Boyfriend a little TOO attached? http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/ He is obsessed more so than anything else... I don't think his using you, I just think he may have some insecurities and if you find them hard to deal with.. Run while you can otherwise you may end up in a trapped relationship even marriage where he controls your every move... An obsession is never healthy....And if you cannot deal with it anymore...I advise you get out before it's too late. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-324253 2009-11-19 03:56:55 I know I can't tell you what to do.. But, I agree with you and every1 here; he's too needy. I understand how much he loves you and I can see that you love him so much that you are together for over a year now. But, he's demanding and controlling. It's unacceptable in a healthy relationship cause it seems that he's using your love to obey him. And I thought my boyfriend is too needy when he wanted to know everything about what I do daily and texting me every 5 minutes.. despite the 5 hrs long phone call every night.. Well, it would really hurt him if you left him and will be so devastated as (Serafina) said. But hey.. it is you who's going to be emotionally hurt and weary for the rest of your life if you're looking forward to marry him. Love is not everything.. but, there are some good qualities a man should have .. Independent, Responsible and Strong. Which I think he's not aware of.. My advice is too see what is best for you not him. Goodluck http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-313458 2009-09-27 08:15:35 he sounds like the type of guy taht will hunt you down and kill you if you leave him end it now before he gets too obsessed lol i knda feel bad for you it must be really annoying to have someone over your shoulder every second but yeah break it off http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-313055 2009-09-25 11:21:23 some of you are real pricks an most likely need wide open spaces to make a big 'mistake' (cough* s l u t s) He may not have the best methods in dealing with his overwhelming affection for you, but dont cast him aside if you love him. Like Sxv123 said.. or give him the 'Your smothering me an goin to lose me anyway' speech. But not so you can run round behind his back an tramp it up http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-311397 2009-09-16 12:00:02 Ok he just doesnt want to lose you. Trust me im a guy. Just tell him that you need boundrys and tell him that you will always love him no matter what. :) http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-307116 2009-08-26 00:39:02 you are sick! Why woul you want someone as sick as him to love you' get help Carving your name into yor arm is not love....it's fucked up and sick! http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-304031 2009-08-06 14:03:27 That's a creepy story and you could help him by letting him read your question on this page and then the replys. He needs help and a job! He must of had an abusive childhood or somehing serious happen to him. Good luck to both of you. He needs serious help. It's far from normal and the longer you listen to him and hang with him, the more normal it will start to sound to you too. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-304030 2009-08-06 14:01:29 im kind of the same me and my gf broke up and i had a panick attack and passed out i also has a heart palpitation due to a conditions known as "broken heart syndrome " where your brain releases chemicals to basically kill you it weakens your heart and respiratory system and its caused when you have a great loss such as losing a partner its where the phrase dieing of a broken heart comes from, basically he has to try and get a hold of him self the brake will only strenghen his attachment with you cos he wont want to lose you again you have to tell him that he needs to calm down tell him to try and be a little less attached in return show some affection to him and tell him you love him when hes getting a bit too clingy but just dont start getting angry with him over it and frustrated as it makes things worse you need to be understanding http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-300775 2009-07-18 20:25:25 hunnie thats called obsession, something i've dealt with time and time again. when they begin injuring themselves you need to warn some sort of authority. when you end the relationship (if you choose to) you need to distance yourself from him, DO NOT become friends after this, as he will try to fix the relationship. carving the letters though... hes clearly unstable... be safe ok' http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-299497 2009-07-10 00:09:06 No way this is NOT normal whatsoever!!! You should get out before it gets extra cooky. Good Luck! ~Peace~ http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-298761 2009-07-06 18:34:42 This guy sounds mildly psychotic, he's way too needy and possessive, people like this are dangerous, you should dump him. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-298234 2009-07-04 04:36:15 PS - he doesn't love you. He's using you. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-296989 2009-06-26 05:27:53 Unhealthy - & nuts! He's turning his problems into yours. Bail. He needs to own his own problems & get help. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-296988 2009-06-26 05:26:21 i wish my bf was like that. Im in the same situation, only that im the one that is too attached. Im 18, hes 21 and we lived together for 5 months. Dont hurt him, he'll be devastated. He loves u only so much... http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-296986 2009-06-26 05:20:24 This is not a healthy situation. I would say just leave, but because he actually carved his skin, it seems like it could be dangerous. Talk to someone you trust or get some advice from an abuse clinic in your area.Seriously. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-294885 2009-06-11 17:06:10 Honey get rid of him and leave the state. He will stalk you if you stay. Those letters he likes carving my be his on you when your dead. That,s no joke.One or both of you needs a job.For your own good and safety please get out. It will only get worse. Good luck http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-288633 2009-04-24 13:33:45 You can't actually think it's healthy to be in a relationship like that, can you' Imo, the guy needs counselling if he's carving the letters of her name into his arm any time they argue, apart from anything else that's just straight out emotional blackmail, and it's not fair on the person recieving it. andrian007 is right, she can try to help him through his issues, but if he can't change it's not fair to expect her to put up with that kind of behaviour. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-286863 2009-04-11 10:59:32 This is not normal at all. Even married couples are not like that. He needs to give you a little bit of space and he needs to understand that If he doesn't, issue him an ultimatum. If he still doesn't understand, leave him. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-286805 2009-04-10 09:59:20 He's most likely born in July "my educated guess"... Yes, that's normal. Trust me. He loves you, so so so much. He's a great guy I'm sure. And too many people treat him like dirt, he's so thankful to have you in his life and he just wants nothing more than for the both of you to be happy. You should think that's amazing that he wants to do that, you may find it weird, but it's just his way of showing you how much he loves you, maybe he just doesn't know how to do it any other way. There's no such thing as someone loving someone else too much, unless the other person doesn't love them that way. Then I would say break up with him, gl with dealing with him. He's going to be devastated and it will basically ruin his life. http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-286458 2009-04-06 21:12:19 No, that's really not normal, if my partner was like that I wouldn't be in a relationship with him. That amount of clinginess isn't healthy for your relationship, you'll just end up resenting him and breaking up. Have you talked to him about this' http://isitnormal.com/story/boyfriend-a-little-too-attached-27900/#comment-286074 2009-04-02 15:17:05