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Can't have a close female friend without wanting them.
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Okay, this is perhaps the biggest cause of concern for me, and has been for the past couple of years.

Here's the story:
So, I'm a very outgoing and social person, so making friends isn't really that difficult for me. However, when I make a female friend, and I become close friends with them, I can't get them out of my head! I have a girlfriend of many years, and I know that she is the one. I don't want to be thinking of these other girls this way, but I can't stop my thoughts! They take control of me and drop me into a deep depression, because I fear that I will do something to hurt my relationship with my girlfriend.

You have to understand, I really love her, and I seriously want to marry this girl. But, these sexual thoughts WON'T STOP! It's killing me here!

I need to know-
1. Is it normal to think of close female friends this way?
2. How can I stop thinking this way so that I CAN have a close female friend?


Thank you for listening.
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Comments (4)
notTHEman (29778)
2009-10-13 22:03:26
i feel this way too
just keep ur hands to yourself (or on ur girl)is the best advice i can give
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Kat444 (27378)
2009-10-13 22:45:16
This is normal. I'm in the exact same situation, only I'm a girl. I'm currently engaged, and love my fiance very much and I'm excited to be getting married to him. But honestly, I fall in love with almost all my guyfriends at least a little. It's hard sometimes, but I just keep the thoughts to myself and don't do anything about it. I think it's natural. I know my fiance probably thinks about other women sometimes too, so I don't begrudge him that. As long as you remain faithful and it doesn't drive you too crazy, you can still have close female friends.
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Nic1028 (29802)
2009-10-14 11:22:56
I had the same problem but every since I found my "one and only" it doesn't happen that often anymore. I guess...it was just infatuation....i guess it's the same for you to. And in my opinion...it is kinda acceptable.
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PiAnt (29797)
2009-10-16 09:03:37
Yes, it's perfectly normal.

You feel a very strong attraction to people (girls), who become close to you. It is academic that the thoughts become sexual.

It's only natural, as sex is an act in which we can be the closest to another as we can be, that we have such thoughts about those whom we allow to get so close to us.

Don't let it get you down when you have these thoughts; they're only natural. You know when and when not it is appropriate to act on such thoughts.
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