
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inlovewithlove1991 (11993)
2009-02-16 00:54:35
well i guess your boyfriend's mother is either going to hell or he is because do you really think your BEST friend would lie to you about something like that? one of my guy friends is the same way your boyfriend sounds like he is...when he had a girlfriend, he pretty much said "if she & i weren't together, i'd date you" or something...i say listen to your best friend & dump your boyfriend because it's sisters before misters..therefore your best friend will be there a lot longer than your lying, playing boyfriend will be
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tornwithin (18040)
2009-02-24 21:38:46
thats how my friend was shed always have to hang out with me and my bf and get mad if we didnt invite her everywhere and we couldnt kiss infront of her and shed make up stuff that he was saying when he clearly wasnt and shed be like whatever choose a guy over ur best friend how pathetic..and ya turns out she was a lieing backstabbing cunt and i finally found out she never liked me just used me to hang out with when she was bored so she says and the list goes on and on but she sounds a lil possesive to me and she'll just keep doing that with each bf u have
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anxietytrip (20903)
2009-03-10 18:57:57
That seems very sketchy but at the same time why would your best friend make up a lie like that? Analyze your friendship with her and see if she is the type of person who would say that. Guys can be sketchballs sometimes too. Don't jump to conclusions, let it be, and if there is more conflict then you'll have to make a decision. If you truly believe one over the other is telling the honest truth, pick them.
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k3vlarSnare (21702)
2009-04-06 21:20:25
HE lied.. about not saying it... and he most definitely does swear on his grandmas grave whenever he feels like it. I know, and ughh I'm sorry if he hurt your feelings.
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lawliett (22296)
2009-04-24 08:52:48
Really, it could go either way. Your friend sounds a little bit jealous and/or possessive of you. But at the same time, she could be wanting to protect you from a guy she knows is wrong for you. I had a boyfriend who was sweet as hell to my face and would have never guessed that he was trying to cheat on me with my best friends - but he was.

In any case, don't let either one of them influence what you decide to do... it is for you to make.
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fk7inkraginendykott (22297)
2009-04-24 13:19:32
A lot of people have sworn on their mothers grave and lied. They are still around.You have to figure out who's lying and who's not. You my not want to be standing to close to your bf. I'll date you and wont cheat. I swear on my mothers grave
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Renalin (22565)
2009-05-10 16:34:32
Dump that bitch. Your "best friend" is either telling the truth and being insensitive or being a lying bitch.
Honestly, I'm not surprised. Most girls (I'm a girl, too) are like that. Well, the normal ones. That's why you gotta be smart about who you're friends with.
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Divadelamort (23119)
2009-05-19 19:19:16
I think your friend is being a little over possesive, she has the right to tell you what she thinks but does not have the right to give you an ultimatum. In my experience usually if all of your friends don't like a guy then he's prolly no good for you. I think you should have your family meet him and give you more of an objective view on him. If its really bothering you get the two of them together and confront them in front of one another. If you're not bothered then do what is best for you. If your friend is really a friend shell get over it and be there for you no matter what!
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hebaio (23183)
2009-05-20 02:22:52
how is she your best friend if you don't trust her enough to believe in what she says?
i would definitely believe the best friend over the boyfriend, especially if you've known her longer.
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JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny (22923)
2009-06-21 08:40:54
Trust you're friend, dear. That's what it always omes down to. They last longer, anyway.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-06-26 11:40:38
It took a lot of courage and care for your best friend to tip you off. You don't think she'd make that up do you?
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SyC0Pathik (26085)
2009-07-25 22:27:42
i think your friends kinda jealous someones taking her thunder just take everything your friend says with a grain of salt
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WTBskillz (26092)
2009-07-25 23:03:25
i say...threesome?
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fathulk91219 (27482)
2009-08-22 19:34:26
i say hes lying

its what alot of us guys do
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