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Boyfriend a little TOO attached?
My boyfriend is totally and incredibly in love with me. We've been together for a year and a half, I'm 19 and he's 22. We've been living together for 8 months. However, sometimes I think he loves me a little TOO much.
I had a job interview not too long ago that he made me late to because he didn't want me to have a job "because then I will be away from him too long". He's not enthralled with me working, even though neither of us have jobs.
We 'took a break' last week due to an unrelated issue and when we spoke again, I found out he had spent the night in the hospital due to breathing problems and tight chest pains, something I've never seen evidence of in the past year and a half.
About two months after we started dating, he told me he wanted to get my name tattooed on him. I repeatedly told him no that I didn't want him to in case something happened. The first time we got into a fight, he carved the first two letters of my first name into his arm. Every time we get into a fight, he re-carves these two letters. He tells me he'll probably get my name tattooed on him in his native language so I can't read it.
He begs me to tell him when I'm going out with my friends, so I don't "leave him sitting alone at home all miserable."
If I'm at home and doing an activity I'd prefer to do alone (reading, showering, etc..) He butts in and either tries to do it with me, or just sits around nearby, either staring at me or staring off into space.
He is my first boyfriend, so I'm not exactly sure...is this a normal relationship?
I had a job interview not too long ago that he made me late to because he didn't want me to have a job "because then I will be away from him too long". He's not enthralled with me working, even though neither of us have jobs.
We 'took a break' last week due to an unrelated issue and when we spoke again, I found out he had spent the night in the hospital due to breathing problems and tight chest pains, something I've never seen evidence of in the past year and a half.
About two months after we started dating, he told me he wanted to get my name tattooed on him. I repeatedly told him no that I didn't want him to in case something happened. The first time we got into a fight, he carved the first two letters of my first name into his arm. Every time we get into a fight, he re-carves these two letters. He tells me he'll probably get my name tattooed on him in his native language so I can't read it.
He begs me to tell him when I'm going out with my friends, so I don't "leave him sitting alone at home all miserable."
If I'm at home and doing an activity I'd prefer to do alone (reading, showering, etc..) He butts in and either tries to do it with me, or just sits around nearby, either staring at me or staring off into space.
He is my first boyfriend, so I'm not exactly sure...is this a normal relationship?
Do you think it's normal?
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~Peace~
basically he has to try and get a hold of him self the brake will only strenghen his attachment with you cos he wont want to lose you again you have to tell him that he needs to calm down
tell him to try and be a little less attached in return show some affection to him and tell him you love him when hes getting a bit too clingy
but just dont start getting angry with him over it and frustrated as it makes things worse you need to be understanding
Just tell him that you need boundrys and tell him that you will always love him no matter what. :)
He may not have the best methods in dealing with his overwhelming affection for you, but dont cast him aside if you love him.
Like Sxv123 said.. or give him the 'Your smothering me an goin to lose me anyway' speech. But not so you can run round behind his back an tramp it up
I understand how much he loves you and I can see that you love him so much that you are together for over a year now. But, he's demanding and controlling. It's unacceptable in a healthy relationship cause it seems that he's using your love to obey him.
And I thought my boyfriend is too needy when he wanted to know everything about what I do daily and texting me every 5 minutes.. despite the 5 hrs long phone call every night..
Well, it would really hurt him if you left him and will be so devastated as (Serafina) said. But hey.. it is you who's going to be emotionally hurt and weary for the rest of your life if you're looking forward to marry him.
Love is not everything.. but, there are some good qualities a man should have .. Independent, Responsible and Strong. Which I think he's not aware of..
My advice is too see what is best for you not him.
Goodluck
I don't think his using you, I just think he may have some insecurities and if you find them hard to deal with..
Run while you can otherwise you may end up in a trapped relationship even marriage where he controls your every move...
An obsession is never healthy....And if you cannot deal with it anymore...I advise you get out before it's too late.