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But she'll be homeless.
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I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. We have been together for 2 years, and she's only worked for about 5 months during that time. I met her when she was 17, and when she turned 18 we got a place together.

She was under guardianship because she's been abandoned by her family since she was 12, so if I kicked her out, she would literally have nowhere to go, and she doesn't really know anybody around here. So she would literally be on the streets with the clothes on her back.

It's getting harder and harder for me to just survive with the expenses that we incur just by eating, renting, and using electricity. I feel like I'm getting more and more pissed as time goes by because she isn't bringing in any income.

The recent state of the economy isn't helping either, there is 11 percent unemployment in the county we live in, and we don't have a car. I'm just so confused as to what to do, I work all the time, and I feel like I'm never going to have anything to show for it because I'm taking care of her.
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Comments (19)
goathammer (12956)
2009-01-21 06:44:41
is she giving you sex? why wont she get a job? any job? She sounds like my ex wife.
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Shaka_Zulu (3938)
2009-01-22 14:50:55
have you tried to sit down with her & explain how you're feeling about this? if she loves you, & you show her how much this is frustratin you she'd try harder to & do something about it.
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replicator (19836)
2009-03-24 21:26:40
Put her to work man.

The thing is that is very hard to find a job right now, so there are more people in this situation, even families with children. If you feel attraction one for each other you should stay together.
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BrightEyes (21252)
2009-03-25 06:51:08
I agree with above posters, try to talk to her. She's young but must understand that everyday life doesn't run on dreampower. Work must be done.

I understand not being able to find a job right away but there must be something. Local Taco Bell, maybe? Anyway, if she refuses to even look, I say she should be put on the street, at least for a while. It'll do her some good.
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ven067 (21694)
2009-04-14 18:32:35
You should really talk to her about this.
If you put it off you could BOTH end up on the streets. And if she doesnt understand then I think you'll have to ask her to leave but..sending her to the streets is just too harsh of a breakup. I'm really not sure about this one...
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ghost101 (21974)
2009-04-14 18:57:04
If you really love each other find a way to make things work. Think of 10 years from now when everything is different. Can you accept the decision of ending a relationship over finances?

If you can, then it's your decision to make. Just don't make it based on a rash decision just to regret it years from now.

There's always a way to make it.
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MrChimpo (22020)
2009-04-17 21:21:39
You should tell her that the end of a rainbow lands right in front of the house. Then when she goes outside to see it you slam the door shut, lock it, close the windows, pull down the blinds, and from that point on act as if you've never met her in your entire life. Sorry mam, you must be mistaking me for someone else, I have never seen you before? If she hangs around too long waiting fr you to "quit the act" just call the cops and insist she is crazy and you don't know her.

Problem Solved!
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-04-18 05:58:25
She's quite young and so are you probably. It might be time for both of you to move on. Other posters are right - you 2 need to have a big and serious talk and make some decisions about your relationship.

You are also right: one would have to be a real prick to toss her out when she has no support, & heartless considering the rejection she must have experienced as a child. But you can separate amicably and fairly if that is what you decide.
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RumpRanger1969 (22527)
2009-04-30 14:59:26
Sit her down and talk to her, tell her how you feel, she can't read your mind. I will bet however that she knows how you feel all ready. My Ex's family did the same thing and after being maried for a few months I knew why! When all else fails run!
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housecat (22932)
2009-06-16 11:15:23
Yeah, don't let your feelings fester under the surface. Talk to her level-headedly and find a solution.
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Chess1234566789 (25394)
2009-07-10 23:39:56
Just ask her to try to find a job. Though, realize that when she does try that it might take months for her to actually find a job. Finding a job is a full-time job in itself.
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msobvious (26742)
2009-08-06 21:44:55
You need to sit down and tell her how you feel, and tell her she has GOT to work or you'll BOTH be homeless. Simply STOP paying for things for her...if she wants a new dress, or make-up or a latte...say "sorry, I can't afford it" (and say "I" ) make her realize how you're feeling...it's called "resentment"..and it's a relationship killer...but, by your tone, I think you're already there....
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blackdove (28194)
2009-09-07 14:31:17
You should talk to her, she might not be able to see you're stressed out. Has she been good to you? If she is actively looking for a job, I don't think you should blame her because it's getting harder to find jobs nowadays. But if she's just waiting for you and EXPECTING you to support the both of you, then you need to wake her up. If she's buying things that aren't necessary, cut them from her expenses.

If you're still struggling, have her take out loans. She will pay them back when she finds a job. Just because you're her bf doesn't mean you should downsize your living and carry her burden.
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joliegems (28460)
2009-09-16 19:29:23
Dress her up nice at nice and drive her around the bad part of town. Mak her get out and ho. Tell her if she doesn't want to ho again then she better get a real job.
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MissTrademark2317 (28553)
2009-09-20 15:44:29
Tell her how you feel. Tell her that she needs to go out and get a job or you guys can't live together. If she doesn't, or "looks" (as in, she pretends to go look but never seems to find a job. conveniently.) then tell her that she needs to move out. Maybe this will get your point across and give her the date that she needs to be out by. If she doesn't get a job in this time, or an apartment, then you're going to have to break out the lawyers.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-10-12 08:13:01
@: Ollieo
Oh ya - 1 other thing. Don't have children. Use birth control YOU have control over (i.e. condoms).
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nothing2 (29013)
2009-10-15 19:13:48
you could be broke and alone thats worse
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dagod (30070)
2009-10-20 11:18:53
you say she was abandonned at 12. well she probally trying to make up for that time with you. she might need some conseling. you got to consider the fact she might not of had the chance to mature properly and she might not feel capable or have the confidence to behave like a normal adult.
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blackeye (30247)
2009-10-25 05:54:53
Talk to her! Seriously! She should be responsible for her actions, throwing her out would be too cruel!
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