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boss inviting me for cocktails?
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Hey, I'm wondering if this is something normal or if I should be creeped out. I'm not very experienced in the working world. And I have a terrible radar for telling if someone's attracted to me.

So my old boss is a family friend who I've known for a long time. He has a wife and a kid. I'm a 20-year-old who used to work for his company. I haven't worked for him for a year, but this summer when I moved back he invited me out first for coffee, just to have a chat and catch up on things. And he's a cool guy, we talked about all sorts of things, I guess he enjoys talking to me. A month later he invited me for a beer to do the same. And now he's inviting me for cocktails, just with him. Now, he hasn't made any advances, at least as far as I know. See the problem is that I don't have a very good radar for flirting. That is why I'm posting here. I really would like to think that this is not the case. But why cocktails? Isn't there an old cliche about the boss wanting to have cocktails with the female employee or something? I just feel really weird going for cocktails with my 40-year-old boss.
Do you think it's normal?
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magnum2 (771)
2005-10-16 05:09:49
although nothing has happened yet,it does seem strange, be wary if you do end up going.
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Moi (588)
2005-10-16 09:06:07
This sounds like a "date" to me, WITH a married man ...
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frodopacket (780)
2005-10-16 14:33:23
yep its a date, he want more, 1 date its ok if the guy wanna talk business for a promotion or something like that, but now i think he wannna 20yrs old women , everymen are attracted by youngest women, he want your littl ass and play to the wolf and the "Petit-chaperon rouge". he gonna try to eat you lady:P
xxx
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magnum2 (771)
2005-10-16 21:44:34
@: frodopacket
yeah, frodopacket!!!! HA! great name!
{really!}
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JES (335)
2005-10-16 22:28:09
@: magnum2
Watch out! (I can see this coming a block away.) He enjoys your company for now but just wait for these little confessions to start coming up: "My wife and I are O.K. but the romance is gone. We don't have sex anymore. We have an 'open marraige'. She doesn't understand me - but you do. I think my wife and I are getting separated/divorced. I'm not your boss anymore, we're old friends and I'd like to take the next step in our relationship. I need you. I've fallen in love with you." If you hear ANYTHING like this, RUN FAST.
I still retch at the memories of aftershave, business suits and Cadillacs.
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MrsP (854)
2005-10-18 07:29:04
Ummm, that would would be your creep radar going off. If you feel uncomfortable about going out alone with him for drinks then he most likely has hit on you; even if your flirt radar didn't go off. Stay away, old guys creep me out.
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Anonymous
2005-10-19 08:57:55
@: JES
if your american just fuck him cuz it will only screw up the us better so do em contribute to a fucked up and corrupt society
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Anonymous (Story Author)
2005-10-19 17:22:56
lol, to the poster above, nah I'm not American.

So I'm the original poster, the one who wrote this. And I forgot to add one other detail. he did compliment me on my figure when we had coffee the first time. He was kind of stumbling over his words, I mentioned I'd gained the freshman 15 once during the winter and he was like "well when I saw you come in you looked great, um trim, in good shape.." and I thought nothing of it really at first, but it did make me feel a little strange.
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Anonymous
2006-06-10 03:22:17
ok, well no one can give accurate advice just on the information you've given (not an insult, but of course it's very hard to say/tell over the internet for you and us) but it doesnt matter if he is being weird or flirty or not, you are uncomfortable and that is all that matters. don't do it. if he is really just up for friendship, he won't mind one little bit if you rearrange to go back to coffee or something like lunch in a busy part of town. if he starts to try to "playfully" coerce you into cocktails, there is a problem.

ps. i dont mean to insult you or your boss, honestly, but whatever you do, keep an eye on your drink......just in case
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CockCrazyGirl4Life (2408)
2006-08-11 20:11:31
@: JES
JES said:

"I still retch at the memories of aftershave, business suits and cadillacs"

Eh, are you a lesbian???
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cabinet69 (3089)
2006-09-15 07:36:29
Those cocktails can be real leg openers but as this story was posted last year youve probably fucked him already. Hope it was nice older blokes do it better
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