Boyfriend Biting and Pinching me

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If this has just started happening after three years that's quite worrying, do you have any idea what might have started this kind of behavior?

If I was you I would sit down and explain that you won't tolerate this kind of behavior and because of it you would like to take some time apart to think about the relationship.

This way you get a chance to see if he makes any kind of effort to get back with you after that duration of time (so you will know if he still likes you) and you get to sit and think about the situation with a clear head.

As for how long the break should be anything short of two weeks and it's really not worth the effort I would recommend a month, sounds like a long time but if he's the right person for you he will wait.

During your time in the break spend a lot of time with friends and go out as much as you can sitting at home depressed wont help you decide what you want and being out might help you find the special someone you didn't even know you where looking for.

I hope things work out for you, the alternative being that girl in sunglasses and a scarf mid summer I would not wish that on anyone...

Thanks for your comment about my biting boyfriend! although i no he dosnt mean and want to hurt me when he bites me (well i hope not)

but from what your saying kind of sounds like my ex. we were really good friends for years and when we got together after awhile he would poke me hard and pinch me until i done what he wanted. he used to get quite verbaly abusive too and when he saw that he couldn't upset me by what he was saying he would pinch harder. he ended up kicking me and bruising my leg because i got a text from a male friend. i havnt seen or spoken to him for about 10 months now but i know its for the best as he prob would of ended up getting worse.

id say nip it in the bud now and let him know your not going to put up with it anymore. the longer you let him do it the worse it will get and the harder for you to stop him

good luck xx

Sounds like a deranged little fellow! I'd dump the little turd.

when he "makes you" do things, that is an abusive relationship, end of story. if he won't listen to you and instead demands that you do things, is this really a guy you want to be with? i would seriously rethink getting engaged.

Umm, sounds like a bit of a abusive relationship to me.

Or at least the start of one.

Pops your toes?

I would calmly tell him, (probably with some people around so if he freaks out on you, you're not alone) that you need to consider your relationship and that you should see other people for the time being.

See what happend after that, and then maybe get back together with him.

ur only 19 and almost engaged? wow thats cute...just like 3 more years and ill be on the same page as u...yeah i say just talk with him because you seem really in love and its hard to let go of someone...

When chris started acting different all of a sudden, it was because he was on drugs. I ASK him to bite me though... he almost always forgets :(

unless u liek being abused dump him

heyy sounds like my ex too, i think everyones done little TJ some point in time... and thats
exactly it a cheater with a fucked up relationship, is probably whats gonna happen to you to.. believe you me im still on the hunt for AANYONE who has gotten in the way of our relationship in the past relashionship in the past. so be careful hunni and in the future when you see the man you love you'll see it fo shaw! cuz he seems like the cheating type, but who knows

i think, deep down, you already know the answer.
i'm not telling you whether you should ditch the guy or not, but if you decide to stick w/ him (and are planning on marrying him no less), you guys need to set boundaries. if this guy is hurting you, and you don't like it, tell him. if he's not okay w/ you not liking it, then you probably shouldn't be with him. he sounds a little abusive right now, but if you can solve your problems w/ him now, then you could possibly be saving yourself from an overpowering, belittling marriage later.

Ummm yeah this is not exactly a normal relationship. He seriously sounds like a sadist from the way your putting it. This, to me, does not sound like a healthy relationship. Personally you could find better people. And think about it! Your going to be married to someone who likes to put you through pain, it could escelade to something worse if you stay.

HES ABUSIVE!! dump him!! it will only get worse.

Some guys like to scratch...but if you don't like i and you've told him, then it's abuse imo

Honestly Hun. I have and was in an abusive relationship.
As i am young now.
I can Garuntee you this will turn into an abusive relationship. The begining of relationships are always sweet as sugar. But let me tell you when it comes to developing thats when there true colors coming out and i learned the hard way zebras dont change there stripes like my mother says and she told me to leave him and i continued to stay with him and now i'm no longer with him. He begged me for 2 years to go back with him and i knew i took him back too many times. He promised he would change and treat me gentle. & yes there was times when he was so gentle then it turned physical again and i never let a man hit me and me not hit back. Now you have the potential to let him go if threatening to leave him doesn't work then leave him. Do it for yourself. Love should be gentle and sweet and never hurt in any way.

Dump him. He is an abuser. If he is this bad now, marry him. You will be dead within a year.

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